Post # 1
There’s a sweet thread about online dating success stories. Over 30% of relationships result from online dating these days. But, they aren’t all winners. Share some horror stories, either your own or from someone you know.
My good friend met a cute, charming guy on Plenty of Fish. They texted, talked on the phone, and met up several times and did some…adult things. Well, turns out he was VERY newly married! We didn’t find out until we tracked him down on Facebook. He had claimed he didn’t have a Facebook profile. She confronted him and he blocked her.
Another friend of mine met several guys who claimed to want to have a relationship but were obviously just looking for a friend with benefit. She is currently seeing a guy right now. They hang out about 5 times a week, have sex, text all the time, and act like they’re a couple. But, he “isn’t ready” and “doesn’t like labels” but also insists they are more than FWBs and may date in the future. Scumbag, if you ask me.
Post # 2
oh boy… where to start… I should point out that I met FI on Match- but I stil ended up with a LOT of rough stories!
I had many guys who lied on their profiles which I found out about after researching… on elied about having a child! Uh, that’s kind of a big deal…
Another invited me out on an outing with his friends and by the end of the night it was pretty clear he was going home with another girl in the group.
One casually mentioned that his (very recent) ex was a little psycho to the point of stalking him all over the city and showing up at his door at random hours of the night.
The worst was I had one who ended up being pretty stalker-ish. He invited himself over to my friend’s house one night and basically had to be told to leave at the end of the night. We seriously kept saying “wow, it’s getting late…” and he didn’t get the hint. Plus he smelled a little and left sweat marks on my friend’s couch.
Then I had to cancel our next date because I was sick (honestly!) and he started forcing me to give him my address so he could bring me soup. Hi, we just met, and you’re starting to scare me.
To top it off he left something at my friend’s house on purpose so that I’d have to return it to him. I’m not stupid I brought it over when I knew he’d be at work and reported him to Match. Ha.
The best was probably though when out of curiosity we started searching for “men looking for men” and found a friend who we (and his family) did not know was gay… whoops.
Post # 3
countingstars: I didnt date online, but one of my coworkers was on plenty of fish for about 3 weeks and said FUCK IT! and deleted it yesterday. He said over the course of those few weeks, he got many messages from women and when he replied, they wouldnt ever reply back. He said it was like a game to them apparently, & he went on one date & they had an amazing time– then she never called and wont answer his calls. Lame. He really wants to settle down but he said its not worth the headache. I know my mom who was divorced after 32 years, it took her 5 years of online dating and about 20 douchebags to get to her now husband. Many many tears and being stood up on dates. It was awful to watch. I think you can find amazing love online, but theres a lot of weirdos to wade through to get there.
Post # 4
Your poll is missing some options — what about trying online dating with some success, but just not sticking with that path?
I met a great guy that way, even though we weren’t together very long. Totally worth being sent a few random, unimpressive peen shots (NOT from him).
Post # 5
I met my FI on OKCupid, i was signed up for 2 weeks when I started talking to him. I met one other dude before him who was a weirdo.
We agreed to go on a date and meet at a bar. When I got there he buys me a drink and not himself one, I asked him if he needed a drink and he said he couldn’t have one because he was on probation for THREE DWI’s, he had lost his license. It was a bar that only served alcohol, no food, so it was a little awkward. i also discovered on the date that he was missing half of one of his two front teeth, and he had clearly picked the most flattering selfies he had of himself for his profile because he barely looked like the same guy. Ironically he brought up his own online dating horror story of meeting a woman who looked nothing like her pics, I was like “o rly now?”. After the date he texted me right away and constantly and I had to explain to him I didn’t think he was a great romantic match for me, he continued to bother me for the next two weeks and I just ignored his texts and calls. Luckily I was really smart with online dating and never gave my last name because he stalked my OKC profile until I met my FI and deleted it.
Post # 6
Unfathomably: sounds like a guy I had met on okcupid a few years ago. This guy asked me to meet him at a bar near my house. He bought me a few drinks and actually got pretty hammered himself. Turns out he frequents this bar almost EVERY night, its within walkng distance of his home (his parents attic lol), and he walks to the bar because he’s had FOUR dui’s and has a blower and awaiting a court date. I stopped talking to him cuz he creeped me out n looked nothing like his picture. I don’t doubt he did goto jail. Lol
Post # 7
I was way lucky to meet FI in my first craigslist dating foray. However, there were also a lot of weird responses, the best of which I saved for future laughs. People have bad grammar and spelling! There was also a normal-sounding guy that I politely emailed to say I wasn’t interested, and he replied with some very sexually explicit content. WTF! I never got any penis pictures from anyone though.