Post # 1
Ok so there has been a lot of discussion on these boards (both past and present) about contacts and friendships with exes and whether spouses or SOs should feel threatened by these contacts. So… just how appealing do you find your exes? (or have you found them so in the past) For myself, I get gaggy about the thought of physical contact with any of mine (they did not all end badly and the sex was good at least some of the time) and I would guess that I would actually find someone completely new more appealing. I have no problem keeping them as friends, I just don’t want them touching me.
Post # 3
None of my adult exes appeal to me whatsoever. I don’t want them in my life.. period.
I have a couple of guys I “dated” in high school on my Facebook, but I don’t really count that. I’m not particularly close with them either and I have zero attraction to them.
Post # 4
Honestly, I look back at my ex now who I dated for almost 4 years and I dont understand what I found attractive about him…he has this super hot new gf and honestly…it baffles my mind as to what she sees in him either…and his personality is pretty plain and unexciting..so I really have NO attraction to him anymore lol
Post # 5
For the most part I’d rather jump off a bridge! So that’s what I voted for.
I might have one (we only dated a couple months but he was the one who broke up with me) who was a generally good person (and attractive!) who I might still find appealing if I was single but I definitely wouldn’t DO anything with them now, even if I wouldn’t get caught.
The other ones I wouldn’t even find appealing if I was single! Often I wonder what the hell I was thinking. And I dated a lot of guys.
Post # 6
Saturday was my grandmother’s funeral and I had told my ex via Facebook. We’ve been together 9 years, obviously he has known her more than my FI. He told me he would probably come to the salon and offer his condoleances to my family and he did. We had spoken on the phone a few times since we broke up, but it was the first time in almost 2 years that I saw him. I still think he is handsome and he looks very sweet. But now that I had this ”awkward” moment when my ex and my FI shook hands and could see them both face to face, I do find my FI more attractive. I would not do anything with my ex (being caught or not), I still have affection for him but I don’t look at him with the same eyes as I used to, not lover’s eyes anymore. Objectively, he is a good-looking man, and being single I would still think he’s cute. But seeing him Saturday confirmed that we both moved on. 🙂
Post # 7
I have absolutely no attraction to any of my exes. One I was pretty serious with (dated for four years, thought I was going to marry the guy…dumb dumb dumb) but honestly never found very physically attractive. I was more attracted to him once I had an emotional inventment in him. Now I just find him incredibly condescending, irritating, and not at ALL physically attractive. Of course, I’m sooooo physically/mentally/emotionally attracted to my current SO that it makes anyone else look totally unappealing in comparison!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I find every single one repulsive, except for one guy, but we have been friends for 12 years and only dated for two weeks before deciding it was too inconvenient.
Post # 9
Hell no. I honestly look back and think “what the hell was wrong with me?!”
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I only have one ex and I find him extremely unappealing. He was a nice guy, but I wasn’t attracted to him and he never disagreed with me and was SUPER clingy. We were only 15 when we dated and I have no idea what he’s like now. I’ve seen pictures of him, but I still think he’s icky aha 😉
Post # 12
@nycsa: Nope! I alm actually physically turned off by my most serious ex. I am into super clean cut guys, which is what he looked like while we dated. Since we broke up, he’s moved to California, gotten a lot of tattoos all over his body, shaved his head, and grown a Duck Dynasty-like beard. I know there are girls who love that look, but I am NOT one of those girls and every time I see his picture (we have mutual friends on Facebook) I seriously can’t believe I ever slept with him. Doesn’t help that his (clingy, needy, cheating) personality kinda sucks too.
Other (short term) ex was significantly older and is still immature – and on top of that, he has aged very, very badly.
Post # 14
Hell no. I wouldn’t do anything with anyone else, even if I knew I could get away with it. Why do people in committed relationships pull that shit? You shouldn’t fool someone into being with you because they think you’re someone you’re not (i.e. a trustworthy, faithful person). Also, YOU would know you cheated. How do people hide it and live with it? It would eat me alive.
Btw, this isn’t directed at the OP. Just ranting lol.
Anyway, one of my exes is fairly good looking, but he was a middle school boyfriend, not someone I ever had sex with.
The guy I lost my virginity to and I are Facebook friends. The thought of having sex with him makes my skin crawl. Blech. So skeevy. We actually had great sex when we wer together, but he doesn’t appeal to me at all anymore.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Nope nope nope nope nope.
Post # 16
@nycsa: Nope I don’t find any of them appealing. Once I am done… I am done!