SPINOFF: Would your SO/FI Leave you for that….?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would your SO/FI Leave you if you secretly wore diapers to go #2?
    No, he would stand by my side and get me the help I needed. : (164 votes)
    59 %
    Yes, he would split. : (44 votes)
    16 %
    I'm not sure -- Id hope he would stay. : (66 votes)
    24 %
    Other -- explain. : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1634 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it depends on where we are in our relationship when he found out. Right now, he’d stick with me and help me figure it out. Within the first year of our relationship I think he’d have split. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I asked DH the same thing. He basically said “meh, I’m a doctor, I don’t find it gross.” He said he would help me get it fixed. We’ve only been married a couple of months, but we’ve been together for years, so that must be why. He was much less shocked about that thread than I was. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I really don’t know what he would do. I think if he found out before we got married, it would potentially be a deal breaker. We’ve only been married for 12 days, but I think it would probably change his approach to find out now that we are husband and wife. I think he’d stick with me. The trouble is that he would likely have trouble trusting me (I think the integrity issue was the biggest one), but I think he’d work with me. And yes, it would take a lot of work.

    I’m going to ask him when he gets home from work. We’ll see if I know him…lol.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5445 posts
    Bee Keeper

    He said the only way he would leave me is if it was something I was unwilling to try and fix, and that’s the same thing I told him. Turning your back on your spouse when they need help is wrong, but if they won’t accept help or won’t change, you can’t make them, and then it’s a different ball game IMO. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @BlondeMissMolly +1

    It would be intresting to see this poll men vs. women to see which sex would be more supportive.

    Post # 10
    Member
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think he would stay with me as long as I was willing to work on it. If I wasn’t? I’m not sure. Honestly I don’t know if I could stay with a man who wore diapers and wasn’t willing to go to therapy to address the issue. For me it would come down to not being sexually attracted to him anymore. Maybe that sounds awful, but sex is very important in a relationship and I don’t know if I could get past that despite loving him otherwise.

    Post # 12
    Member
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Barbiestylez:  agreed.

    I know some people truly will stay with someone through better or worse, but I do have a short list of things that I just could not deal with :-/

    Post # 13
    Member
    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  I think u have to support people you love… i know my SO has supported me through things like panic attacks and emotional things 

     

    i know i would do the same for him we love eachother and wanna grow stronger and be better people together … 

     

    i think those ppl sound harsh … ya that did sound gross but clearly he did it secertly for a while (i didnt read just guessing form whats been said) and she didnt know sounds like he kept him self clean 

     

    i mean god what if god forbid our SO’s got in a bad carcrash needed us to care for them … couldnt have sex or anything anymore do we still love them of course do they need help and support yes its the ame thing

    Post # 14
    Member
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I asked my SO and he said he wouldn’t leave me, but that he’d definitely make me get help to fix the problem. I am shocked that he said he wouldn’t leave me. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. 🙂

    Post # 15
    Member
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I think we’d both be on the same page.

    That sort of behavior and seeking help? We’d stick it out. Hopefully it wouldn’t be some prolonged multi-year thing, because that would be draining. Nonetheless we’d try.

    Unwilling to get help? Nope. I’m not going to deal with someone who has any sort of issue and refuses help.

    ETA: If it were a simple dating relationship I wouldn’t stay. But serious commitment, then yes I will.

    Post # 16
    Member
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I asked and he asked what the reason would be. He said if it was anything other than a medical condition that can’t be fixed, then he doesn’t think he could handle it.

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