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It's hard to give an answer, because I've never been overweight..so I don't know what it's like to be called those things. I'm sure it's incredibly hurtful. I voted off what I know - it's hurtful to be called anorexic (implying that I starve myself to purposely look this way) when you're not.
yeah, I don't know how we'll be able to answer this is we've never been on the other side.
Gee I have been called both in the past 3 years before and after a car wreck.
I was very thin after my divorce and a therapist was sure I was hiding an eating disorder people constantly nagged me to eat etc - I hated all of the negative attention. I was also asked if I had cancer or aids
I recently posted where I was told by a bridal shop I was too fat to try on any samples. I was in a car wreck in 2008 that the steroids and bed rest caused me to gain 30 pounds that I cannot lose. My back is in constant pain. Even though I am an average size - I am not saying that I am fat - I am trying to say that being called fat hurts alot
Ummm can you put an other because they were both horribly painful and totally inappropriate.
I've been on both sides.... being called fat is way more hurtful, personally.
I wish there was an option for both. As I've dealt with both, they're equally hurtful to me.
My body handles stress by causing my weight to flucuate like crazy. It's never either way on purpose.
Added an "equal" option. Like I said, this is just for my own curiosity. This isn't to start (or perhaps continue) a skinny vs. fat and which is more hurtful debate!
I have been called both. I used to be overweight as a child, and I was completely shunned from my peers. As a new kid, that is also fat, it is never easy. I was ridiculed by family, and by friends. It sucked.
As I grew up I thinned out, and I remember specifically last year after having my son, and breastfeeding, dieting, and working out, I became smaller than I had been in the past years. My best friend said I had no bum, and looked anorexic. Thanks!
To me, the fat comments hurt the most though, even though the anorexic no butt comments did too.
I think that they are both hurtful but I find comments about being overweight / fat to be more hurtful than comments about being skinny.
I was stick thin growing up and finally filled out once reaching my mid-twenties. I used to cry every night about the name calling I'd get from kids at school AND from my family. I tried all the weight gain supplements in high school (which didnt work) as an attempt to gain weight and feel normal, not to mention attractive to boys.
So, to me....any name calling refering to fat OR skinny is HURTFUL. No one wants to feel like an outcast or insecure. The pain from being made fun of stays with you for a long time.
Definitely the fat comments, because it's way less socially acceptable than being too thin. Maybe if I didn't see people like Rachel Zoe and Angelina Jolie all over my tv I'd feel differently.
I’ve never been on the “skinny minnie” side but I can almost guarantee that being called fat is much more hurtful. When people make comments about someone being skinny it’s normally out of jealousy. When there are comments about someone being fat, it’s just meant to be hurtful. If you ask me, there’s no comparison.
I grew up thin... I never even hit 90lbs until I had my son and I had people say horrible things to me and about me. Now I'm fairly heavy and people say horrible things to me still. I've never felt okay about how I look because I got horrible comments on both ends. I think both are definitely EQUALLY painful.
I'm 5ft 11 and 140lbs which means I'm slim/skinny and hate people making comments or asking if I ever eat or weird stuff like that. Random strangers feel brave enough to ask me these things and like I've said before they think its less hurtful than fat comments but its just as hurtful to have people pick a physical attribute and make you feel bad about it. The funny thing is I am actually bigger than I look my hips are 38 inches but because I'm tall people think I'm a stick thin size 0 and assume I starve myself to look like this. Meanwhile I eat tons and cant gain a pound.
In the reverse discrimination thread about affirmative action most people were saying discrimination is bad either way, even affirmative action is bad. so I'm suprised that you all dont feel that making weight comments are equally bad either way.
For some women who are starving , over excercising, diet piling, laxativeing, purging and doing drugs to stay thin- think of a girl who is prominent on a pro-ana site- it would be a compliment to be called a skinny chicken leg anorexic. Thats what they are killing themselves forl
Then there are women on the opposite side of the spectrum, who are also flattered at a heavier weight.
The question is subjective go your own body and experience.
In a perfect world, it wouldn't matter what your height or weight was!
@bells: If I could compare the discrimination argument to the skinny/fat argument, it would be like "It is SO offensive being called whitey! Sure, I face much less discrimination, and just based on my race I have many more opportunities in life, but it HURTS when I get made fun of for listening to rap music!"
To me, there is no question that it hurts much more to be called fat than skinny. If you think about it, very few people TRY to become fat. We just eat what we like, we eat too much, or maybe we don't learn proper portion control or exercise techniques, and then we're fat. The vast majority of women (of any size, honestly) are seemingly on a diet all the time. As a cultrue we strive to be skinny, and we associate slimness with beauty, power, intelligence, etc. Fatness is associated with laziness, gluttony, ugliness. There is really no question who has the shorter end of the stick in this argument. That is not to say that it doesn't hurts girls' feelings to be called anything, but fat is worse, hands down.
