Post # 1
I’ll be planning my sister’s stagette in the coming year and I was just wondering:
1) What have you typically paid to attend stagettes?
2) What did that cost include?
3) What do you personally think is “too high”? What is reasonable?
I’d ideally like to not charge the guests ANYTHING but I’m making a list of items and are already things are adding up. As the maid of honour, I will be footing most of the bill but it would be nice to get a little help with some pre-drink/eat food and booze.
Just wanted to get some general feedback.
Post # 3
@mscuppycake: As a single girl I would happily pay $50, but as a married chick with a baby on the way, I would try to still do near $50, but it would be SUPER hard!
Post # 4
Etiquette Snob here… lol
First let me say CONGRATULATIONS on thinking this thru long in advance… as that is half the battle.
Technically, for good etiquette you shouldn’t be charging your Guests to attend (altho it is totally acceptable to come up with an amount they can contribute towards the Bride’s share**). What you have to do is plan an event that your Attendees can afford with both those considerations in mind… their share, and what they need to put in to cover the Bride.
** Most polite however if you don’t DICTATE that amount, and just collect “contributions”
What you might want to do is if it is a small group (say just the Bridesmaids) is have a sit down and work out a plan that works for all of you
If it is a larger group, then you might have to make some phonecalls to get ideas, and find out what each person could spend for themselves, as well as “throw in” for the Bride
And then after that plan an event that is affordable for everyone.
Anotherwords, if I am a friend and you call me, and I say, I can afford $ 50 for me, and $ 50 for the Bride. Then you know pretty clearly you are planning a Dinner or a trip to a Spa, in that the $ 50 for myself would only be able to cover those kind of expenses (not a weekend away. You really have to plan for the lowest denominator). The “extra money” that comes in can be put toward the Bride, be that for Gifts or Entertainment… ie We all go to the Spa for Manis ($50)… but you get the Bride a Massage too… or better yet, a “Bride” Robe and a Gift Certificate for a full day treatment the week before the Wedding / Gift Certificate, etc.
Hope this helps,
Post # 5
$50-75…up to 100 more if its worth it for a show if you’re going somewhere fun.
Post # 6
I paid $450 to go away for 1 night to Atlantic City. We went out for dinner at an expensive restaurant and split the cost for the bride ($100 dinner), the room ($75), she made us all get spa treatments ($150), and then other costs for gambling and eating and the splitting gas/tolls. It was way too much, imo.
I planned my friend’s BM. We rented a party bus, went into NYC for a comedy club show, then went to a bar after. I had a penis cake made that all the girls split anda asked them to bring lingerie and a bottle of liquor for the party bus. The girls paid about $90-100 in addition to any liquor they drank or food they ate at the bar afterwards. To me, that is a lot more consistent with a fun night out in NYC (most people pay that much WITHOUT a party bus!). I thought that was a lot more reasonable.
I think it depends on the region – going out in NYC for a night generally runs around $100 anyway.
Although, since I’m having a DW, I’ve decided to have my bachelorette party at the resort. There are a few clubs and I’m planning to do it the Saturday night we all get there (or Friday night, if people come early enough). It will be free bc we all already paid for the AI liquor, we’ll be on vacation, I think it’ll be a fun way to start the vacation, but mostly, it’ll be free for all of us. 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve paid as little as $50 and as much as $300+.
It really depends on what you are doing. $50 was for a low key, fancy dinner locally, and the more expensive ones involved going to a bunch of bars and hiring transportation or paying for overnight lodging.
Post # 8
Yeah 50-75 would be for transport to a club or something, plus contributing to the bride’s night. Best girls night I went to was at a cabin with a hot tub on a lake in NH…we did potluck, had a massage therapist come, a psychic and we all watched chick flicks, played games and drank way too much! The massages were paid for as a wedding gift by the bride’s mother, the MoH rented the cabin, and we put in for booze/readings.