Post # 1
Not really sure where to put this…
I’m pretty new here, and just getting into really planning our wedding. Before I get too far in, I’d love to get some of your opinions on what you’re glad you splurged on, what you’d save on if you could do it again, and what you wished you’d splurged on…
Really looking forward to your opinions!
Post # 3
I’m glad I splurged on my photography! I’m not married yet, but this was number one for me, and I’m already happy with the e-pics! I’m saving on flowers… probably spending no more than $300, and I’m fine with that (for now)! 🙂
Post # 4
Glad I splurged – Mojito Bar & Flamenco guitarist at cocktail hour, Uplighting, Venue in general – the food was AMAZING, Photobooth (Basically anything that made our guests happy)
Wish I’d splurged – I wish I’d done table runners or colored tablecloths, the room looked really white to me
Glad I saved – I didn’t do programs or menus and I don’t think they were missed
Wish I’d saved – I could have done all low centerpieces and it would have been fine
Post # 5
I love flowers and modern arrangements and settings so I splurged on decor and also photography so we can have a good memory of it.
I will save on the dress because I will buy a custom made replica. Some people wouldnt do that, but I dont mind. 🙂
Post # 6
Photography, lighting, venue (museum of contemporary art, worth every cent!), open bar/food
iPod instead of DJ/band, smaller guest list (69 people were there including us), non floral decorations (turned out even better than flowers, I think!), no bridal party, my mom officiated = free
Post # 7
Glad we splurged on: Venues, Dinner/Drinks, DJ, & Bridal Gown
Glad we saved on: STD’s, Invitations, Program Fans, Centerpieces, Jewelry
Wished you’d splurged on: Photography!!!
If you’re looking to save money, definitely check into the classifieds, Craigslist, and eBay. You can get very lightly used items from previous brides for very affordable prices. When your big day is over, try to re-sell some of the items to recoup some of the costs!
Post # 8
I haven’t had my wedding yet but so far, my biggest splurge has been the venue. I spent 25% more than what I wanted to spend but in the grand scheme of things, it’s been the most cost efficient venue in comparison to other similar venues.
Post # 9
Not married yet, so I might come back and update this in 3 weeks (zomg), but we are splurging on decor, attire, and photography. Like kperry, we just have epics but I feel like this is what we’ll have to remember the day by the best, so I want the photos to be quality, and what good are good photos if we and our wedding are not also polished? Hence the companion splurge on attire and decor. Decor to me includes a huge flower splurge. We are doing half DIY through fiftyflowers for centerpieces and I order our bouquets through a florist. What can I say? I love flowers. They are quintessential wedding decor to me, and they make me happy. Are they a total waste of money? Totally. I’m not condoning it, but meh. It fit our budget, and I am super excited and hope they turn out the way I am picturing! And while I still consider it “splurging,” I guess in some ways I am saving on decor because of a lot of it I am buying used or putting together myself. But I count it as a splurge because it takes up a large percentage of the budget and could easily have been skipped entirely!
We are saving on our venue by having it on family property so obviously that helps a lot. We are also doing our own catering. And by we here I mean a friendor who will do it for the cost of food. We are going to give him a really nice gift card to make up for it, but he won’t let us “pay” him. He is a chef. We are saving on music by doing the iPod type music. (This is the one I am not sure how I feel about; it could work great, I might wish we had spent the money on a DJ. I really wish we could afford live music. We’ll see what happens.) We are making our own edible favors. My fiance is building our pergola. We are doing our own paper products, and though the invites kind of stressed me out, I am really glad I did them myself.
Our budget started at $5,000 (not including my attire), and I think we are going to be right in the $5,500 range, so I feel pretty good about that.
Post # 10
So far our splurges are:
my dress, photography, my ring (custom made to fit underneath my halo engagement ring)
and we saved on:
reception flowers (a family friend is doing them and i’ve purchased all the vases second-hand. however the ceremony flowers i’ll be getting a florist to do because I want a ‘living wall’ hanging in a frame and I’m not prepared to make it!), cakes (my aunts and mother in law are making them), music (ipod), transportation (cabs)
the one thing that is both a splurge and a save is our venue. we’ve booked a wonderful restaurant that has a covered courtyard which is where we’ll be getting married. so even though there is a minimum spend at the restaurant which is 32% of our budget we don’t pay an additional fee for a ceremony location or transportation
Post # 11
Glad I splurged: Photography, and last minute addition of cinematography. They were amazing and worth every penny. Also, food. Fantastic and important.
