SPINOFF: "push presents" – awesome or awful?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Push presents...
    Are never obnoxious! A woman should get/deserves a push present. : (52 votes)
    16 %
    Could be obnoxious if the woman asks for/specifies the gift. : (147 votes)
    46 %
    Are always obnoxious! Why do you need a gift after giving birth? : (111 votes)
    35 %
    Obligatory "Other" : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @gingerkitten:  I had never heard of this concept until the bee. However, my sister’s husband is currently desiging some custom jewellery for her. He wants to give it to her after she gives birth to their twins. I don’t think he even knows what a “push present” is and she actually thought he was cheating on her because of how secretive he was being (I made a thread about it).

    I would never ask for one, but if my husband wanted to give me something nice after I gave birth to commemorate the moment then I wouldn’t complain. I don’t want a reward or trophy for it, but something meaningful to the moment would be sweet. My sister loves shiny things so I know that she will be thrilled with her gift. Her e-ring is custom made too. She’s spoiled.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think the baby is gift enough. But it is a nice gesture for the mother to get a little something to show she’s appreciated. I think a lot of times the gift is just too extravagant, like a huge rock or something. I’d be happy with a trip to the day spa after things settle down a bit with the baby.

    Post # 5
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    4216 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think the father giving the mother something sentimental like a locket or something to commemorate the day they became parents is a nice gesture. Buying her a prada bag? I don’t know, not really my thing. 

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @gingerkitten:  I had not heard of this until Jay Cutler got Kristen Cavallari a Birken Bag as a push present…LOL and I was like ‘Oh that’s a thing?’

    I could see a man becoming so excited/overwhelmed with happiness and maybe wanting to make a big deal out of it. 

    With all gifts, I think it’s tacky when people SPECIFY what they should get, I mean, sorta takes the meaning out of it doesn’t it?

    Post # 7
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    2973 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @gingerkitten:  I only heard of this while my friend had on one of those “Real Housewifes of BS” shows – and my jaw dropped. 

    She wanted a Rolls Royse or Bentley or something as ridiculous for her push present. The husband obliged. I…just…can’t. 

    Isn’t the “push present” that cute little baby you actually push??? 

    ETA: If my FH decided he wanted to get me a little something as a “thanks hon, you did awesome! I love you”. Yeah, sure. But putting a name to it & demanding it? No. 

    Post # 8
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    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I think it is a nice gesture for the dad to give a gift that basically says “Hey I am sure labour was hard, here’s a pretty thing for you! Good job honey!”

    I would not flat out ASK for one, and I also wouldn’t be really disappointed like I was secretly expecting one if I didn’t get one either! As long as DH actually says at some point “I appreciate you spending the last nine months growing a human and pushing said human OUT of your body because I can’t”, then I will be happy. Ok probably not in those exact words!!!!!!!!! But you know 😛

    Post # 9
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

    It’s a strange concept to me…and DEFINITELY obnoxious when the woman asks for it.

    If the baby is something they both want (which, in my opinion, it should be) then the gift is a little lopsided. I’m not big on gifts to begin with…so maybe that’s just me.

    Also, perhaps the fact that I first saw it on RHONJ plays a role in my disdain.

    Post # 10
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    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s kinda silly. I’m in the camp that my baby is my “reward” for giving birth.. the last thing on my mind are the gifts I should get in addition. lol

    Something sentimental is different…but a pricey gift for birthing a baby is a bit much.

    Post # 11
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    4760 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I hate that they are called “push presents!”  Isn’t it much better to get a “you’re a new mommy” present?

    Post # 13
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    2325 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @gingerkitten:  I think they’re just weird, and creepy, and I do not like them. The name alone annoys me. However, the idea of a husband giving his wife something to symbolize the birth like the baby’s initial on something is cute, but a random luxury gift? Why? I also think the husband is equally entitled to a gift to commemorate the birth if the wife expects it too. Just because the woman does the pushing, doesn’t mean the man isn’t going to endure a whole hell of a lot through that and the parenting process as a whole!

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