Post # 1
So, my FIL & MIL, very graciously (and I want to be clear that I’m very appreciative of their gifting) gave some baby gear at our baby shower last month. Things have been hectic, so I’m only now taking it out to put together/look over, you know, two weeks before my EDD. :S
Anyway, the problem is that they bought these items second hand at a yardsale. That, in and of itself, isn’t an issue – the majority of baby’s things are second hand or DIY, I don’t have hangups about buying used items. But these items (namely a bouncer and an infant swing) aren’t in the best of condition. They’re dirty and stained and I found dead bugs wedged in the swing’s seat. Granted, that could be washed, I’m sure, thrown in the laundry. But it gives me pause and I’m not sure how to feel about going forward with using them.
Normally something like that wouldn’t bother me, but I think I’m in this “Baby’s going to touch it, must be clean, clean, clean” mode and I don’t know if I’m just overreacting or not. Not to mention the bouncer didn’t come with instructions so I have no.idea. how to even put it together. They also gave an infant carrier, but it doesn’t fit, so I’m going to give that away.
The purger in me wants to just sit these items out for trash tonight, but now I’m concerned that FIL and MIL are going to take notice that these items aren’t in the house when they come to visit and will ask questions and be super offended. 😐 And I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, I just…don’t feel comfortable using them. Do these items expire like car seats do so I can use that as an excuse? 😛 Or should I suck it up and clean them as best as possible and use them?
This, of course, will leave us without an infant swing, but are those very necessary?
I think I’ve hit a 38-week-over-analyze-everything block
Post # 3
I get that you’re in mommy mode, but please remember that babies build a better immune system faster if they are exposed to germs, dirt, etc.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t wash/clean these items, because it’s always a good idea to do that with secondhand stuff, but I wouldn’t freak out about it or toss anything.
Post # 4
Personally, I would have to toss it. Not just cause it’s for baby, but… I’m just not a fan of second hand strangers items for anything I’d even use. I’m sure it’s perfectly fine, but just one of those weird quirks I have.
Post # 6
if its at all good take it to a salvation army…if they dont think its good they will throw it out if it is,you did a good thing… see so you didnt throw it out you put it to a good cause…
Post # 7
I wouldn’t use it. I’d be worried about the bugs – you found some in crevices, what if there are more in the fabric? Ewwwwwww. I’m all for second-hand baby items when you know where they came from (like a friend or family member), but you have no idea what kind of household these came from.
Post # 8
@ZombieBullfrogHoller: Trash. Just tell her they didn’t work/ fell apart. I wouldn’t want to hang around in a chair that had recently been filled with bugs, so why would I do that to my baby???
Post # 9
Try to clean them first. If you still feel the same way afterwards then donate them to the salvation army or put an ad up on craigslist and maybe someone else you needs them would buy them.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If the stains are washable, just do that. It’s a perfectly good baby item that just needs a quick cleaning.
Regarding the bugs, the items were probably stored in someone’s garage for a few months and a couple bugs crawled on the thing because they like small enclosed spaces. A dead bug is really not unhygenic at all. It’s really just a dried up exoskeleton, about as gross as dried-up orange peel.
Post # 11
@lolot: I totally get what you guys are saying and completely agree. Normally none of this would bother me, so I don’t know if it’s because of my baby-panic-mode or what. Bugs don’t even normally gross me out (I was one of those people passing around 17-year-cicada recipes, haha). I guess it’s just the not knowing where they came from or what sort of bugs may be in the fabric like a PP said. Like what if there’s fleas or bedbugs or something and now the entire nursery is going to be infested (this is my flow of thought anyway, lol).
I think I will toss the bouncer, because I don’t feel comfortable putting it together without knowing what I’m doing. Plus, the fabric on the seat on that isn’t removable so it can’t be tossed in the washer.
The swing I will try and clean as best as possible. And run the washable parts through super hot cycles a couple times for my peace of mind. XD
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@ZombieBullfrogHoller: sounds like your plan is a solid one! I bought plenty of baby stuff on Craigslist, and I totally get where you’re coming from — baby won’t be touching it until I get it nice and clean. Bouncers are quite cheap anyway — you can get a used one that is already put together and works perfectly (with music and vibrating and all that) for ~$30 on Craigslist if you really want one. Odds are your in-laws won’t even notice it’s not the one they gave you, haha. Meanwhile, I’ve heard “that swing was an absolute life-saver for us in the first weeks/months” enough times that I defintely wouldn’t venture into motherhood without one, haha.
Post # 14
I have a new baby and that would be a no for me, I totally understand your train of thought. Second hand is great, but only when the stuff is in good condition.
Post # 15
I would toss it. Nothing wrong with used if it is in good condition- but these may not be.
Post # 16
@iarebridezilla: Luckily, I just washed the fabric on the swing and it came out looking brand-spankin’ new. I had thought these were stains that had been set for awhile, but I guess they just never washed it. So the swing is salvaged – rejoice!
The bouncer is definitly going out. Along with the expired car seat my family gaves us. Tonight will be a good trash night.