- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
The Stag and Doe for my best friend and her fiance was March 16th.
Her neighbours donated a Muskoka (adrondiak (sp?)) chair on the Thursday night before that C, the neighbour had made. Her parents decided 1 wasn’t enough and gave him money to make a second chair [for the wood, $100], knowing it wouldn’t be done prior to the Stag and Doe, however would tell the winner that and make plans to follow up. My FI was the winner.
I messaged C’s wife, R, via Facebook the end of April to see how the chair was going. She said C was working on it, but had got busy with work. R also said it would be best if I followed up directly with him.
At the end of May, I messaged C on Facebook and asked (poiltely) for an update on the chair. Something along the lines of “just wondering how things are going with the Muskoka chair, thanks C!” He said he had just started back to work, but would try to have it completed as soon as possible. No problem. I’m understanding. It’s just a chair.
Sunday, I noticed that R had deleted me from Facebook, which I found a bit odd. She commented on everything I did pretty much; and then all of a sudden, nothing. I messaged my friend, and commented on how weird it was. I asked her to follow up with C about the chair, as it’s something her parents paid for, and all hell broke loose.
She indicated that I’m a selfish person, that it’s irrational of me to expect her to go over and “freak out and demand” the chair (which I NEVER suggested she do at all, I just asked she follow up). She said it’s the chair they’re donating so they can take however long they want. Well, I’m sorry, but when I (/FI) win something, I’d like to follow up and ensure I receive it.
The way I (and my mom/FI see it) is that the chair that we were waiting on is the one that her parents paid for. If I was paying for a chair, I’d want to know if something was going on. Which is what I told her. She got really snarky and snotty with me, so I just said forget it. The argument/back and forth isn’t worth it for a chair.
5 minutes later I get a message on Facebook from C. Something along the lines of “Straight up, i don’t have time to make the chair. I’m working 12 hour days out of town. My house and family are top priority. I’ll give C the money back, sorry for the inconvienence.”
That to me says he hasn’t even started the chair. C also said in our conversation on Sunday that the chair was $40.
C has been weird with me ever since. I asked last night if she was mad at me; and she said she’s hurt because of what unfolded. I said “really? I asked you to follow up – a simple and polite request, all you had to do was say “C, just wondering how the chair’s coming?” It’s been 3+ months since it was won.
Just needed to vent and get that out there. It’s a stupid situation over a CHAIR. Had I known she’d react like she did, I wouldn’t have said anything.