Post # 1
This is a spinoff of a recent poll started by another Bee, regarding the importance of the price of the ring to you. I was quite surprised by how many people so far have voted that the price of the ring does indeed matter A LOT to them. So my question Bees…considering that everything is relativ, if you say that price matters, what do you deem an acceptable price for your SO to spend?
For instance, would you think a $3,000 ring is not ‘good enough’? What if you were given an opportunity to get an AMAZING ring (in your opinion) for a greatly reduced price, say $500? Would you think that your FI should spend more? What were your budget expectations going into the ring process, taking into consideration your socio-economic backgrounds and cultural expectations of your family/social group?
This is all completely subjective and has very little to do with money and value but the perceived worth of the e-ring to different individuals. Please let’s not turn this into a snarky post. IMO, having a FI who loves you enough to spend money on a ring that, while great isn’t even necessary to be engaged, makes everyone here a lucky gal.
P.S. Personally, when the time comes, I would LOVE if we could score a great deal. (I love jewellery but the thought of spending that much on a non-necessity is scary)
Post # 3
I would be thrilled with a $500 ring (only because my “promise” ring was a little less than that and I’d like to at least “upgrade” a little bit). I would have preferred to spend under $1K for everything.
However, my SO insists that my engagement ring will be at a minimum $1500. His budget is $3000 for the ring, $4000 for the wedding set total.
Post # 4
Our budget was less than $1000, ruled out the halo ring I always thought I wanted. Love the ring I got thought, I think it was mostly likely a cushion cut vs a cushion with a halo.
Post # 5
Price wise, I had no expectations. I’d rather him get a good deal than not. However, I really wanted something with at least a 3/4ct center stone. To get that, at the time (2009) he had to spend around $2500. He got the whole set on sale for that. (We have upgraded since then though)
Post # 6
I didn’t find out the cost of my ring until after I had it.
I am probably the strange one, but I had a limit on what I wanted him to spend – but it was the UPPER limit. I didn’t want my ring to be over $5000. I knew that wouldn’t fly with DH. We never talked about budget, but he knew I didn’t want something that was crazy expensive. So yes, I wanted him to spend LESS THAN a certain amount
Post # 7
I never considered or would consider price to be a factor. I’ve always gone by the 4C’s- cut, clarity, carat and color. Cut is the most important “C” to me. It wouldn’t matter if he got it from Tiffany’s and overpaid, from a pawn shop and paid way below price, or if he won it and paid nothing for it.
Post # 8
I just wanted a stunning ring, and thats what i got.
its not like you wear the ring every day with a little price tag for people to look at lol!
Great poll 🙂
Post # 9
I always told FI I didnt want him to spend over 2k. To me, there are better things to spend money on and I care more about the meaning behind it.
He got it on Black Friday for under 1k. SCORE.
Post # 10
Of course I had an expectation. We were (practically) living together and had pretty intimate knowledge of each other’s finances and income. That doesn’t mean it was a demand or a requirement.
He spent a more than I expected he would, actually, as he was the one to set the budget and then raise his standards for what he wanted to buy.
Post # 11
I couldn’t answer your poll, while price did not matter I didn’t ‘just want a shiny’, I wanted a specific shiny lol, that was a little bit more expensive than I originally thought it would be.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I added up the price of 2 of the expensive items he had purchased for himself in the previous 12 month period to come up with what I felt was a fair expectation for his expenditure on me. If we happened to find a ring that I was head over heels in love with at a lower price point, that would have been fine. But for what we wanted (his priority was high quality stones and mine was to have at least a .75ct center stone), he was going to need to spend some money.
Post # 13
It’s all relative to financial situation. We discussed a budget and stuck within it. Yeah, I had some expectations, and they luckily matched what FI wanted to spend.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting an expensive ring if the couple can afford it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting an inexpensive ring either.
Post # 14
We ran into this issue a little bit when I was showing him rings. He earns 6 figures and had just bought a $60k high-maintenance V8 gas guzzler (he was smart enough to buy it before we got married. lol). I showed him a bunch of rings ranging in price from $500-$2k. When he balked at the price at the of the more expensive ones, I got a kind of pissed off about it. I didn’t feel entitled to an expensive ring, but compared to the cost of the car, I didn’t think I was asking for much and it was perfectly within his means. Fortunately we were able to talk about it and happily sort it all out. Now he’s come around and wishes he’d spent more on my ring (I picked a lab made sapphire, he wishes he’d spent more on a natural one).
I posted this on another similar thread, but I think the intent matters more than the price. I think there’s a big difference between buying a beautiful ring that happens to have a lower price tag than buying a ring just because it has a lower pricetag.
There’s also the issue of being realistic with what your SO can afford. If your SO has a lower salary, I think it’s unreasonable to feel entitled to an expensive ring he can’t afford.
Post # 15
Nice poll, you poll stealer! cough cough!
HAHAHA just kidding!
I wanted to go into figures but i got enough response off the thread i started. lol
Post # 16
LOL I’m a waiting bee and I just keep writing the same thing because I cannot BELIEVE that some people actually complaing about the $$ of the ring. Even though I know these posts are not for me hahaha I just cannot keep putting my 2cents in!
I JUST WANT A RING DARNIT and honestly if it came out of a candy box ugh i just would not care about price!!!! I have no expectations just timeline hopes lol!!!!