Post # 1
Inspired by the “thoughtless comments” thread on the ring board, I thought it could be entertaining for us to share the downright despicible things that people have said to us.
After we got engaged I was asked by a family member if FI and I would ever consider going on The Biggest Loser. I just stared at this person for what felt like eternity and replied with “Um, no” to which she responded “well, if (FI) wanted to do it alone would you let him?”. WTF?! Never once have FI or myself ever expressed interest in going on this show but thanks for insinuating that we’re morbidy obese you brain dead trollop. Her constant verbal diarrhea never ceases to amaze me. I look forward to the day when she says the wrong thing to the wrong person and all hell breaks loose.
Post # 3
Wow. That is fucked up. She’s lucky that’s all you said!!!
I can’t think of anything off the top of my head, but I’ll come back if I do.
Post # 4
@mightywombat: I was FUMING! It was best for everyone involved that I didn’t say what I was thinking because it wouldn’t have been pretty. I guess I was just the “bigger person”. 🙂
Post # 5
When I first meet my bf grandparents they asked me what my middle name was. I proudly stated that it was Brooke. I love my middle name! They then say “Oh you must not be a Christian, you’re not named after a saint.” I could not believe someone would tell me what I am or am not because of my name! So I kindly said “No I am Christian, I’m just not catholic.” That just up pretty fast.
Post # 6
A close family member actually said at our celebration dinner (for our engagement) AS we were EATING that after this meal FI and I need to go on a diet. WTF?!
Post # 7
My stepmother once told me I’d never be smart enough to amount to anything, and not to set my standards too high when looking for a husband, because I’d be lucky to ever get married.
Yeah, she is lovely.
Now I’m 6 months away from graduating and being a nurse. And my FI is pretty damn awesome, definately not settling for him because he was the first poor sod to propose.
I try not to take it personally. I know she is just bitching because she never reached her academic potential, married a man she didn’t love, and had 2 ‘oops’ kids, and she is jealous of me.
Post # 8
@nhanvey: & @VegasSukie: People can be so stupid.
Post # 9
I was in an abusive, on-again-off-again relationship for 3.5 years in college. Once when we broke up (because he was cheating on me), his roommate and I were having lunch and he (the roommate) said to me, “Well, it’s probably for the best. C really needs to be with someone who’s right for him anyway.”
I was like WTH is that supposed to mean?
He fumbled a bit and I don’t remember exactly what he said, but it boiled down to the fact that he didn’t think I was good enough for the cheating, abusive jerk. Awesome.
Post # 10
The first week at a new job, my boss and the HR person asked me if I wanted to get married and have a kid.
I said yes.
Then they told me “well, you better hurry because you’re aging”…. “your beauty is fading”… and my boss warned me about how women my age are more likely to have children with Down’s syndrome.
I’m laughing as I’m typing this because, in retrospect, it was all so classless and tacky. But back then it was very hurtful to me.
Post # 11
We were at happy hour at a local restaurant last week and accidentially sat down by this crazy lady. She starts talking to us the minute we sit down and will not shut up. We try ignoring her and start a conversation between the three of us, and she proceeds to start yelling over our conversation to get our attention. Since it’s impossible not to talk to her, we made some conversation. She kept going on about how she was dating a surgeon and how she knew people from my husband’s parents community (they live in a fly-in community and there are some pretty big names there). Well the people that she was naming were the biggest name people there that everyone knows lives there, so it was pretty clear that she was just name dropping. (Also she was wearing a swim suit cover up that had been washed too many times and $2 flip flops from WalMart at a nice restaurant. Not that there’s anything wrong with that at all, but it definitely makes you doubt the fact that she’s dating a surgeon and she hangs out with nascar drivers and famous actors. The fact that she was unbelievably annoying made me doubt that fact even more than the clothes thing because I can’t imagine anyone wanting to be around her.)
So we eventually tell her that we were recently married, and she asked us where we went on our honeymoon. We told her that we went to Sandals in Antigua and had a great time and her reply was, “Well I heard that EVERYONE is going to South Africa for their honeymoon now. How come you didn’t go to Cape Town? You probably couldn’t afford it, huh?”
I was pretty much livid. I tried to explain as calmly as possible that we just wanted to go somewhere close and relax and didn’t want a crazy long flight. Seriously who says that? Especially to complete strangers?
So just after that we move away from the bar to a table because my in laws arrived. After about 20 minutes the lady comes over to our table. Thankfully my MIL had downed two martinis and told her in a not very nice way that we were having a family conversation and she needed to leave us alone (go MIL!!). I still can’t believe how rude /annoying this woman was.
Post # 12
this sounds really tame, but it haunted me for years— when i was in 5th grade, my family moved out of our town for about 6 months and then came back, and all my old friends basically acted like i was a new kid all over again. for some reason, 5th grade was the cliquiest, most “mean girls” time for kids in my town–by the time middle and high school rolled around, no one really cared about popularity anymore. so anyway, none of my old friends would hang out with me during recess, so i would often sit alone and feel sorry for myself. one day this popular girl and guy come talk to me, and the girl asks why i’m by myself, and before i can answer, the guy says, “because she’s boring!” and they laugh and run away. totally broke my heart and for years i was really, really worried i was boring
Post # 13
I can’t even begin to list off the things that my DH’s family said about or to me. When we first started dating (I was 15) and they would talk to each other about how I’m a slut, whore, tramp…etc.
Then after the wedding his aunt wrote me this really long facebook message (classy, I know) about what she hates about me and complained about our wedding and how we signed our thank you cards.
Goes without saying that I no longer speak or see those ppl and neither does my husband.
Post # 14
@finnaroo: I had the same thing happen to me when I was in middle school! Except it was actually a really close friend. I had forgotten about it until I recently found my middle school / high school journal. I was bothered by being told I was boring for a long time and was constantly paranoid about it. Kids can be so mean at that age.
Post # 15
@ddw: Um, wow! From the sounds of it, the only thing that would be good for him would be a lovely jail sentence. I bet he could meet someone “good enough” through the prison pen-pal service!
@LaChispy: Wow, way to be blunt!
@faye0314: She was probably just making conversation with you guys because her surgeon boyfriend was too busy replacing the heart of a pop singer on the US space station all while juggling steak knives and reciting Shakespeare. *eye roll* I normally like to humor people like her and make it PAINFULLY obvious that I don’t give a shit about what they’re saying.
Post # 16
My mother called me on my 18th birthday to tell me that she still wasn’t sure she’d made the right decision to have me (instead of having an abortion). I still can’t figure out why she thought it was a good idea to actually tell me that, and we are not on fantastic terms anymore. She has some… severe mental health issues, and I’m pretty sure she didn’t realize it was hurtful, but ugh.