(Closed) Spotlight Stolen/ Shared. Family members can’t choose em.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m confused – so you are married or you are getting married.  You refer to you & your husband as being married already?? 

I understand how you feel about other people stealing the spotlight though.  My sister has been announcing for months that her & her husband are going to start trying to get pregnant in the fall so I’m sure she’ll announce the big news around my wedding in November.  Argh.

Post # 5
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

What makes it so the spotlight would potentially be shared exactly?  Because I can tell you, at my wedding, everyone did not follow me around or keep their eyes plastered to me all night and when I had conversations with people it wasn’t about all my wedding details or how great I looked.  It was a normal party which I happened to be in a wedding dress and had to make more rounds.  Are you worried that everyone is going to crowd around her or be talking to her during your vows? 

As for the spotlight stealing from your aunt, is that really all you remember from those weddings?  Or rather was it really just a blip in the night of activities.  Plus at those weddings, who all cared?  Did any of the people who didn’t know your aunt?  It’s likely you only knew because you are a relative.

I’m just trying to give another perspective. 

Post # 6
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if people are intent on creating drama and “taking your spotlight” *roll eyes*, there is little you can do so just smile and get on with enjoying your day

 

Post # 7
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3640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just relax. Don’t worry about your Aunt, I think it’s kind of cool, like “what will she say this time?” “Remember at such and such’s wedding when she said this?!” Haha, families. 

As for your BIL. Yes, they will be excited to meet the new girl, but it’s not as if they won’t be paying attention during the vows or speeches etc. You can’t talk to everyone all the time so in the between times they’ll be talking to her, just as per normal. 🙂

Don’t stress, if you stress about it you’ll just add to any drama. 

Post # 9
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3640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@molliechristine: Venting is more than fine! And yes, she is just a crazy aunt. 😛 Glad to hear that you are letting go. Much more important things to worry about. 

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