(Closed) Spinoff: Did you ever THINK someone was "the one"?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did you ever think someone was "the one" but they turned out not to be?
    No - my first and only "one" was it and we're still together today. : (73 votes)
    31 %
    Yes - I had ONE other person who I thought was "the one" but it didn't work out. : (114 votes)
    48 %
    Yes - I've had MORE THAN ONE other person who I thought was "the one" but it didn't work out. : (39 votes)
    17 %
    I've never had the feeling that I was with "the one". : (10 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1716 posts
    Bumble bee

    My highschool sweetheart, I thought he was the “one” but as generally happens…he wasn’t lol. He’s a good guy though. Just not the right one for me.

    Post # 4
    Member
    895 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My high school sweetheart. I’ve known since I was 15 he was the one for me and we got married a week ago today!

    Post # 5
    Member
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve really only thought that about my fiance.  =)

    Though I’ve definitely had relationships that were meaningful, where I loved the person deeply, etc etc…but with him, it’s like…this is RIGHT. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1211 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My high school sweetheart, which is normal 😛 Then, when I was 19, I dated my bestbestbest male friend. We were VERY close and I loved him so much, I really did think we’d end up together. But within a few months of dating, I realized I’d confused my love for him as something romantic when we weren’t compatible as partners at all. 

    Post # 7
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    2620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m a pretty bad romantic.

    I’m the one that subscribes to the beliefs that

    a) people who have ‘soul-mates’ are few and far between. The rest of us have a small group of potential candidates that could work–essentially that the very idea of ‘the one’ is a fallacy for the vast majority 

    and

    b) marrying the “right person” is about 50% alchemy and about 50% work.

    So yeah, I had relationships with guys I thought could be “the one” but half the time, the alchemy changed and the other half, we weren’t into the work, as in ALL relationships take work, the difference is what KIND of work are you willing to undertake in the relationship?

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I had an ex that I thought was the one. We talked about marriage. It was a very dysfunctional relationship, though.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve only thought that about FI.

     I’ve WANTED to think it for one other person before (HS) but I knew he wasn’t. He wanted me to fit in his mold of ‘perfect girl’, and I wanted to badly to be that, that I destroyed a lot of my self confidence and self worth. When I got out of that relationship, I realized that I had never even imagined myself with him after HS; I just wanted him to want me. Horrible.

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    967 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I was young and dumb…..it was actually an abusive relationship so I left….we were actually engaged at one point too

    Post # 12
    Member
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t really think “the one” of anything. don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and stuff, but I never really went into relationships thinking “this is it!”.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1994 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’ve been in love before, and even with someone that I hoped was the one, because I’d loved him so much.  But truthfully, the only time I ever felt that I had met my soul mate was when I started dating my current SO.  Even before we were very serious at all, I just knew.  

     A little off topic, but I had a similar feeling when I first met his mom too.  I just knew that this woman was supposed to be my mother-in-law one day. (strange I know!)

    Post # 14
    Member
    3619 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I’ve thought it before, more than once. Those feelings changed. The “the one” feeling I have for SO is totally different (not necessarily stronger just different) and I think myself silly for thinking I’d found the one before.

    Post # 15
    Member
    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I had one other serious relationship before DH and I kinda thought/hoped we’d get married one day. We were together for 4 and a half years and I loved him very much, but it was long distance and we were young. We’re still friends but I’m so glad the relationship didn’t work out!

    Post # 16
    Member
    700 posts
    Busy bee

    @Juliepants:  i was with someone for 9 years, never married, tg and now am with “the one” i wont spout off about her perfect he is, or how we’re meant to be. We just….fit and know we’ll be 90 in wheelchairs together  heh heh

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