Standard Groom and Groomsman attire rules

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not sure what the rules are, but my FI is wearing a different tie than his groomsmen and keeping everything else the same.

Post # 3
380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Cottage on the Creek

Thinks I have seen that looked good-

-different suit color IE light grey for GM darker grey for groom

-different tie color for groom

-bow tie for groom, regular tie for GM (or vice versa)

-groom wears a vest/cumberbund, GM do not

-groom wears a different colored shirt under suit than GM


Also, the groom typically has a boutineer that is different than the GM boutineers

Post # 4
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I’m not sure if there’s really a specific set of rules? We haven’t decided anything concrete just yet, but we’re thinking having his suit a darker gray than his groomsmen, or possibly giving him a jacket while his groomsmen only wear vests.

Post # 5
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There are many sets of rules you could choose to follow.  Classic rules of men’s attire are one.  

American wedding rules/traditions are another; within this there are two trains of thought.  One is that the men should be mostly identical, and the other is that the groom should stand out.

Are you talking about suits, formal wear, or rented tuxedos with coloured accessories?

Post # 7
7030 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

scarlettbegonias87:  No special rules. I’ve seen grooms dressed identically to the groomsmen, grooms dressed a little different, and grooms dressed to stand out. It’s all a matter of personal taste. People can usually pick the groom anyway, because he’s the one standing next to the bride and smiling 🙂

Post # 8
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

scarlettbegonias87:  Well then, there are basically three ways to go:

Identical/very similar: same or close colour of suits & ties, same details of the suits.

A little different: groom could be in a different tie, in a 3-piece suit with the others in 2-piece, a double breasted suit wit groomsmen in sigle breasted (or vice versa), groom in a peak lapel suit with groomsmen in notches (or vice versa).

Very different: Groom in a different coloured suit (e.g. groomsmen in grey, groom in navy)

Post # 9
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know about rules, but DH had the same tux & tie as the GMs, but a more elaborate bout and a different vest. Most of the weddings I go to have all the guys dressed identically, so that seems to be the norm for my group.

Post # 10
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Usually there is some differiation whether it be a different tie, suit, shirt, vest, or even just a different boutinierre.  It is up to you.

Everyone wore the same black tux and white shirts in my wedding.  The groomsman wore a black vest and a purple tie to match the bridesmaids.  My husband wore an ivory vest and tie to match me.  The groomsmen had yellow freesia bout and my husband had a yellow freesia and a mini ivory rose in his bout (the flowers in my bouquet).  

You definitely can dress them all the same- but I might give him a little bit a different bout to distinguish him!


Post # 11
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My fiance and the men are wearing charcoal suits. Fiance is wearing a 3 piece with a black tie and red rose boutineer. Groomsmen are in 2 pieces with a tie matching the maids and a mini white gerber daisy boutineer.

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