Post # 1
I think I had a bridezilla moment this weekend….
My mom and I went up to my (quasi destination venue) on Saturday to stay overnight, have dinner, meet with our florist and coordinator, visit the spa, and so that I could have a second hair trial and a makeup trial. The hair was better (though I am sort of convinced that I just don’t like it when I have my hair professionally done…)
The makeup was not good. The spa at the hotel where my wedding is being held uses colorifics- it’s mineral makeup and was a brand new set of makeup. It looked like stage makeup on me!! I don’t know much about mineral makeup and have only ever had my makeup professionally done once before (for my sister’s wedding…) I liked a few things about it – that it gave a “flawless” look, and that it covered any skin irregularities. I didn’t like the tone of the makeup, the lip color, the fact that she put eyeliner on under my eyes making me look like a cat, and in general, I felt like my eyes looked small and dark around them.
Well, I told the stylist that I hated it. I am never that upfront about stuff like that. I almost started crying in the salon. I then pouted and was upset for half the car ride home (2 hrs). What is my problem? I felt like I ruined what was such a nice weekend with my mom. She is great and was completely understanding, but I feel really guilty now.
The main problem is that the spa/hotel is in the middle of nowhere and there are no other salons that I would trust with makeup in the area. Also, less than 4 weeks to my wedding and I won’t make it up to the spa/venue again until just a few days before the wedding….not sure that I would have time to squeeze in another makeup trial.
My mom thinks that I should call the stylist explain what I liked about the makeup to her, and then ask her if I can just bring my own makeup and have her help me apply it day of. Perhaps have her use some of the coverups and primer that she used, which I think contributed to the “flawless” look. I just want to look like a prettier version of myself on wedding day – not like I’m about to star in an off broadway show!
Has anyone confronted a similar issue…and what did you do? Is it me or the mineral makeup?? Thanks!
Post # 3
I think your mom is right, you should definately call and tell the stylist about what you did and did not like. Be very specific with her.
Also, if you don’t think your normal everyday makeup will hold up through the wedding, maybe try some local makeup counters for “free” trials, and pick up a few things of your own to have her use.
Good luck! I’m sure she will understand that everyone has a certain ‘look’ they’re trying to obtain for their wedding day, and yours just wasn’t what she tried out.
Post # 4
Ugh, I’m sorry this happened. Like you need something else to stress you out this close to the wedding! I do think your mom is right, if I were you I’d call the stylist. Be as specific as you can and describe the parts you liked and disliked about the look. As a MU professional, I have to assume that she’s had people critique her work and she’s got to be used to working with people who have specific looks in mind.
Do you have any photos that show the wedding day makeup look that you’re going for? If you do, I’d maybe try to email them to the stylist, if you’re not going to see her again until the wedding day. That way, she can see exactly what you want and you can point out how it looks different than what she did in the trial.
Post # 5
I’m sorry this happened – it is really hard when you have a vision and you can’t verbalize it to others!
I agree with the others – have her apply your foundation for the flawless look than you do the rest of your make-up – experiment at home and come up with something you really like!
I have never liked my make-up professionally done either and even my friends say it looks better when I do it myself – and there is nothing wrong with doing it yourself!!!
Post # 6
I made my makeup artist redo my makeup on the morning of my wedding because I hated it. My trial had been fine but not the day of. Actually I burst into tears and ran out and sobbed in the parking lot of the salon for 20 minutes (2 hours of sleep will put you a little on edge). She also used mineral makeup and I thought it looked so heavy.
My solution was to ask for a regular foundation with more sheer coverage; really that fixed the whole look for me—I loved what she did with my eyes, etc.
Maybe you would be better off if you did your own makeup? If this makeup artist is your only option, then you might feel more comfortable that way.
Post # 7
I like mineral makeup – I use it with a very light touch.
Sounds like your gal used totally wrong colors and a heavy hand.
I don’t suggest mineral makeup for your wedding day, tho. If you have too much fun dancing, you can sweat it off.
Find a good waterproof makeup and practice with it.
I think putting on your own makeup sounds like the low-stress way to go.
Post # 8
Thanks for the tips, ladies!
I think I am going to bring up my good old lancome and have her help me apply it. Maybe have her do a primer and the super special blemish cover up, but will use my own foundation, bronzer, and eye makeup.
It’s just so odd because I thought I was treating myself by getting professional makeup!