Wish I’d splurged: Not sure I have one for here… I’m happy where we DIY’ed and saved some money. Maybe hiring a set up crew to give DH some down time? We had a very labour intensive wedding!
Wish I’d saved: I wish we had had some clearer communication with our caterer, we overlapped on a few things and we could have saved some money on our final invoice with him. Totally an oversight on our part since things got really hectic at the end, hindsight is 20/20 right?
Post # 12
Wish I’d splurged on:
My dress. No, I don’t mean going overboard with crazy dress prices that land you in the poor house, but the dress I really really wanted would have been about $650. Being the tightwad that I am I went for something much much cheaper, because it was gorgeous and a LOT LESS money, but I now have post-wedding dress regret and wish I’d just gone with the original choice. The dress I wore was/is gorgeous, but the other dress was gorgeous and totally “Me”. Wish I’d just spent the money. Now I have to wait until the vow renewal to wear THAT dress. lol.
Sometimes I take the “bargain” thing a little too far.
I also wish we’d spent money on live ceremony music. We DID have a harpist scheduled but he had to cancel, and he was very reasonable, so we just scrapped the idea and went with music from the computer instead, but it was too quiet. I wish we’d found another musician and coughed up the money after all.
Wish we’d saved on:
The food/reception choices. I don’t know, but we wanted elegant, which is fine, but ended up with “stuffy” and it felt like we were putting on airs. (Wow, do I sound like my Grandma now or what?)… hard to explain but I wish we’d gone for something more low key and more “us”, but in our defense the choices in the teeny town we married in were very slim. But in the end I felt we overpaid for the tiny portioned fancy food and none of our guests seemed “at home” at the restaurant either. It was awkward. If I could do it over I’d probably have had something casual catered and sent to the huge house we rented for the week.
The cake: we searched high and low for a baker with good reviews and drove over an hour one way to pick up the cake. In the end it was mediocre; wish we’d made our own or just went with a grocery store cake as I don’t suspect it wold have been any worse. And we had SO MUCH cake leftover. We gave generous pieces to the wait staff and gave the rest to the airport car rental people who helped us out the day we left!
Glad we saved on:
Flowers. We made paper flowers, my entire bouquet and the bouts, and I can keep it forever if I want. It was super inexpensive and we had a lot of pride in the DIY factor.
Everyone else’s attire: we bought suits for my wife and our boys at thrift stores, nice suits they can use again, for very little $$. I’m glad we didn’t go with tuxes. It took a lot of time shopping but it was worth it, I think.
Post # 13
Oh oh!! I thought of one thanks to Ms Interpret!
Wish we’d saved on: DH bought custom suits for all the guys from Hong Kong. I told him not to and he freaking did (he paid for it, not me, LOL!). They nearly didn’t get here in time, and they weren’t the suits we ordered! Not even close!!! Right fabric, well fitted, but not the style we wanted. So frustrating and such a useless expense!!!!
I’d also have to say our jazz cocktail hour and ceremony musicians. They were great to have and DH was really looking forward to it, but we missed 99% of the cocktail hour so we didn’t even get to enjoy the music. It was such a bummer. I hope the guests enjoyed it, but none of them have mentioned it to me which sucks. Ugh.
Post # 14
In general, I think it’s good to splurge on things that will add to yours and your guest’s experience at your wedding and skimp on the things no one will remember.
Post # 15
We haven’t had our wedding yet, but right now we’re looking at:
Splurging on: food, open bar, live band (these were the things most important to us, we wanted to focus the majority of our spending on things that would make it fun and enjoyable for our guests)
Sort of splurging on: uplighting, hair/makeup and hair for bridesmaids (things that weren’t really necessary, but we decided we wanted as an extra touch)
Saving on: flowers/centerpieces, venue (I used to work there! free!), STDs, invitations, dress (fell in love with one under budget)
I know most people disagree with this, but we’re kind of saving on photography. I found a good photographer with great references whose work we both liked and we’re just getting a very basic 5 hours of coverage and a cd of the images so we can make our own prints and album. We might upgrade to 6 hours, but it’s definitely not going to be a splurge.
Post # 16
Splurge: photographer, bar, food, music, rings
Save: dress (I think you can find good things inexpensively), flowers, linens (we’re going for the plain ‘eco-poly’),