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The only reason I go to weddings is to see those I love (or my fiance loves) get married. I turn down invitations of the obligation type (but always send a congratulatory card), because I am so not driving thousands of miles for a wedding where I don't feel the desire to be there out of friendship. The last wedding we attended we drove 2500 miles round trip (non-stop in each direction, except for gas and bathroom breaks). Our local friends are all married, which makes me glad, because I am an introvert who doesn't really like parties or dressing up. :D
I hear you, I can't even begin to say how many times people have begrudgingly told me that they have to go to a wedding. I don't know why, but weddings were always special to me. Although of course I loved the pretty features, the lace and the champagne. But... weddings symbolize so much more. Even those I've gone to with SO, of who I don't even know, I'm still blown away by the whole event. Maybe I'm a romantic, but I just can't imagine that much effort and that much emotion meaning anything but love.
For the couple.
Plus I just really like weddings. I like the atmosphere and how happy they are. I would always decline if I didn't want to go (didn't feel close enough) or couldn't go (scheduling.) I don't think I've ever NOT been excited to go to a wedding. It has nothing to do with alcohol, food, or whatever. Most weddings I've been to have little to no alcohol anyway.
For the couple, of course!
Second to that, if I was invited as social courtesy... Food. I love food.
@AmeliaBedelia: I agree, I find it exciting! I kind of like getting dressed up for a nice event to celebrate a huge moment in 2 people's lives! And I love the variety... some get married in gardens, ballrooms, backyards... it's so neat when it reflects their personalities and you can see them enjoying the moment. I sound like such a hopeless romantic, lol!
If they invite me I appreciate it. I have planned and paid for a wedding andn I know that inviting someone is not just a walk in the park. You have to pay for each guest, so I make every effort to attend.
I go to a wedding to support the couple, never for the free drinks, or food. I always bring a gift even if I cannot afford a whole lot. I don't go to judge the way the bride did things. They can only do what they can afford. The only time I found myself judging someone else's wedding was when I went to my FI's sister's wedding. She had her reception at the this resturant and everyone was shoved together between other people and tables so I was really uncomfortable, and it was supposed to be a buffet style but the kitchen was so slow at bringing the food out that it came in waves. Everytime they brought food out everyone flocked the table like vultures. She could've spent a whole lot less and had a nice picnic at the park she was married at (ceremony was nice) with just some platters of food catered from a mom and pop resturant or the local grocery store and people would've had more room to move around. They could've even done a first dance with some music playing from an Ipod. So I vowed never to have a wedding like that where my guests were extremely uncomfortable.
For the couple, always. It's nice when they go out of their way to make us feel extra welcome but ultimately it's about the bride and groom uniting.
I primarily go to support the couple on a majorly important day of their lives.
But that doesn't mean that I don't also expect to have a good time at the reception (which is really just a party in celebration). And I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
To show my support for the marriage and to celebrate the start of this new chapter in their lives. Mind you, celebrating doesn't have to involve super fancy decor, or tons of booze, or even a fabulous venue. I'm talking about celebrating as in having fun and enjoying the company of the newly married couple.
I love everything about weddings. The promise of a new beginning. . the limitless possibilities. . and I cry at all of them. lol
I also love dancing and the chance to get dressed up once in a while.
For the couple or because my parents are making me (ie. if its a family wedding and if I have no good reason NOT to attend).
I go to weddings to support the bride and groom. Don't get me wrong, I get excited to see the venue, the cake, the decor, the bride's dress and for the opportunity to get dolled up and dance the night away. But, no, I don't go for free booze or to judge them or anything like that. I go because I have affection for the couple and want to celebrate their commitment to one another.
I've never been invited to a wedding of a person I didn't care about. so yeah-- I go to weddings to celebrate with people I love.
as for attending a wedding for free food: that cracks me up. I find that at most weddings, catered food is pretty meh. even at it's best, it's still not all that great. I couldn't imagine going just for the food!
as for free drinks: who does that? I would so rather have cheap drinks at a friends house then go to a random wedding for free drinks. that is just super despearate.
@janie-janie: lol, I like your comments! Very true - I don't understand wanting to go for free, yet very uninspiring, food!!
