(Closed) Spinoff: Registering for a housewarming party?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think about housewarming registries?
    Sure why not. I would do one or have done one. : (5 votes)
    7 %
    I would never do one but wouldn't judge someone else who did. : (9 votes)
    12 %
    I think they are rude and presumptuous. : (59 votes)
    78 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’m going with rude and presumtuous (to have a registry specifically deemed for that purpose).  But, at the same time, I don’t feel that way about an amazon wish list or some other ongoing registry.

    Post # 4
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m happy to bring a bottle of wine or something fun from CB2 to a housewarming, but I’d absolutely be appalled to be invited to a housewarming where the hosts expect gifts to the point where they’d create a registry. 

    Post # 5
    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d have a problem with a housewarming registry. If someone wants to give you a gift, they certainly can, but registering seems presumptuous. 

    Post # 6
    5663 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Seems totally presumptuous to me. Buying a house was my financial decision, why would it be ok to then ask people to give you stuff? Although I suppose we could argue the same about wedding gifts huh… Haha

    Post # 7
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I voted for the first option. I don’t see any harm with creating a small registry and keeping it quiet. It’s rude to publicize the registry or expect people to buy from it, but I think it’s okay to have one ready in case any close friends or family ask what you want.

    Post # 8
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We had a BBQ when we first moved into our current place and we did not bill it as a housewarming, though many knew we just moved in. We received many bottles of nice wine, some plants, and even a nice cocktail shaker. We definitely didn’t receive money, but we were surprised by the generosity from some of our friends. I can’t imagine throwing a housewarming and expecting gifts (which a registry would imply). Presumably, these are our good friends anyway, so if there was something we “needed”, they would already know. For example, our friend that gave us the cocktail shaker knew we didn’t have one and thought it would be fun to gift us one.

    FWIW, Fiance and I never show up at anything empty-handed. Our hostess gift of choice is usually a nice $20-30 bottle of wine or a nice plant, depending on the occasion.

    Post # 9
    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @lilbluebird:  haha – My first thought when I read the OP was “Yeah, but who registers for wine and houseplants?” That’s what I always take, too.

    Post # 10
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Meowkers:  sounds like we really should’ve had one…. 

    I think I’d feel embarrassed though, honestly. For the same reason I’m not having a wedding shower or engagement party. Not saying anyone else should, I just feel guilty when guests give me gifts for something that’s not a real big deal. 

    Post # 11
    1811 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think it would be kind of rude, but that could just be because I always invite the neighborhood to the housewarming so I can hopefully make some friends in the area.  

    Post # 12
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’m in the “rude and presumptuous” camp.  Around here, housewarming gifts aren’t expected.  Sure, a lot of people show up with a small plant or a bottle of wine, but the idea is just to get together, see the new place, and party.

    Post # 13
    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Very rude…

    Post # 14
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    To be honest I am terrible at picking out gifts. I spend way too much time obsessing over it and trying to find the right thing. I am so relieved when people create a registry for any event. Maybe its rude, but its just so helpful!

    Post # 15
    10565 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would do one just for the discount.  I wouldn’t go around telling anyone about it, but if they searched for it, that’s not my problem.

    Post # 16
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    People seriously go overboard with how much they need. I have housewarmings before, never asked for gifts, never expected them. I never brought a gift, just food or wine.

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