(Closed) Spinoff of my own thread: How often do you and your SO have sex?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: In a TYPICAL week, how often do you and SO have sex (intercourse)?
    rarely... more like once or twice a month : (62 votes)
    17 %
    once : (83 votes)
    23 %
    two or three time : (110 votes)
    30 %
    three or four times : (64 votes)
    17 %
    five or six times : (25 votes)
    7 %
    every day (7 times) : (7 votes)
    2 %
    multiple times a day (more than 7 times a week) : (7 votes)
    2 %
    other (specify) : (8 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

    FH just turned 24 & I’m almost 23.  We’ve been together for 3.5 years [& sexually active for most of that time haha] & have sex a good 3-5 times a week on average.

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    3 – 5 times a week average some weeks we do everyday some weeks we do once or twice just depends on our schedule ut the average is 3 – 5 I’m the one with the higher libido he can go for ages without but he’s game everytime I am.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Twice a week. Were both 26. We’ve been together for 2 years and though we hooked up from the night we met through the first year we held off for a year waiting for the wedding. Were back to twice a week now.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    DH and I have been together for almost 7 years. I’m 25, he’s a year older. If we’re talking coitus only, we average 4-5x/week. But with other stuff, 6.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    11 years.  He’s 27, I’m 26.

    About 2 – 3 times a week average depending on my cycle/libido. Sometimes once sometimes more than once a day.

    Post # 8
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    FI works nights, so we only are both in bed at the same time on the weekends. So we’re Friday, Saturday, Sunday usually.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m 24; He’s 28.  We used to have sex quite often, but some stressors in our life and other things here and there have halted our sex life.  I please him as much as I can, but we’re both understanding when it comes to this.  Before all those problems, I’d say at least 3-5 times a week. 

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I can’t even vote because we’re all over the place. Recently, we got busy five days in a row, then skipped six or seven. We often have issues with being in the mood at the same time so we usually aren’t doing it as much as we’d like because our libidos just won’t line up!

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I am 27, he 33. Both healthy.

    Been together over 5 years.

    5 times a week would be our average when it comes to just intercourse. Libidos match.

    Do we have those weeks where it is less? Sure.

    Do I think 2-3 times a week is unusual? Not at all. If anything, it is pretty common.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We are both 27; we’ve been together a little over 4 1/2 years. On a typical week, probably 2-3 times? If we’re both really stressed out or busy, it might be only once…but other weeks it might be every day or multiple times a day.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m 26, he’s 35. We’ve been together for four years. 2-3x/month 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m 28, FI is turning 50 this year, and we average once a day. Sometimes more, sometimes less.  We’re LDR so we make the best of the time we have together, but even when we have longer stretches together, it’s still about once a day.  

    My response to your other post is based on my own experience; it doesn’t matter how much I “want” to have sex if I leave it till the end of a long day.  Embracing intimacy at all times of the day (the earlier the better) will make you feel more sexual throughout the whole day.  Even if one or both of you isn’t getting to completion… even if you only have 10 minutes… even if you kinda don’t feel like it… having that connection with your partner is a major part of what sets your relationship apart from every other relationship in your life.  

    ETA: We’ve been together 2 yrs.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m 27, FI is 31, been together 6 years. FI and I don’t live together, and I think when we do it will go up just because we’ll have more time together. We work opposite schedules now, so it’s usually once or twice a week.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @beeanonembarassed:  I personally think it’s a mistake to only count intercourse as sex.  It puts a very narrow definition to what sexuality should be defined as.  Also, for many women, PIV sex does not produce feelings of pleasure like it does for a man–so why should that be the “gold standard” for setting a healthy sex life?

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