And @chelsea – I’ve seen your wedding pics and you looked great ; )
Post # 9
I used to work as a makeup artist, and bridal makeup 101 states that, unless she requests something specific, it should just be a bumped up version of her daily makeup. You want you hubby to recognise you when you walk down the aisle, right?
Most mineral makeup are not as “pure” as the manufacturers would like us to believe (they are only required to have ONE mineral in their ingredients list to be called “mineral.” Talc and often mica are in almost ALL foundations. Can you say “marketing baloney?”), and IMHO they are just another flash in the pan.
Tell her what you think honestly and don’t feel bad about it. It might feel uncomfortable for a few minutes with her, but that’s better than feeling uncomfortable all day in a makeup you don’t like!
Post # 10
I think if you hated it that much I’d do my own, and maybe get some help having my eyes done. Eyes are so hard! Foundation I could likely wing if I had the product and brushes.
BTW, I had some fancy HD style professional makeup done for my boudoir shoots. It looked good in BOUDOIR PICTURES but looked hideous in person. I was kinda scared. apparently it’s the kind they use on TV and film actors. Anyways, I’m imagining that and I know it wouldn’t look good in wedding pictures. I think the only reason it looked good in my pictures is because they all had a lot of photo editing and dark lighting and other boudoir style effects in the mix. Not to mention the trampy outfits i had on let me wear more makeup…but it also felt thick and nasty on my skin!
When I went to Sephora to get some makeup for a wedding i’m in, she said STAY AWAY from anything “mineral” because it reflects light and doesn’t blend well with other makeups. She said I can use the mineral veil ONLY with the HD Forever whatever it is makeup. I used Clinique Superfit for my weddingday and it was really awesome. You can return it if you don’t like it, so you can try to apply it at home and if the shade is off and/or it doesn’t wear well, return it. Nordstorm has such a great return policy!
DId you go in with your normal makeup on? The MAU i used said it’s incredibly helpful for trials if the bride wears her normal “full face” so that the MAU can gauge how much to put on and what colors you normally wear. The MAU i had two weekends ago apparently didn’t think i needed any eyeliner so i had to ask her to go add some on b/c i ALWAYS wear eyeliner!
Post # 11
This may be a more complicated and expensive option, but maybe you can look into hiring a makeup artist willing to travel for the day. A lot of them do! That’s probably what I’m going to do even though I’m getting married in a city just because I don’t like the salon in the hotel I’m being married – I feel like the do something very similar to what you described “stage” makeup. Also, since I’m having a spring wedding I don’t want to plan on having to leave the hotel at all before the wedding (assuming it will be pouring rain all day).
The only thing I would be worried about with your option of bringing your own makeup is that it might not be the makeup that’s the problem. But then again as long as you are very specific you shouldn’t have to worry!
Post # 12
LOL I need to post before and after pictures. This board is making me feel alot better though.
Post # 13
I’d write down pros and cons and bring pics of what you’d like to look like and talk it over w/her.
I’d also go and get a makeup lesson from a pro at your fave makeup counter or call ulta or sephora and see if they can help. Sometimes all you really need is a lesson yourself.
But if she made your skin look flawless, maybe that’s good? Just a different tint and go a bit less heavy handed on the eye. I know that with my eyes lined all the way around I look close-eyed too. I look best with liner on the top lash and the marilyn cat eye look but not all the way around. I’ve even gotten away w/false eyelashes before but it has to be done right. We’re blondes and can be easily overdone if not handled right..
Erin you’re beautiful and you’re going to be even more beautiful on your day! Huge hug to you.
Post # 14
Thanks ladies, I feel so much better : )
Post # 15
@Erin–thanks for the compliments on my wedding pics! They are thankfully only of the second iteration of makeup.
Post # 16
Aw that stinks! But you shouldn’t be mad with the artist, sometimes an artist’s vision doesn’t always please her bride, that is the entire intention of the trial. But, you have to be honest with them and tell them what you like and do not like. If the bottom liner is too harsh, that can be fixed, use a lighter liner or just don’t use it at all.
Also, if you see a picture of someones make-up you like in a magazine or online, bring in a picture. Some artists aren’t very good at listening to their brides and when you give them a guide, they can duplicate the look.
It’s ok to be a bridezilla sometimes, weddings are stressful! But just realize that you aren’t going to hurt the make-up artist’s feelings by being honest, she wants you to come back and she wants you to be happy. And I’m sure you aren’t the first person that didn’t like her make-up choices. There are 1000’s of lipstick shades and eyeliner, it is her job to find the perfect combination for you and something you both agree on. Best of luck!!