Post # 1
I know that a lot of ladies on here have multiple wedding bands, eg a fancy one which matches their e-ring and a plain one when they need something more practical. It’s obviously a popular choice and it’s great that it works for them.
However, for me personally, I think you can only really have one “wedding ring”, that is, the one you got married with. Nothing else can have that symbolism. (I feel the same about engagement rings – but that’s another topic.)
We’ll be using the Church of England ceremony wording which includes, “with this ring I thee wed”. For me, it’s very important that I wear the exact ring which has such an important place in our ceremony. Does anyone feel the same way?
I admit that I attach a lot of symbolism to the object and I’m sure many bees will have a different opinion on that point.
What’s your take?
Post # 3
Its important to me that my wedding band will never come off. My Mum has worn hers every day for 36 years now, it’s engraved, but the pattern has nearly worn off. I love that fact, I love that it shows the years and how far they have come. My parents are better off now than when they got engaged, she could have a bigger, more expensive ring, but hers shows where they were when they were engaged, its a symbol and she will never change it. She wears it every, single, day. Dad has bought her other rings since that she wears on other fingers, but her wedding finger has those same two rings always.
I am going to be just the same. Love the symbolism.
Post # 4
I never thought I’d be so conventional about this but yes, I only have one wedding ring and that’s the one that DH put on my finger on my wedding day. We had a civil ceremony and he opted to include the extra wording “I give you this ring as a reminder of the promises I have made to you this day. May you wear it with love now and always”. That really got to me that did and I take his vows very seriously. My wedding ring is not an accessory that I want to change according to my outfit!
So yes, while I am hoping for an anniversary ring (DH is not a well man and reaching our anniversary itself will be wonderful) this won’t be another wedding band. It will be worn with the original.
Post # 5
@Audrey2: I’m having two wedding bands; a custom-made shaped platinum and diamond band to match my engagement ring, and then a 2mm plain polished palladium band to wear when I can’t/don’t want to wear my proper set (eg diving, zip lining, travelling around certain places, etc). I would like both to be incorporated into the ceremony somehow.
Post # 6
“One ring to rule them all”, but our gold bands didnt last more than 12 years since we’re SO hard on them and never took them off. Now we have them safely put away, bought others, and we both switch out between different rings. I miss the symbolism of the actual ring we were married with, but time marches on and not everything stays the same.
Post # 7
@LilLis: My parents and grandparents have always worn the same rings too 🙂
@Steampunkbride: Best wishes to your husband. Those are lovely words from your vows.
@barbie86: I like the idea of including both in the ceremony, I do think that will make them both special.
@crescent: That is a good point that you can’t rely on always being able to wear your ring 🙁 It’s good you still have them safe.
Post # 8
@Steampunkbride: I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. I have seen in other threads that you have mentioned that he is ill. I’ll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 9
I feel that my marriage (or my future marriage, my current engagement) is not defined by or “bound to” one object, whether it’s a ring or something else. If something were to happen to my ring my relationship wouldn’t change, and to me that’s all that matters. I intend to have several bands/sets and wear whatever I want whenever I want, and I won’t make me any less “married” as a result. My FI also plans to have at least two different wedding bands (different metals) to wear as he sees fit for the same reason.
Post # 10
@MrsMittansJohnson: +1. The rings, while not irrelevant to me, are just symbols. They come off often and I’ve switched wedding bands a couple times. My MARRIAGE, however, is rock solid and is not going anywhere, lol.
My FIL has never worn a wedding band in his 36 years of marriage. My dad’s original band got dented and he’s been wearing a replacement for the last 10 of their 35 years of marriage. My mom had her original e-ring remade into a 3-stone after ten years together and she’s worn that for about twenty years.
My point being – things happen; people’s tastes sometimes change in jewelry. Has nothing to do with the relationship IMO – THAT is the only thing that is enduring, and that is the only thing that matters. I’ve been (quite happily) married for over 9 years, and I very well might change up my ring set a bunch more times, especially if I get pregnant and they don’t fit. Such is life. 🙂
Post # 11
@MrsMittansJohnson: That’s a fair point. I don’t mean to sound superstitious about the rings; I certainly don’t think anyone’s marriage is jinxed if they don’t wear their wedding ring. I just feel that, for as long as I have mine, I should wear that ring, because the symbolism is important to me – plus extras if I want to, but no other ring instead of my wedding ring.
Post # 12
My wedding ring was chosen for me like my engagement ring. That means I’ve ended up with an ering and diamond-set wedding ring that are a total carat weight of 1.75 which is large by UK standards and definitely enormous in the field that I am going into. In fact, that kind of bling would be professionally inappropriate, therefore I will not wear my ering or wedding ring when I am working in that environment. My fiance has bought me a vintage lightly engraved extremely narrow platinum band with no stones. I would guess the platinum band is 1 to 1.5mm.
I will only ever have 1 engagement ring and 1 wedding ring. But my fi wants me to wear a ring at all times. I will wear that plain band to work and that’s the only time I’ll wear it on that hand.
Absolutely everyone I know has 1 ering and 1 wedding ring and I assumed I’d have the same. Unfortunately my fi chose my ring with my mum who works in the fashion industry and wears nearly 6 cts to work everyday so she thought .75 was extremely conversative bordering on the insufficient. Not one of them considered that I will be working with people living on the poverty line and what it would mean if I rocked up with that kind of jewellery on.
I’ve never heard of switching out sets or customising looks in terms of bridal ring sets until I came on the Bee although I love the idea of it, I am sentimental and I want only one set.
Post # 13
I have one wedding band and will wear it every day for the rest of my life. However, I think anniversary bands are a nice idea and I would have no problem with that.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@Audrey2: One ring to rule them all, one ring to bind them, one ring to lose when cleaning, never again to find them.
Seriously though, too many rings is just asking for trouble with me. My mum let me have the eternity ring my dad got her for their first anniversary, and it fell out of my pocket when I was doing the dishes never to be seen again. 🙁
Post # 15
@Audrey2: I only have one set, but if my job dictated, I’d Have no problem getting another.
i also take off my rings at home, when I’m gardening, etc. I’m not any less married, and to me, it’s just not practical to leave them on 24/7. Plus, I have to take them off to get inspected and cleaned. The symbolism isn’t lost if I have to take it off for any reason.
its a romantic notion to never remove the wedding band, but it’s not practical in my opinion.
Post # 16
Uno for me. “There can only be one.” 🙂