Post # 1
I am considered sending out Christmas cards this year. I have never done it before because since we weren’t married (although we were living together) I thought it might be weird, like we were playing house or pretending we were a family when we weren’t. Now that we are engaged and getting married in April, the situation has changed….or has it?
When did you start sending Christmas cards as a couple? When you were just dating, when you moved in together, when you got engaged, when you were married, or when you started a family?
Post # 3
Engaged but we didn’t get around to taking a picture together so I just used a picture of our dog.
Post # 4
Started after we got married. I think if you’re engaged that’s ok. I always thought it was a little strange when couples send one out if they are just dating.
Post # 5
We started the year after we got married (because we were married in Oct and didn’t get it together to send Christmas cards + thank yous at the same time by Dec). I don’t think it’s weird per se to send them while you’re engaged, but it doesn’t happen in my group of friends/fam – everyone waits until they’re married to start sending cards together. Probably just depends on your target card receivers!
Post # 6
@Lily_of_the_valley: I would say send one whenever you feel like sending one! If you are in a committed loving relationship, then legal status doesn’t really matter. Yes, there is a chance you could break up, but guess what…married people can get divorced!
We are now married, but dated for 10 years (lived together for 5) before we got married. Our relationship was very real, serious and committed before we signed the papers. We don’t send out cards and don’t plan too, but we have included my DH in holiday pictures with my family for the past 8+ years.
I think it is kind of silly to judge couples for when they choose to do things as an official social unit. Do whatever you are comfortable with, and don’t worry about what others think!
ETA: Especially given that some couples are not legally aloud to get married, it would be ridiculous to judge people over their choice of timing.
Post # 7
@Lily_of_the_valley: we are sending out christmas cards together, this is our second christmas of dating and we’ve been living together for a year. We are not married or engaged yet, but have definitely made a commitment to each other that everyone is aware of.
Post # 8
@Lily_of_the_valley: Our first xmas together, we happened to be engaged. The timeline was short – 3 months – and I’m sure we would have still sent them together even if we were “just dating.” I could care less for tities – we were committed and a social unit, that’s all that matters (at least to me).
The picture won’t be of us this year though – it will definitely be our dog! Last year it was our dog’s Santa picture and we were in it too. This year I will pass on being in any pictures 😛
Post # 9
Who was the bee that had her holiday card of her dog that said “Nice is overrated” It was so cute but now I can’t find it!
Post # 10
After we had been together for a couple of years and everyone knew it was a serious relationship. I think it’s up to the individual couple though, as to when they think it’s appropriate to send out a joint card (for anything, not just Christmas/holidays).
@MrsPanda99: I used to do Santa pictures with my dog too! I miss doing that…
Post # 11
I sent out Christmas cards the second Christmas we were together, using our engagement photos. I saw it as another opportunity to get some use out of our engagement photos. We had been living together for about 8 months at that point. I obviously don’t think it is weird to send out cards before you’re married.
Post # 12
I seem to be in the minority but I think it’s odd to send out cards until you have kids.
Post # 13
@gingerbreadgirl: but what if you dont?
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
We started sending holiday cards out when we got married. Mostly because my family is pretty old-fashioned and would give us the side-eye if we sent them out sooner. We get cards from friends who are in serious committed relationships but not engaged or married and we don’t think anything of it. I love getting holiday cards, I don’t care what your relationship status is!
Post # 15
I would find it odd to get a card from an unmarried couple. In my area people don’t live together until marriage or if they do they def try not to make it known. We’ve been together 4 years, I won’t send them until we’re married and even then might wait until we have kids.
Post # 16
Etiquette Snob here… lol
I believe that Engaged or Married is a good timeframe… in that you are then a recognizable “social unit”
Engaged & Living together is a good way of letting others know some news as well about the upcoming Wedding… ie that you have a Wedding Website.
Handy if someone has skipped out on STDs etc.