Post # 1
My fiancé is Filipino and I am Chinese-Cambodian.
We’re having a pretty traditionally American, secular wedding ceremony – but we would love to include some Filipino traditions: the unity candle and the veil and cord. We’re going to have our moms light the unity candles, then we had planned on having one couple (his cousins) do both the veil and cord – but his mom said it would be better if we had different sets of sponsors for each.
So, would it be weird if we had the other sponsors consist of the best man and his girlfriend (who will not be in the wedding party)? Or should we find another couple who aren’t in the bridal party as of yet? By the way, it’s not weird that we don’t have “principal sponsors” at all, right?
Thanks for all your help!
Post # 3
@killergiraffe: I hope someone answers this because I’m in exactly the same situation. I’d like to have multiple sponsors- at least one couple from each of our “sides”- but the obvious choices from his side are couples where the man is already a groomsman.
Post # 4
Hi! My FI is Filipino – I am Caucasian. My FI family would agree with your FI mom about picking a different set of sponsors for each tradition. When they were explaining the traditions to me, they said that each is special in its own way and those we pick would be honored to do this for us. They know more than me on this subject lol so we have three sets of secondary sponsors.
Also secondary sponsors do not have to be part of the bridal party. They can be anyone you would like. My FI and I are picking from our bridal party because our processional will be long as it is (the primary and secondary sponsors are part of the processional). We are also including the coins and the bible. So on top of the ring bearer we also have a coin bearer and bible bearer.
Post # 5
@MexiPino: I knew it couldn’t just be me! haha
@Brokensound21: Thanks so much for your input. The thing is, we have two close friends who we were thinking could be cord sponsors – but one is the best man and his girlfriend is not in the bridal party. Neither of them are Filipino anyway so I’m thinking it will be doubly awkward if they don’t look like they know what they’re doing either 😉
Hmm… what about if we have a non-romantic couple do it? Friends, or family members? Two women (e.g., his sister and his other cousin)?
The other hard part is that it’s a secular ceremony (he hasn’t been to church since he was probably 6)… so I have no idea what readings to do or how to arrange the ceremony timeline!
Post # 6
You are welcome! The groomsmen for our wedding consist of a few Filipinos whereas there is not a single Filipina on my side. So, when we do pick our secondary sponsors they won’t exactly know what they are doing either. I don’t know if you are doing any sort of rehearsal before the wedding but I figured that once we pick our sponsors we will explain a little about what they are to do during that particular tradition and they can practice it during the rehearsal.
As for our readings – we were told we can’t pick them until we do our pre cana and receive the little booklet. It is hard because I have seen so many nice readings but most probably wouldn’t be in the booklet.
Here are some links I found about readings and timelines 🙂