Spinoff: the PRICE of the ring and YOUR expectations

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll:
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be at least $1 - $1000 : (9 votes)
    3 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be at least $1001 - $5000 : (46 votes)
    15 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be at least $5001 - $10000 : (35 votes)
    12 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be at least $10001 - $20000 : (11 votes)
    4 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be at least $20000+ : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be no more than $1000 : (13 votes)
    4 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be no more than $1001 - $5000 : (21 votes)
    7 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be no more than $5001 - $10000 : (8 votes)
    3 %
    Price mattered - I expected my ring to be no more than $10001 - $20000 : (13 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1931 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would be thrilled with a $500 ring (only because my “promise” ring was a little less than that and I’d like to at least “upgrade” a little bit). I would have preferred to spend under $1K for everything. 

    However, my SO insists that my engagement ring will be at a minimum $1500. His budget is $3000 for the ring, $4000 for the wedding set total. 


    Post # 4
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Our budget was less than $1000, ruled out the halo ring I always thought I wanted.  Love the ring I got thought, I think it was mostly likely a cushion cut vs a cushion with a halo.

    Post # 5
    2927 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Price wise, I had no expectations. I’d rather him get a good deal than not. However, I really wanted something with at least a 3/4ct center stone. To get that, at the time (2009) he had to spend around $2500. He got the whole set on sale for that. (We have upgraded since then though)

    Post # 6
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didn’t find out the cost of my ring until after I had it.

    I am probably the strange one, but I had a limit on what I wanted him to spend – but it was the UPPER limit. I didn’t want my ring to be over $5000. I knew that wouldn’t fly with DH. We never talked about budget, but he knew I didn’t want something that was crazy expensive. So yes, I wanted him to spend LESS THAN a certain amount

    Post # 7
    2122 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I never considered or would consider price to be a factor. I’ve always gone by the 4C’s- cut, clarity, carat and color. Cut is the most important “C” to me. It wouldn’t matter if he got it from Tiffany’s and overpaid, from a pawn shop and paid way below price, or if he won it and paid nothing for it.

    Post # 8
    749 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    I just wanted a stunning ring, and thats what i got.

    its not like you wear the ring every day with a little price tag for people to look at lol!

    Great poll 🙂

    Post # 9
    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I always told FI I didnt want him to spend over 2k. To me, there are better things to spend money on and I care more about the meaning behind it.

    He got it on Black Friday for under 1k. SCORE.

    Post # 10
    3635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Of course I had an expectation.  We were (practically) living together and had pretty intimate knowledge of each other’s finances and income.  That doesn’t mean it was a demand or a requirement. 

    He spent a more than I expected he would, actually, as he was the one to set the budget and then raise his standards for what he wanted to buy.

    Post # 11
    9204 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I couldn’t answer your poll, while price did not matter I didn’t ‘just want a shiny’, I wanted a specific shiny lol, that was a little bit more expensive than I originally thought it would be.

    Post # 12
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I added up the price of 2 of the expensive items he had purchased for himself in the previous 12 month period to come up with what I felt was a fair expectation for his expenditure on me. If we happened to find a ring that I was head over heels in love with at a lower price point, that would have been fine. But for what we wanted (his priority was high quality stones and mine was to have at least a .75ct center stone), he was going to need to spend some money.

    Post # 13
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    It’s all relative to financial situation. We discussed a budget and stuck within it. Yeah, I had some expectations, and they luckily matched what FI wanted to spend.

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting an expensive ring if the couple can afford it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting an inexpensive ring either.

    Post # 14
    4494 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We ran into this issue a little bit when I was showing him rings.  He earns 6 figures and had just bought a $60k high-maintenance V8 gas guzzler (he was smart enough to buy it before we got married.  lol).  I showed him a bunch of rings ranging in price from $500-$2k.  When he balked at the price at the of the more expensive ones, I got a kind of pissed off about it.  I didn’t feel entitled to an expensive ring, but compared to the cost of the car, I didn’t think I was asking for much and it was perfectly within his means.  Fortunately we were able to talk about it and happily sort it all out.  Now he’s come around and wishes he’d spent more on my ring (I picked a lab made sapphire, he wishes he’d spent more on a natural one).


    I posted this on another similar thread, but I think the intent matters more than the price.  I think there’s a big difference between buying a beautiful ring that happens to have a lower price tag than buying a ring just because it has a lower pricetag. 


    There’s also the issue of being realistic with what your SO can afford.  If your SO has a lower salary, I think it’s unreasonable to feel entitled to an expensive ring he can’t afford.

    Post # 15
    9 posts
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Nice poll, you poll stealer! cough cough!

    HAHAHA just kidding!


    I wanted to go into figures but i got enough response off the thread i started. lol

    Post # 16
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    LOL I’m a waiting bee and I just keep writing the same thing because I cannot BELIEVE that some people actually complaing about the $$ of the ring.  Even though I know these posts are not for me hahaha I just cannot keep putting my 2cents in!

    I JUST WANT A RING DARNIT and honestly if it came out of a candy box ugh i just would not care about price!!!! I have no expectations just timeline hopes lol!!!!

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