@GroovyHippieChick: awww, that's so sweet that you cry at all of them! I want you at my wedding! lol
I go to weddings to show my love, best wishes and support of the relationship taking the next step. And like you, I move mountains to make sure I am there for people when they invite me to them. In fact I've never not made it to a wedding that I've been invited to because I just feel it's so important to be there and show them you care and support them.
@MadameTussaud: uh, be careful what you wish for. I cried so hard at my brother's wedding that the priest stopped the ceremony. No one could hear him over my sniffling. 
But hey, how often does your little brother get married?
@GroovyHippieChick: LMAO!!!! I can't believe you stole the show from the couple!! 
That's super funny, if you have video anywhere I'd love to see (or hear) it!
@Spoonie: That is so awesome to hear! Your friends and family are extremely lucky to have such a genuine person in their lives! That's not to say that anyone else on here isn't genuine... geez, I don't wanna offend anyone... I guess what I'm trying to say is that your words are very touching!
LOL I actually never thought about this before!!
I guess because I know the couple and am happy for them. I don't go because I love weddings. It's more about supporting the couple.
To show my love and support for the couple, to have fun, because I love weddings, sometimes an opportunity to travel and see new places.
-obligation
-to judge the wedding (sorry, but that's just what we do in my family, we judge weddings lol)
-food (though it's not exactly free food if you're giving a gift)
-happy for the couple and I want to go (not sure this has happened yet...I was happy for my brother, but I was a bridesmaid and it was a pain in the ass, so I didn't exactly *want* to go)
I'm horrible lol
First and foremost for the couple, but it's often also an opportunity to see old friends. I'm not a super duper terribly social person but I always have fun at weddings because everyone's in such a good mood.
free food and favours lol just joking. To celebrate a new beginning with people I love and care about and who have been a positive part of my life.
I think weddings are fun! I love going, especially if the wedding is out of town and I get to go on a mini vacation to attend. I also like going to support the couple. If they thoughtful enough of me to invite me, I should return the favor by going.
I should also add that I attend both the ceremony and the reception. I can't stand it when people just attend the reception/party part. The most important part of the day is the ceremony.
Because I'm invited and I would feel bad saying no. I actually don't enjoy most weddings at all, but it is hard to come up with reasons you can't go when most invites come months before the date.
Plus, many people would seriously not want to be friends with me if they knew how much I didn't want to go to their wedding, which I can kind of understand. So, I also go because I want to keep my friends!
two reasons. absolutely first and foremost: to support my friends and family (those i care about) and see them commit themselves to the ones that make them happy. and a pale second...who doesn't love a party? lol.
For the judgement... jk
But seriously I go because I either adore the couple or because it's one of DH's friends from college I never met. We haven't been invited to that many weddings lately. Everyone we know is either eternally single or married aleady.
@ThingsThatShine: .......revoking your invitation to my wedding..... ;)
I attend weddings to support the couple as a lot of you have already mentioned. That being said if I am invited to a wedding out of social obligation and I should go also in obligation then I of course I go for the fun, food and party.
I think it just depends on the relationship between myself and the couple getting married. Sometimes saying no isn't an option despite me wanting to.
I've never been invited to a wedding I didn't want to attend and I only skipped 1 because I had just moved thousands of miles away and started a new job so I could not get the time/flight to attend. I have since regretted not doing more to be there for that couple who really would be the people we hang out with on a regular basis if we lived close by. I have flown across the atlantic three times in 3 years to attend weddings and will do so again this summer. Since all of my friends' weddings will be destination for me, I love the ones which are actually in fun places like Jamaica. But of course I go to support and celebrate with my friends which means I will do everything I can to be there even if it is a back yard wedding. I am always disapointed when I miss the showers and bachelorette parties due to distance.
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Another thread prompted me to ask why you attend someone's wedding. For me, it's in support of people I love, whether they are friends of mine or family that is getting married. If they are important to me, I do everything in my power to attend, no matter where the wedding is being held or what type of wedding it is. The only reason I've ever declined was because there was absolutely no way I could get the time off work and afford to travel. I guess if I didn't feel that close with the couple, I wouldn't attend either.
I'm really getting the feeling that a lot of people attend for the free alcohol, the free food, and to judge how well the wedding looks, and this really makes me sad to see. I personally would never prioritize those things over people that I love and care about, but I'm starting to feel like I'm alone in this. Please tell me there are other people out there that also go to weddings to celebrate the ones that they love!! I want to hear some positive things!!