Sorry, I rambled on a little…. Hopefully somewhere in here I made a point.
I most likely will not be able to be a SAHM (unfortunately, because it’s really a dream of mine). I went to college for education and am a teacher. I was so fortunate to have the help of many scholarship funds and my parents who paid the balance, since I had so many scholarships my parents contributed whatever other money was needed. I also lived at home and worked to pay for a car and other expenses while I was in college. That is not super relevant. Anyway, I do not have student loans.
My husband, on the other hand, does have student loans, yet does not use his degree, not even a little bit. This has less to do with the degree not being able to get him ahead (like majoring in something abstract that doesn’t have a clear cut career path) and more to do with the fact that he chose to major in something that he hates and now we’re both feeling the impact of that, since I have taken on his debt in marriage as we have joint funds, and am helping to pay off studnet loans that went towards a degree that is not being used. (FWIW, the degree is in graphic design and my husband is currently contemplating becoming a licensed mortage broker, so yeah, not even using it in the slightest.)
So, to get back to the question, would I perhaps regret my college choice if I was paying student loans to be a SAHM. NO, not in the least. My mom was never a SAHM, but she has been a single mom since I was 8 and without that college degree (plus her graduate degree and post-graduate hours) she would never have been able to give my sister and I the life that she sacrificed and worked so hard for. I do not forsee a day that I would be in her position, but life is a windy road, and you never know what could happen. Obviously as a teacher I value education, and as a product of a broken home, I value a woman having an education and the ability to support herself with a profession. What I know my husband regrets is having student loans from a degree he doesn’t use.
I guess now that I reflect back on what I’ve written it’s kind of the same thing. My husband has a degree he doesn’t use, and regrets, while a SAHM can also have a degree she doesn’t use. However, I know I would never regret obtaining an education I had to work hard to pay for even if I ended up dedicating my life to my children because I value having the education in and of itself. I think my husband, as a man and someone who wants to be breadwinner, would value having the education that can afford a ceratin lifestyle, not just the education itself. I guess the difference in regret would be having different priorities, me as a mother and him as a ‘head of household’ who wants to be the breadwinner.