Post # 1
The longest amount of time my FI and I have spent together over the last 3.5 years has been about 35 days. We definitely played house & fell into a routine quickly.
I do all the cooking, I do the majority of the household cleaning & grocery shopping. He does ALL the laundry, empties the dishwasher, takes care of the outside of the home & deals with the recycling and garbage.
So here’s my question: Once you’re married & in the same location, who will do what? Have you even discussed this or when you’re together do you just both help out?
Post # 3
FI is responsible for taking out the trash, killing insects and if mold is to be found… he handles that as well. Typically, we share everything else 🙂 I usually cook and he usually does the dishes, although we share/trade off on that responsibility too.
Post # 4
In my opinion, it all depends. Before we had our son and I was working, we shared all the responsibilities. Now that I stay home with our son, I do everything. He still takes out the trash and washes dishes sometimes, but that’s it. To me, it doesn’t matter who does it, it just matters that it gets done! lol
Post # 5
The Boy and I have discussed chores at length. He’s better at cleaning and I’m better at cooking, so he’ll tackle cleaning and I’ll do the bulk of the cooking. If we ever have a garden it’ll be his responsibility (I can’t even keep a cactus alive). I do most of the laundry, as I’m very picky about clothing care. He doesn’t drive yet, so I’ll most likely do more of the shopping.
Post # 6
This has actually been the source of many an argument since we’re both pretty lazy! Fiance’s chores are really only to take out the trash and do the dishes (Blueshoes, he takes care of the bugs too, but I won’t let him actually kill them! :). He once washed a cashmere sweater I got him, so he isn’t allowed near the laundry, and is even more inept than I am in the kitchen. We both work on cleaning up everything though, so I think it’s pretty even.
@ Redtartan, my fiance also doesn’t drive, do people give you funny looks when you tell them that? I feel like people automatically assume he’s a loser, although I know if I was the one without a license, it would be fine since I’m a girl.
Post # 7
Fi takes out the trash and… lol, that’s about it. Well, actually, he cooks sometimes and does a lot of grocery shopping i suppose. I do all the major cleaning and most of the cooking… and laundry. FI will do some of his own laundry, but he’s kind of weird about those particular pieces, hehe.
Post # 8
lol this is fun to hear! I forgot to add “Spider killer” to the list. MY list. I’m really making my FI sound like a pansy here: but he screams whenever he see’s a spider. He was pointing to something on the calendar once when a spider jumped out. He gasped and tried to convince me it had bitten him. I swear he really is a guys-guy!!
Post # 9
We’ve also talked about this!
J is in charge of floors… I hate vaccuuming and mopping. I’m in charge of bathrooms, since cleaning them grosses him out. Whoever doesn’t cook, does the dishes.
At least, that’s what we’ve said… we’ll see this winter how things really pan out!
Post # 10
I work and go to grad school so he does all the cleaning and making of ther bed. It is wonderful and it makes me less stressed and i actually have time to spend with him now. i do a majority of the cooking right now–that’ll probably taper off. When i have finals next week, i’ll be doing turkey sandwiches unless he makes us food
Generally though, I’d like to do more cleaning. I take care of the cat’s room (litter box, etc, which i still do!) and vacuuming, organizing, etc. I hate clutter, but it is an inevitable part of my life.
I also do the decorating…he’s all “bleh” about making the house pretty and i’m all about it! Then he goes “oh i love what you did with it” yay!
I also do my own laundry. He’s not allowed to touch my clothes for fear of shrinking them.
But yeah….I don’t do a lot right now.
Post # 11
when we both get a job–we’re hiring a housekeeper to do all our dirty work! Vacuum, mop, bathrooms, etc…Yay!
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
@reccessionista: Hahahahaha, we’re the same way – I kill the bugs/spiders. The Lambster has a severe case of arachnophobia!
Post # 13
We are really good at splitting the chores. He does everything by himself now since we are not living together. He loves to tell me what he does around the apartment. He’s a really clean person and I love it.
Post # 14
@lamb: I’m a little relieved that I’m not the only one! haha whenever I hear a yelp I automatically go running with a shoe in hand lol.
Post # 15
@SaraRocks – No one’s been rude enough to do that (yet), but everyone who knows me is aware that The Boy is English. Driving is really expensive in the UK, plus in most British cities it’s not necessary to have a car, so it’s not unusual for Brits (especially younger ones) to not have a driver’s license.
He’s willing to learn to drive, but won’t be doing so until he moves here (driving on the left requires a different skill set; he’d have to re-learn anyway). But, we’ll be living in traffic-choked LA, so I’ll still be doing most of the driving…I can handle it. I’m not sure he can.