Spinoff: Why do you attend people’s weddings?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
196 posts
Blushing bee

The only reason I go to weddings is to see those I love (or my fiance loves) get married.  I turn down invitations of the obligation type (but always send a congratulatory card), because I am so not driving thousands of miles for a wedding where I don’t feel the desire to be there out of friendship.  The last wedding we attended we drove 2500 miles round trip (non-stop in each direction, except for gas and bathroom breaks).  Our local friends are all married, which makes me glad, because I am an introvert who doesn’t really like parties or dressing up.  😀

Post # 4
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hear you, I can’t even begin to say how many times people have begrudgingly told me that they have to go to a wedding. I don’t know why, but weddings were always special to me. Although of course I loved the pretty features, the lace and the champagne. But… weddings symbolize so much more. Even those I’ve gone to with SO, of who I don’t even know, I’m still blown away by the whole event. Maybe I’m a romantic, but I just can’t imagine that much effort and that much emotion meaning anything but love. 

Post # 5
46256 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

To show support for their union and share in their joy.

Post # 6
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

For the couple.

Plus I just really like weddings. I like the atmosphere and how happy they are. I would always decline if I didn’t want to go (didn’t feel close enough) or couldn’t go (scheduling.) I don’t think I’ve ever NOT been excited to go to a wedding. It has nothing to do with alcohol, food, or whatever. Most weddings I’ve been to have little to no alcohol anyway.

Post # 7
1775 posts
Buzzing bee

For the couple, of course!


Second to that, if I was invited as social courtesy… Food. I love food.

Post # 9
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If they invite me I appreciate it. I have planned and paid for a wedding andn I know that inviting someone is not just a walk in the park. You have to pay for each guest, so I make every effort to attend. 

Post # 10
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I go to a wedding to support the couple, never for the free drinks, or food. I always bring a gift even if I cannot afford a whole lot. I don’t go to judge the way the bride did things. They can only do what they can afford. The only time I found myself judging someone else’s wedding was when I went to my FI’s sister’s wedding. She had her reception at the this resturant and everyone was shoved together between other people and tables so I was really uncomfortable, and it was supposed to be a buffet style but the kitchen was so slow at bringing the food out that it came in waves. Everytime they brought food out everyone flocked the table like vultures. She could’ve spent a whole lot less and had a nice picnic at the park she was married at (ceremony was nice) with just some platters of food catered from a mom and pop resturant or the local grocery store and people would’ve had more room to move around. They could’ve even done a first dance with some music playing from an Ipod. So I vowed never to have a wedding like that where my guests were extremely uncomfortable.

Post # 11
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

For the couple, always. It’s nice when they go out of their way to make us feel extra welcome but ultimately it’s about the bride and groom uniting.

Post # 12
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I primarily go to support the couple on a majorly important day of their lives.

But that doesn’t mean that I don’t also expect to have a good time at the reception (which is really just a party in celebration).  And I don’t think there is anything wrong with that.

Post # 13
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Because I love and support the couple!

Post # 14
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

To show my support for the marriage and to celebrate the start of this new chapter in their lives.  Mind you, celebrating doesn’t have to involve super fancy decor, or tons of booze, or even a fabulous venue.  I’m talking about celebrating as in having fun and enjoying the company of the newly married couple.

Post # 15
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I love everything about weddings.  The promise of a new beginning. .  the limitless possibilities.  .  and I cry at all of them.  lol


I also love dancing and the chance to get dressed up once in a while.  

Post # 16
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

For the couple or because my parents are making me (ie. if its a family wedding and if I have no good reason NOT to attend).

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