(Closed) spinoff: Who is going to be in the delivery room? (or who was?)

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Who will be in the delivery room when you give birth?
    DH only : (92 votes)
    72 %
    DH and my parents : (22 votes)
    17 %
    DH and his parents : (0 votes)
    DH and both our parents : (0 votes)
    DH and immediate family from my side only : (4 votes)
    3 %
    DH and immediate family his side only : (1 votes)
    1 %
    DH and immediate family from either side : (2 votes)
    2 %
    DH and my immediate and extended family : (0 votes)
    DH and his immediate and extended family : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @dynamic_duo:  I’m not pregnant (and won’t be for a while), but I’m thinking I would just want Darling Husband and my mother (and the midwife/dr of course)

    Post # 4
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My mom was with me until I had to have an emergency cesarian… oh well. the father of the baby was there too…

    Post # 5
    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I plan to only have my Darling Husband in the room when the time comes. I really don’t feel comfortable with my parents or his seeing that part of my body work in that way – and I am a nurse and have attended an actual vaginal labor….it’s pretty graphic, there is usually poop and hemmrhoids involved…no thanks.

    It’s come up in conversation with both my parents and his over the years. I have no shame or guilt about stating that they cannot be in the room. Period. Nor do I want any of them in the room when I breastfeed…just Darling Husband.

    Post # 7
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It was just FH, our doula, and me. We didn’t even tell anyone we were going to the hospital. I really didn’t want anyone hovering outside, or asking for updates. We just wanted to concentrate on birth, and we called our family after delivery and a short nap ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
    1587 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Fi thinks he’d pass out so we’re more than ok if my mom is there with us. I’m not pregnant yet but I could also see me wanting to only share that moment with Fi so things could change.

    Post # 9
    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Darling Husband and maybe my Mom. NO WAY in hell would I have my Dad in there or his parents… well maybe his mom. So I chose other… If I have any other family members in the room other than my Darling Husband they had better be older female caregivers that have gone through childbirth already

    Post # 11
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My mother and sister were in the room. I was in labor for 47 hours prior to having her and was in the hospital for 3 days before. Darling Husband had been there the whole time and had left for work 2hrs before I had my daughter… he had just missed it. Its crazy because that is the same thing that happened to my parents when I was born lol!

    Post # 12
    1144 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I will have Darling Husband, Mother-In-Law, my Sister, and possibly Dirty Delete. My sister is studying to be a doula and has been at many births so she will be very helpful. This will be MIL’s last grandchild and we feel it is important to include her in this experience. She is not a real pushy person so she will probably end up just sitting and watching it all unfold.

    Post # 13
    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Darling Husband only in my delivery room! I am way way too shy to have any additional family members ๐Ÿ™‚ They’re also all a good 10+ hours away. We’ll probably give them a call when we get admitted and let it time out from there!

    OP, how far along are you? Maybe you can casually bring it up in conversation? Like, “we took a tour of the hospital today and saw the waiting area and delivery rooms. The delivery rooms sure are small– probably only large enough to fit Darling Husband and I!” or “The waiting room had a big tv and WiFi so you won’t get bored if my labor takes a long time.” Eh, sorry I don’t have better advise!

    Post # 14
    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I had Darling Husband, my mom, my midwife, and another midwife here. When it came down to it I needed ALL of their help and support. In the end though the only one there was Darling Husband & a handful of nurses since they were wheeling me to the O.R. and I delivered in the hall… lol.

    I’d like to add that in the end you really could care less who is there or what’s showing or who’s seeing it… Going through transition & transferring to the hospital I was LITERALLY ready to walk our my house naked b/c “I just wanted to get there already”. I was only b/c my mom went and got clothes and MADE me put them on that I didn’t. lol

    Post # 15
    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    @Ellegee:  This sounds wonderful ๐Ÿ™‚ I would rather wait until the baby is born to tell people I went into labor so that there is less pressure! Unfortunately, our familys have to travel about 10 hrs, so we’ll have to give them some notice.

    Post # 16
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Darling Husband and my mom only. A friend of mine had her parents, Darling Husband and brother.

    Um, ew. Dad and brother? No thanks.

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