Post # 1
So given some of the responses I got on my thread re: my SO’s anxiety of our mismatched libidos, I’m curious, how often do you and your SO have sex in a TYPICAL week? I have a poll but also post and add how old you and SO are and how long you have been together…
Also, I’m talking specifically intercourse so as to not confuse things…
ETA: Also, this poll is for those who have sex with their SOs as opposed to those who are abstinent/waiting for marriage. I think that’s a completely separate issue than what we’re getting at here…
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
FH just turned 24 & I’m almost 23. We’ve been together for 3.5 years [& sexually active for most of that time haha] & have sex a good 3-5 times a week on average.
Post # 4
3 – 5 times a week average some weeks we do everyday some weeks we do once or twice just depends on our schedule ut the average is 3 – 5 I’m the one with the higher libido he can go for ages without but he’s game everytime I am.
Post # 5
Twice a week. Were both 26. We’ve been together for 2 years and though we hooked up from the night we met through the first year we held off for a year waiting for the wedding. Were back to twice a week now.
Post # 6
DH and I have been together for almost 7 years. I’m 25, he’s a year older. If we’re talking coitus only, we average 4-5x/week. But with other stuff, 6.
Post # 7
11 years. He’s 27, I’m 26.
About 2 – 3 times a week average depending on my cycle/libido. Sometimes once sometimes more than once a day.
Post # 8
FI works nights, so we only are both in bed at the same time on the weekends. So we’re Friday, Saturday, Sunday usually.
Post # 9
I’m 24; He’s 28. We used to have sex quite often, but some stressors in our life and other things here and there have halted our sex life. I please him as much as I can, but we’re both understanding when it comes to this. Before all those problems, I’d say at least 3-5 times a week.
Post # 10
I can’t even vote because we’re all over the place. Recently, we got busy five days in a row, then skipped six or seven. We often have issues with being in the mood at the same time so we usually aren’t doing it as much as we’d like because our libidos just won’t line up!
Post # 11
I am 27, he 33. Both healthy.
Been together over 5 years.
5 times a week would be our average when it comes to just intercourse. Libidos match.
Do we have those weeks where it is less? Sure.
Do I think 2-3 times a week is unusual? Not at all. If anything, it is pretty common.
Post # 12
We are both 27; we’ve been together a little over 4 1/2 years. On a typical week, probably 2-3 times? If we’re both really stressed out or busy, it might be only once…but other weeks it might be every day or multiple times a day.
Post # 13
I’m 26, he’s 35. We’ve been together for four years. 2-3x/month 🙂
Post # 14
I’m 28, FI is turning 50 this year, and we average once a day. Sometimes more, sometimes less. We’re LDR so we make the best of the time we have together, but even when we have longer stretches together, it’s still about once a day.
My response to your other post is based on my own experience; it doesn’t matter how much I “want” to have sex if I leave it till the end of a long day. Embracing intimacy at all times of the day (the earlier the better) will make you feel more sexual throughout the whole day. Even if one or both of you isn’t getting to completion… even if you only have 10 minutes… even if you kinda don’t feel like it… having that connection with your partner is a major part of what sets your relationship apart from every other relationship in your life.
ETA: We’ve been together 2 yrs.
Post # 15
I’m 27, FI is 31, been together 6 years. FI and I don’t live together, and I think when we do it will go up just because we’ll have more time together. We work opposite schedules now, so it’s usually once or twice a week.
Post # 16
@beeanonembarassed: I personally think it’s a mistake to only count intercourse as sex. It puts a very narrow definition to what sexuality should be defined as. Also, for many women, PIV sex does not produce feelings of pleasure like it does for a man–so why should that be the “gold standard” for setting a healthy sex life?