Spinoff- what guidelines did you follow for your guestlist for non relatives

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ap2010:  Close family came first, then close friends. Secondary family came next and then secondary friends.

We did not invited fair weather friends or family to our wedding.

Post # 4
2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@LuvMySailor:  +1. I did the same guideline though there still were some rude people who messaged me on FB fishing for an invite and then when they get one, no RSVPs back or no shows… hmph! Never will get invited to anything ever again!

Post # 5
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

We wanted to keep our wedding really small and didn’t want people that we didn’t know or didn’t know very well. A lot of our coworkers expected to come and people that we used to talk to in highschool and stuff. To avoid disappointment we created these rules so that we had concrete reasons for not inviting people:

1. Only family (immediate family and extended family up to first cousins – so no second cousins, great aunts/uncles, etc.) or extremely close family friends. The only friends we’re inviting are in the wedding party.


2. +1s will be given only to single people over 18. Almost all of our guests who are over 18 have a long-term boyfriend/girlfriend (who are practically family) or spouse, so +1s weren’t really an issue. We made this rule to prevent my younger cousins from bringing their on-again-off-again boyfriends and girlfriends.


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