Post # 1
By “the one” I mean the one you’re going to be with forever.
(I’m not referring to marriage necessarily, if that’s not your thing, and I’m not referring to the concept of soul mates since some people don’t believe in them.)
Post # 3
My highschool sweetheart, I thought he was the “one” but as generally happens…he wasn’t lol. He’s a good guy though. Just not the right one for me.
Post # 4
My high school sweetheart. I’ve known since I was 15 he was the one for me and we got married a week ago today!
Post # 5
I’ve really only thought that about my fiance. =)
Though I’ve definitely had relationships that were meaningful, where I loved the person deeply, etc etc…but with him, it’s like…this is RIGHT.
Post # 6
My high school sweetheart, which is normal 😛 Then, when I was 19, I dated my bestbestbest male friend. We were VERY close and I loved him so much, I really did think we’d end up together. But within a few months of dating, I realized I’d confused my love for him as something romantic when we weren’t compatible as partners at all.
Post # 7
I’m a pretty bad romantic.
I’m the one that subscribes to the beliefs that
a) people who have ‘soul-mates’ are few and far between. The rest of us have a small group of potential candidates that could work–essentially that the very idea of ‘the one’ is a fallacy for the vast majority
b) marrying the “right person” is about 50% alchemy and about 50% work.
So yeah, I had relationships with guys I thought could be “the one” but half the time, the alchemy changed and the other half, we weren’t into the work, as in ALL relationships take work, the difference is what KIND of work are you willing to undertake in the relationship?
Post # 8
I’ve had two “ones” before my husband. Both from highschool! I was for SURE going to marry my grade 9-10 boyfriend and best friend at the time (obv), and I was also totally going to marry the bf I had from the last year of high school all through university (5 years). As it turns out, I was just young and really naive. The second guy turned out to be the biggest turd on earth!
It wasn’t until I started dating my (now) husband that I truly understood what it meant for a man to be “the one”.
Post # 9
I had an ex that I thought was the one. We talked about marriage. It was a very dysfunctional relationship, though.
Post # 10
I’ve only thought that about FI.
I’ve WANTED to think it for one other person before (HS) but I knew he wasn’t. He wanted me to fit in his mold of ‘perfect girl’, and I wanted to badly to be that, that I destroyed a lot of my self confidence and self worth. When I got out of that relationship, I realized that I had never even imagined myself with him after HS; I just wanted him to want me. Horrible.
Post # 11
I was young and dumb…..it was actually an abusive relationship so I left….we were actually engaged at one point too
Post # 12
I don’t really think “the one” of anything. don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and stuff, but I never really went into relationships thinking “this is it!”.
Post # 13
I’ve been in love before, and even with someone that I hoped was the one, because I’d loved him so much. But truthfully, the only time I ever felt that I had met my soul mate was when I started dating my current SO. Even before we were very serious at all, I just knew.
A little off topic, but I had a similar feeling when I first met his mom too. I just knew that this woman was supposed to be my mother-in-law one day. (strange I know!)
Post # 14
I’ve thought it before, more than once. Those feelings changed. The “the one” feeling I have for SO is totally different (not necessarily stronger just different) and I think myself silly for thinking I’d found the one before.
Post # 15
I had one other serious relationship before DH and I kinda thought/hoped we’d get married one day. We were together for 4 and a half years and I loved him very much, but it was long distance and we were young. We’re still friends but I’m so glad the relationship didn’t work out!
Post # 16
@Juliepants: i was with someone for 9 years, never married, tg and now am with “the one” i wont spout off about her perfect he is, or how we’re meant to be. We just….fit and know we’ll be 90 in wheelchairs together heh heh