(Closed) Standing for a ceremony

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Standing ceremony?
    Don't mind if it's not too long : (26 votes)
    58 %
    Horrible Idea : (19 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have been to a wedding where we stood the whole time. It was a short wedding in a park so it wasn’t so bad. If it is any longer than 10 or 15 minutes or somewhere that would typically have chairs or that chairs would be easy to get then I would have everybody sit. Otherwise, standing isn’t a huge deal.

    Now at a museum or with 150+ guests I would have them sit. A museum is a nicer venue than a park and thus slightly more formal and that way everbody can see rather than having to stand on shoulders to just get a peek of the ceremony.

    Post # 4
    572 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I used to not think this was a bad idea until I read the reasonings why not to.  Will you have elderly guests? How will you ensure people will be able to see?  I’m somewhat short, Darling Husband is tall.  If I was stuck standing in the back, I could not see whereas if we had chairs, I could see.

    Post # 5
    780 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I voted for “don’t mind…” As long as the ceremony isn’t LENGTHY and the location is nice and scenic.  And certainly have to pick a day where the WEATHER is NICE!!! 

    And I would probably let guests know that too.  Find an elegant way to word it.  I would love to know to save my spiked heels for a different type of ceremony!! Tee hee…

    Post # 7
    780 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @kfricke89:I agree about the larger number of guests.  I’ve always pegged standing ceremonies for smaller, more initmate guest lists.

    Post # 9
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have been to a standing ceremony and it was fine – it was really roomy so everyone could see and there were chairs at the front for the elderly.

    The ceremony was short (about 10 min) which made it nice because you were engaged in the ceremony the whole time and I didn’t get bored and start to think about the fact that I was standing.

    Post # 10
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wouldn’t recommend it with that amount of guests. It’s a sure bet that not everyone will be able to see the ceremony even if you guys are a little higher than everybody else. Also, there will need to be seating for the elderly. I know my dad wouldn’t be able to stand for 10 or 15 minutes (he uses a cane).

    Post # 11
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i went to a ceremony that was probably 20 minutes with 50 guests and we stood. they had a few seats in the front for family and elderly guests.

    i could not see a thing. it was really annoying – i basically missed the whole ceremony because i was so concentrated on standing on my toes and trying not to fall over (but still not tall enough to see) and swaying around to try to get a view.

    Post # 12
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I went to a small wedding at a lake where the guests stood during the ceremony.  They had chairs for the elderly guests.  It was ok because it was a pretty small wedding (maybe 50 people?).  But there were two problems that I noticed.  

    1. Women standing in grass in high heels = sinking.  Not fun.

    2. No one really knew where to stand, so people were sort of scattered around.  

    Is there a particular reason why you want to have a standing wedding?  Ex: everyone stands around you, have it feel more spontaneous or informal, etc.  

    Post # 13
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    For such a large guest list I wouldn’t recommend a standing ceremony. Your elderly guests will tire, ladies with heels will be uncomfortable and short people (like me!) who don’t realize it’s a standing ceremony will inevitably sit behind someone tall and not be able to see!

    Post # 14
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think its a bad idea.  Even if you have seating for the elderly, people (especially with the number of guests you’re planning on) won’t be able to see.  As a guest, that would really annoy me a lot.  I’m coming to see you get married and if I can’t see the whole ceremony, what’s the point?

    Post # 15
    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’ve been to a standing ceremony and personally I hated it. It was hot outside and when I’m standing in one spot like that and its hot I feel dizzy and faint and I couldn’t see a thing. 

    With that many guests the majority of people won’t be able to see your ceremony at all. However, if you decide to go ahead at the very least you should have seating for elderly people because you really can’t expect them to stand, even for a short ceremony.

    Post # 16
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011


    We’re having a standing ceremony, with the following conditions:

    1. Our ceremony will be less than 10 mintues

    2. We will have chairs for guests who have trouble standing

    3. It’s in a backyard

    4. We’re only having around 70 people.

    So I definitely don’t think there’s anything intrinsically wrong with it, but with 150+ guests, I think that might be too much – people in the back won’t be able to see or hear very well at all.

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