Post # 1
I was out to dinner last night with some girlfriends- one who just got engaged and one who is getting married this fall. The one who just got engaged was joking about how she hopes she gets $500,000 for the wedding- she was kidding about the amount of cash, but her fi is out of work so both cash and gifts would be greatly appreciated (not expected, appreciated). This led to me bringing up the discussion I read a few weeks ago- http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/just-curious-how-much-money-did-you-receive . A few people mentioned on the boards that what they brought to weddings really varied regionally and I thought that was really interesting! We discussed this at dinner and I’m curious as to where people are from, what the “average” gift is (or even how much).
Note: this is not meant to be gift grabby- I know it may appear that way as I’m getting married in Boston next year. However, my point is that I live in Chicago and I’m going to a wedding in the South next year and usually give a card of $100pp for the wedding, but someone in the last post said gifts are the usual… just interested as will be at multiple weddings in multiple regions the next 12 months 🙂
Post # 3
Cash is definitely more common in L.A.
Post # 4
Long Island, NY-cash, striving to cover your plate. You give actual items at the bridal shower.
Post # 6
Northeast and always cash for the wedding, gifts for the shower.
Post # 7
LA. Cash for the wedding, gifts for the shower.
Post # 8
South – always gifts from the registry. Cash is considered impersonal, but I would LOVE it, haha!
Post # 9
I’m as Midwest as it gets and FI is from New Orleans. Here (Missouri) it is considered acceptable to give cash or a gift, but gifts are way more common. There (NOLA) we always give gifts and never give out/have been given cash.
Post # 10
I’m in Missouri, and I feel that it varies at each wedding. Normally, I feel that it leans more towards cash.
Post # 11
I’m in Canada (Ontario/Quebec). Typically people give actual gifts for the shower and cash for the wedding.
Post # 12
I think in the Northwest it’s more about what the couple specifically asks for. If they request cash or a honeymoon fund then people give cash, if they have a registry they give gifts. I’ve seen weddings both ways and nobody ever made a fuss about cash requests that I was aware of.
Post # 13
Northeast – cash. We had 270 guests and only had 5 physical gifts. Gifts are for the shower
Post # 14
NYC- Cash for the wedding
Post # 15
@Mars62312: I agree. I never even knew giving cash at wedding was so common until coming here. In my circle, it’s expected to buy something off the registry.
Post # 16
I’m from the NE. I prefer to bring a gift for the shower and wedding, but send the gift to the couple’s home rather than bring to the event. Somehow it is less awkward to bring physical things than cash,especially for a family wedding.