- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
After reading through the over 500+ posts of one situation one of our bees is going through (Should I pay his debt, am I being used? Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-pay-his-debt-am-i-being-used/page/13#ixzz2nT55Nrdb), I’m curious if anyone has another “bought lessons” in relationships to share. Hopefully this will be a “fun” exercise to show sometimes there’s a lot of frogs until you get your prince.
I’ll go first.
1) I was in my early 20s dating a “self-professed” single guy in his 40s. We dated for maybe 3 months (maybe), we never went to his house (1st clue) and at the time I was living with family where I couldn’t have company. Either way, we made it work going out to dinner, and eventually hotel rooms. He was always a little short on cash, so he’d buy dinner and I’d pick up the hotel (2nd clue). Things were going great until I started asking questions about “hey why can’t I come over to your place – I’ll make dinner?” since the cost of hotel rooms every weekend was straining on me. He told me some story about having roommates and then told me all about his dreams and goals. Eventually he then asked me for “just 5K” to help him realize his dream so we could be together. (3rd clue). I assure you, I never pulled my panties up so fast, went home, and lost his number. **Whether he was married or not I’ll never know, but I can at least say I dodged a bullet there.
2) One of my girlfriends, met this guy and they were living together for maybe a year. They had a baby and she wanted to buy a house shortly thereafter. Even though he hadn’t been paying rent for months prior, she put his name on the house because they were engaged and “he wouldn’t move into the house unless his name was on it”. So they buy the house, get married, and maybe 6 months later separated/divorced and because she put his name on the house she had to buy him out of the house that he didn’t pay anything for. Basically $150K for signing his name.
3) One of my older cousins, met this guy, thought she was in love (maybe 6-8 months). His car broke down, she cosigned a new one for him. A couple months later, she’s in the car and finds underwear that wasn’t hers in the car. She sold the car back to the dealer at a loss, and spent the next several years living at home and making payments.