Post # 1
Here’s the deal, my reception venue has an all-inclusive package that includes a standard 5 1/2 hour open bar.The standard bar has brands of liquor that I’ve never heard of like Nikoli vodka, McCormick whiskey, and Castillo rum. There is the option to upgrade to” premium” brands ie Absolut, Bacardi, Beefeater, Captain Morgan. Or deluxe premium (Crown Royal, Tanqueray, Jack Daniels, Hennessy etc). The additonal price per person for premium is $6, and $11 for deluxe. I was considering upgrading to the premium ($600 extra), because I don’t want to feel embarrassed by serving cheap liqour. My FH and mother keep telling me thay the standard bar is fine and that the guests will just be be happy to have free drinks, and if anybody has anything to say about the brands we’re serving, oh-well. I would like to hear your opinions and/or experience with this or a similar situation.
Post # 3
@FutureMrsMonit: I have no idea what you can afford. Personally, I would upgrade if I could afford it. But, for my wedding, I couldn’t, didn’t, and know one drank the alcohol. But, my family are..umm..picky drinkers.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
@FutureMrsMonit: We are going with the standard bar…4 hours is 10.50/person vs. 17/person for the next level up. If our entire guest list were to attend, that would be a difference of $975.
We are going to do a bourbon bar for those snobs :p and I honestly think that most people are fine with the standard. Why don’t you wait to see what the final count is, and if the difference is something you think you want to take on, then do it. If we have a bunch of people decide not to come, we will probably upgrade!
ETA: We are adding on craft/local beers, and it’s something he carries regularly, so it’ll be no additional cost…maybe look into something like that if you know there is a particular item that people in your guest list like to drink?
Post # 5
I definitely think this depends on (1) your crowd and (2) how much loose $$ you have. My family would literally have absolutely no idea. They are Bud Light drinkers who never have liquor except in a super-sweet strawberry daiquiri or something, lol. FI’s family, on the other hand, would NOT be pleased with the well liquor.
Post # 6
We had premium. i dont think my venue offered anything else. However, it depends on your crowd. My crowd prefers Patron, Grey Goose, Hennessy, etc.
Post # 7
@FutureMrsMonit: personally i think it would be very rude of someone to complain at a open bar… should someone say something play it off like i did not realize what we ordered just heard everything was all included
i really think ppl will look rude and ungrateful if they complain and i can’t think anyone would
taste it all 1st … if you are fine with the taste then don’t bother upgrading make up some fun signature drinks and no one will even be noticing what booze is in it … if you hate the taste upgrade
Post # 8
@aliavenue: Technically I can afford to, but I’m trying to decide If it’s worth it, as that is money that can be utilized elswhere.
@gelaine22: @howsweetitis: I don’t believe my family to be picky drinkers, but there will be other people there like FH’s friends and family, and while I try not to care too much about what other people think, the though of someone going up to the bar and saying something along the lines of “ewww” or “what the hell is that!?” horrifies me!
@Kissed_by_lightning: My thoughts exactly! Me personally, I would be thrilled for an open bar. I’ve only been to 3 weddings as an adult (I’m 23) the first two I can’t even recall what shelf liquor there was because I payed no attention and the only reason I did at the third is because I’m engaged now so I found myself paying attention to certain details I probably wouldn’t have otherwise.
@lizzieb: The additional cost would be at least $600 because there’s a 100 guest minimum at my venue, so unfortunately there’s no way around that cost.
Thanks so much for all your input!
Post # 9
@FutureMrsMonit: i totally would not worry about it then taste it if you like it, don’t worry about it you can just do what included and enjoy it you will have a fun party wonderfulk wedding people will be thrilled no matter what they drink
Post # 10
I think I’ve finally made up my mind. We’re going to just go ahead and stick with the standard bar. I forgot to mention that the venue has a cash bar located in a general area, that welcomes guests from all parties. Anyone that’s unhappy with what we’re serving can utilize that option (even though I can totally see myself feeling some type of way about it)! Beer and red and white wines (familiar brands) are also included in the package, so if anyone is particular about their liquor, they still have other alcoholic beverage options.
Post # 11
We’ve been getting quotes in the premium options. For us it’s premium brands and more selection (standard only offers beer, wine, rue, vodka, rum, whiskey and gin). Premium brings in things like Bailey’s, and the premium brands of the 5.
Post # 12
@FutureMrsMonit: I agree with you on the standard bar. That’s what we did and no one was bothered!
Post # 13
You’ll be fine. I would appeciate an open bar over a cash one, so there wouldnt be any complaints from me.
Post # 14
Our package comes with the premium but we aren’t upgrading to a delux. I personally would upgrade to premium because i know both of our families love fancy brands. However, people should just be happy it is open bar.
Post # 15
@FutureMrsMonit: We did a standard bar (bacardi, seagrams, smirnoff, cuervo, etc) and no one complained. I think most open bars, regardless of the alcohol, are pretty well received.
Post # 16
We ponied up the extra money for the premium (top shelf) liquor bar. We had a lot of people flying in from all over the country/world and my then-fiance refused to serve cheap liquor to people who were spending all that time and money to come to our wedding. He felt very strongly about it and was, in fact, the ONE thing he insisted on in terms of the wedding.
Having said that, our crowd definitely would’ve noticed if we had served cheap liquor (many of our friends/family are foodies or are in the biz). We could also afford it. I don’t know that I would’ve paid the extra money if 1) no one would’ve noticed and 2) it was out of my price range. Just food for thought.