Post # 1
I am at 144 days on the countdown clock and I feel like I am at a complete stand-still on the wedding planning…. I would be okay with it if I felt like I had a majority of my wedding planned but, I really feel like there are SO many lose ends and I don’t feel like I get much support or interest from my fiance’ to really get things going. He has only asked one of his friends to be a groomsmen so far, he doesn’t seem really into the wedding on certain aspects but, on others he seems like he really wants to be involved…
Does ANYONE else feel this way?
Post # 3
@shellersbabe: You just described my life! lol We are 150 days out…and while a lot of things are planned, most of it has yet to be acted upon because he is dragging his feet. Soooo frustrating! Its like he thinks….oh, weve got all this time, no rush. The man must be delusional! 😉
Post # 4
@shellersbabe: Same here! 158 days and I feel like it isn’t going to happen on time. I feel like he thinks it’s going to plan itself!
Post # 5
Make your life easier. When you want his input, stop asking open ended questions. Provide 3 acceptable options and ask him to pick his favorite. Accept the fact that he doesn’t care what flowers you have in your bouquet or on the tables. Most men can’t tell the difference between a peony, cabbage rose and a dahlia, let alone the slight shade differences in color. Take advantage of his interests. If he wants to be involved in certain aspects, encourage him! And for the parts where he could care less, ask someone else who IS interested. This is what mothers, FMILs and bridesmaids are for.
Post # 6
Are you feeling overwhelmed because you have so much to do that you don’t know where to start? I would suggest making up a checklist kid things to do and your them in order of priority, then go through that list methodically. That might help you get direction. As for your FI not helping – I guess he’s probably not interested in the small details. Try picking some things he might be interested in, for example the food or the music, and make that his responsibility.
Post # 7
I mean, everyone has told me – just do it on your own… the guy will just show up… Okay, I could TOTALLY do that – but, then if I act on something without him..he’s like – well why wouldn’t you include me in that decision.. Ummmm HELLO? Ask the 3 other people you want to be int he wedding and THEN we’ll talk…. cuz right now – his one guy is gonna feel pretty snazzy with 5 beatuiful bridesmaids on his arms. I may have to make an extra wide isle to walk down. Maybe I will let him plan that part out… 😉 LOL – Ugh!!!
Thank you ladies for letting me know that i’m not the ONLY one feeling this way… So stressed.. and i’m a stress eater.. which is NOT a good thing… Sigh!
Post # 8
@MariContrary: It’s not even just the little things. Heck I am a simple girl.. I don’t know the difference between those flowers either… I just feel that it’s closer than he thinks it is and we have so much to do… So yes, I think @aliciaspinnet hit it on the head… so much to do – or maybe not – but, i feel like there is.. and i don’t know where to begin.