Post # 1
So… rant time.
This weekend was the FI’s stag party, and I was happy for him to go off and have his fun… however, we did set a few rules. The main one being that he would at least stay in contact, just a few texts a day to let me know he was ok.
Its now Sunday night and I havent heard a peep- except some scary drunk texts from 4.30am Friday night.
No follow up to apologise for the drunk texts or to let me know he is ok.
I feel so let down- like he has used this weekend to be single again. We are getting married this month- now is NOT the time to play single.
We are fairly young and all his friends are single and big time party boys. They are exactly the opposite of what I would ever want to marry.
When me and the FI go out he is never a party animal, he is always wanting to leave as early as possible.
I hate being a nagging wife but I just wanted to know he is ok and when he would be home. (seeing as its gone 6 Sunday night and I havent seen him since Friday morning) I really do feel like he was playing single for the weekend. It makes me sad because next weekend is my hen and it will be all about him and me and our marriage- the exact opposite of what this weekend was for him. 🙁
I am going mental with the bridal stress or would this annoy you?
Post # 3
No. But then I would never have had the expectation that he would text me several times a day while he was on a stag weekend.
Who knows? His buddies may have taken his phone away from him after the first night.
Relax, take a deep breath and wait until he gets home.
Post # 4
@KateAlice23: I would be dissapointed to if he said he would be sending texts and he didnt mostly because he said he would and he should follow though.
like he has used this weekend to be single again. We are getting married this month- now is NOT the time to play single. – Isnt that what a Stag weekend is? Your last hoorah as a single (IE not married) man. Its the same for girls too. As long as he isnt cheating on you let him be stupid, drink too much and deal with the hangover with his boys.
Post # 5
I guess it depends on how much you normally talk. When my husband is away he doesn’t text multiple times and usually just texts at the end of the day to say goodnight. If he is a good guy, you are still on his mind even if he doesn’t text.
I would talk to him calmly when he gets back and tell him that you wish he would have contacted you like he promised and see what he says.
For your own weekend next week, it might be good for you to have some fun with your friends instead of being tethered to the phone the entire time waiting for him to call.
Post # 6
I think setting rules like this, is setting yourself up for disappointment. My now DH texted me the entire night of my bachlorette party (it was also his bachelor party) but my girls took my phone from me. So I had couldn’t respond.
This weekend is about him, not about you, but I’m sorry you are upset.
Post # 7
You are right, it is about him and i did want him to have a great weekend. I wasnt expecting lots of texts, but I was hoping he would text me when he woke up after the big nights out so I could know he is ok.
We normally speak a lot- this is actually one of the longest periods we have been apart for about a year.
I think i am just a bit lonely tbh
thanks for the comments
Post # 8
If the two of you came to an ageement about the texts then I would be upset too. He had the chance to say that he wouldn’t be texting you, but lead you to believe he would. I think he should have stuck to your agreement and had someone else text you if they took his phone away.
What did the text Friday say that were “scary”?
Post # 9
I think it would be nice if he could at least text you to let you know he’s alive! Once a day isn’t asking too much, I think. But, i’d put money on the fact that his friends either took his phone or have pressured him into not texting. Also, he may not even remember the drunk texts, or know that a drunk text should be apologized for.
Post # 10
pah that would annoy me, its not like it was a hard rule to follow and they couldnt do that one thing. Moaning about it to him will probably just aggravate the situation though but yeah it would annoy me, if it were me we’ve end up in a fight about it lol
hope you get on ok
Post # 11
I can understand because I don’t really believe in the “last hoorah” before your wedding. The two of you already made a commitment. Now it just needs be legal with a piece of signed paper. That’s my take on it. I’m sorry you felt that way the entire weekend. I hope all is well.
Post # 12
My SO left friday morning for a boys weekend. He said he would try to call. I told him not to worry about it and I would just talk to him tonight. Why did I say that? Because I trust him.
Do you not trust your FI? Cause guys are so much more appreciative when their partner is comfortable and trusting enough of them not to keep tabs. I know my SO will get home late and tell me he missed me. And I trust him enough to know he had fun but didn’t do anything out of line.
Honestly I always think there is trust and dependence issues when a girl can’t let her spouse go away for a few days without needing updates.
Post # 13
I’m guessing his phone was taken away, this is pretty common. Also, I wouldn’t worry somethings wrong or that he’s not okay – if something did happen and he wasn’t okay I’m sure his friends would tell you right away. Your the most important person in his life, they know this. Try relax.
Post # 14
I would be [very very] annoyed that he hadn’t kept to his word. But I also wouldn’t be surprised. Hope you hear from him soon!
Post # 15
And hello fellow London bee 🙂
Post # 16
Hope you hear from him soon. Try not to worry. I agree with pp that it depends how your often you communicate regularly…. If it was me, I’d be freaking out, but that’s only because FI always lives up to his word, and texts me several times a day, not because I ask him to, just because that’s the way he is.