LOL, I'm not gonna lie, but If I heard the first... I'd laugh and tell you to f**k off.
@KatyElle: Totally agree.
I've been on both sides, being called fat is WAY worse IMO. I think in our society it implies you lack a standard amount of self-control, you're unhealthy, lazy and unmotivated. Skinny people are anxious, type A, really busy or super athletic.
I also think you need to be MUCH thinner in order to be called "too skinny" and there's a much lower threshold to be called "chubby" or a "fat"--eg, my BMI right now is right smack dab in the middle of "normal". +10lbs from my current weight, just barelly in the "overweight" bmi, i was called fat but when i lost 10lbs from my current weight, most people commented on how great i looked. Even if i lost 20lbs, people would still comment on how great I looked but i'd be in the underweight catagory.
Just my opinion. :-)
The poll question is akin to asking which racial slur is worse.
As someone who has suffered eating disorders in the past, it's confusing to me that anyone else would presume to know what sorts of comments about my body would hurt me more. The implication that what more people experience is the truer experience is off.
I dont know anyone who is aiming to be skinny. People I know are aiming to slender, toned and slim in the right places not to be all over skinny and lose curves in the process. The fashion magazines are always poking fun at models and actresses who are too skinny and the ideal is more and more a beyonce/kim kardash/JLo type figure with decent size butt, hips, flat stomach and nice boobs rather then being skinny like keira knightly
I think its equally mean to say fat jokes or skinny jokes. People shouldnt make comments about other peoples weight, regardless of whether they are thin or thick. its hurtful eitherway.
@littlegraykitten: Totally unrelated, but the kitten in your avatar is SO CUTE!
I think it's time to put this fat vs. skinny debate to bed personally. It's never ok to throw any insult at anyone. If you wouldn't want to hear it about yourself, don't say it to someone else.
There is no way to compare weight discrimination to race discrimination. Last time I checked, no one was murdered or tortured for being skinny or fat .
That's just an argument for argument's sake and not really valid.
I give up. Insults hurt regardless of size.
Seriously. How is this conversation still getting new threads?
People feel how they feel. Making fun of people is rude. Period.
The girls who have never experienced one or the other need to stop chiming in about how awesome it would be to get made fun of for being underweight. You don't know what you are talking about.
@bells: I feel the same way. I am a normal weight for my height but I guess I look longer or something and people are constantly asking me if I eat or whenever I say I'm cold, people will tell me to eat something and get more meat on my bones. I eat very healthy and I exercise regularly, this is the way I'm going to look regardless. It's also really hurtful when your friends mother pulls you aside and asks if you have an eating disorder, even though you are sitting there stuffing your face with french fries.
Neither comment is my answer btw. No, I'd never want to be called fat (esp if I was overweight) but insults are insults all the same.
Equally offensive. Why don't we all just try to be nice to one another?
I think it’s really petty to argue about which is worse. It doesn’t matter. Body snarking is never okay.
Calling someone skinny and anorexic is out of jealousy. Calling someone fat is just plain mean.
@KateByDesign
If you are jealous of people with eating disorders you should seek help.
@houstonlawbride: Last time I checked most people don't purposely call someone anorexic if they hold knowledge that the person is actually anorexic and endangering themselves.
People are called anorexic when they look skinny, not usually implying that they are believed to have an eating disorder.
You know what I meant.
edit: Also, why would you say "you"? Like I'm one of these people?
@KateByDesign: your answer is the reason that all these threads got started!!! Just because someone makes comments about someone else being skinny does NOT mean they are jealous. It means that they are rude and inconsiderate, and they should keep their damn mouth shut. Just like people making fat jokes.
People just need to agree to disagree, regardless of what anyone thinks, calling anyone names for any reason is just as hurtful, regardless of the reason. Think before you speak, and quit talking down about people. IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!! (And the "you" I am speaking of is a general you, not pointing at anyone specifically)
@KateByDesign:
Yes, YOU said that calling someone anorexic was out of jealousy, so I assumed that YOU would do that. How would you know the motivation behind comments other people make?
@Brandiola: What else is it purpose? To prove that more people are overwieght than underweight and therefore more people share that experience?
The whole point it that it doesn't matter what is said, if it's an insult based on weight, it hurts.
I'd rather be welcomed and supported by my own gender no matter what size I am, than anything else.
@MrsSl82be: Your first paragraph is interesting in that I agree and disagree. I think people that make skinny comments are rude and jealous. I think at this snapshot time period in world culture thinness is very prized. Even extreme thinness. People aspire to lose weight and marvel at those that cannot keep it on. But the same people make themselves feel more comfortable by gawking or making unsolicted comments when they see someone with a lil too much space between their thighs. Just my 2 pennies.
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