Split Decision- We can't agree on a house

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

This happened to us when we were looking. We each found a house or two that we wanted, but the other one hated. We kept looking and found our current house – as soon as the realtor unlocked the door we both instantly wanted it and loved it. Keep looking! You will find an awesome house that you both love.

Post # 4
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You need to find something you both want – keep looking!

Post # 5
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Keep looking until you find a house you can both be happy with. You are in this together.

Post # 6
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree.  There was a house I would have happily made an offer on, and another house my husband looked at.  We were both willing to go back to them, but we wanted the same basic things, kept looking and found one we both really liked.

Post # 7
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Never give in.  Neither one of you will be completely happy.  Keep looking until you find something you both can agree on.  As you look at houses, you’ll start realizing what criteria are more important than others.  This will help you narrow down the higher priorities.  Don’t settle for anything.  There are plenty of houses out there!

We bought the third one we looked at.  Neither one of us was emotionally attached (on purpose) but it met most of the criteria and we both liked it.

Post # 8
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@SpringDaisy5:  Agree with the others – definitely keep looking.

And do keep in mind that renovations are always an option. Just try to get an idea of how much something will cost. Here in Houston, where labor is cheap compared to the national average, it costs $3000 to $5000 to have a gravel driveway converted to concrete. (We’ve been getting a lot of quotes because we’re thinking about that ourselves.) And if some rooms seem to small, think about which walls you could knock down to create larger rooms (like turning a kitchen/dining/living room into one big open floorplan).

But a house is a HUGE decision so you guys both need to be on the same page!

Post # 9
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Another vote for “keep looking.” You should both love the house.

Post # 11
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@SpringDaisy5:  Choosing a house is a long term commitment, and I recommend not settling on the second house you looked at…especially if you don’t love it. Remind him that the problems you have with the house can’t be changed without very expensive renovations– knocking walls down/adding an addition to increase the size of the living room and finishing a gravel driveway with concrete is ridiculously expensive. You’ll both be paying the mortgage, so you both should be happy. To appease him, you could always try going through the second house again– maybe one of you would change your mind!

ETA: Lol! Just saw your update 🙂 Glad you decided to keep looking, good luck!


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