Post # 1
Was reading a board and someone said they wouldnt leave them but wouldnt support their behavior but would help them through it. Would you leave them or stay?
Now Im not talking about a 19 year old kid having sex with a 17 year old and the parents objected. Im talking about a person of adult age who molested a child.
Now I have read studies that suggest that pedophilia can not be cured, so my take on it is they should all be locked up forever, and if they molested a child then they ought to have their private parts taken off and fed to them and if their is justice in the world they will die a horribly painful death.
I have added a poll
Post # 3
@TexasSpringBride: My understanding is that many pedophiles have children so that they have built in victims. I would like to TTC one day and I can’t wrap my head around doing that with a pedophile, even a “recovering” one.
I will be honest and state my ignorance so correct me if I am wrong. I think pedophiles have a sexual preference for children, similar to a fetish (just one that most of us don’t understand). Similar to how other fetishes and preferences can’t be changed, I am not sure if a pedophile could change what they prefer even if they wanted to. Perhaps they could ignore it but it would always be there. It would be similar to someone who is gay saying they “recovered” from their preference. I’m just not sure I buy it.
Post # 5
No, I would not. I have a child already and may have more in the future. I would not be able to live my life with a man who could hurt a beautiful innocent child, and be putting my child(ren) in potential danger.
Sadly, I know someone whose mother turned a blind eye to the fact that her husband was molesting their children. It is so disgusting. Shudder.
Post # 6
@TexasSpringBride: No. I don’t think it’s something that can be ‘cured’, so I don’t think people can work through it; I think they can suppress their urges, but that’s it. I couldn’t be with someone who fantasised about children like that.
Post # 7
Is this a joke? No effing way!!!!!!
My stepfather’s sister is married to a man who was recently (about 2 years ago) “busted” for child pornography. The FBI barged into his house and took all of their computers. This woman swears he was being set up (by who?!?! LOL) and that he’s innocent. Right now he’s sitting in prison for the next few years, but his wife is standing by his side in total denial.
Post # 8
@MrsPanda99: I think you’re right. I recall a documentary I saw about pedophilia. They interviewed a guy who said that being attracted to little girls is something he just can’t help. He knows it’s wrong and doesn’t act on it but it doesn’t change the fact that that’s what he’s attracted to. I couldn’t watch the whole program, it was awful, but I remember seeing that part.
@TexasSpringBride: My daughter is five, so if I found out my husband was a pedophile, I’d GTFO in a heartbeat. No way I could put an innocent child at risk like that. And I’d cut off all communication with him, too. No support here. I’d hope that he’d find the help he needed, but he wouldn’t be getting it from me.
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: You are correct, like you I couldnt wrap my head around it whether they could help it or not. The very idea that anyone would stay married to someone who had a sexual infatuation with a child is beyond me.
Post # 11
@adoc86: What a horrible situation. She needs to wise up.
Post # 12
I would report them asap and run the opposite direction.. (After testifying and making sure that they went to prison!)
Post # 13
@adoc86: I am going to be a bit controversial here (are you surprised?). I don’t think porn always escalates. People look at weird shit online but that doesn’t mean they would do it. For example, I don’t think a man who watches baby-sitter roleplays is going to try and fuck the baby-sitter. While I don’t think it’s the best thing to be curious about, if something stays in the fantasy realm than I am not as fussed about it.
I have road rage and there are times I imagine punching other drivers in the face (or worse)…that doesn’t mean I actually would, lol.
Post # 14
It really depends.
I would be pissed that it was something that would have been hidden before we got married. Is it someone who just had desires or someone who actually acted on them? There’s a big difference there.
It helps that at this stage I’m not planning on having kids. If I stayed with someone like that, it would confirm that decision long-term for me.
Post # 15
They’d either end up burried in the back yard or in jail….
Post # 16
@TexasSpringBride: Absolutely not! I can’t fathom it. That other thread had me reeling as you already know.
And to anyone out there who would consider staying with a pedophile, please do the research first. Pedophiles have consistently shown that they do not rehabilitate. The vast majority never change and remain horrific threats to others throughout their entire lives. Don’t be with a partner like that.