Standing-room only ceremony: is it ever okay? (POLL)

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is a standing-room only ceremony acceptable?
    In this situation (short, sweet, small), yes. : (9 votes)
    12 %
    In this situation, yes, but only if you provide priority seating for the guests who require it. : (26 votes)
    36 %
    No, it's never okay. : (38 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 2
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    As long as people kind of know what to expect, I think it’s fine! My sister was going to be married at the city courthouse and was told that only 5-10 people would be able to fit and sit, everyone else would either have to stand or wait outside. We knew this was going to be the case but when we got there, they luckily had the bigger room available and everybody was able to sit. I hoenstly think it would have been fine either way! 

    Post # 3
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    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Hmm….I think I would be okay with it for less than 10 minutes. I would probably complain to my SO but not to the bride/groom. It really is not ideal especially if it isnt a space thing but rather that you dont want to spend the money. I just find it a bit….rude as a host. I think I would understand if chairs were NOT allowed or truly didnt fit.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    MrsRevolutionize:  we got married on the beach in Mexico & our ceremony was also about 15 minutes or less. We didn’t do any sort of seating, but we only had 4 guests and the hotel wanted to charge us over $100 for chair rentals. We figured if we are standing, they can too- and they would have as BM’s or GM’s anyway….. however, I know the bees are not fans of standing weddings really at all so I’m prob. in the minority here…. 

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m not a fan. Your ceremony itself may only be 15 mins, but people will be standing from when they get there until waiting for it to start, if you are running late, that’s more time. Then there is a processional and recessional on top of the 15 min ceremony. They rarely ACTUALLY only take that amt of time. 

    To what PP said, I don’t think a courthouse situation is the same.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I totally think it’s OK, as long as your ceremony is truly no longer than 15 minutes.  Ours was like 8!!  (But there was seating)–  I also think you need to make sure that you have seating for any elderly or handicap individuals marked “reserved” and have them ushered to those seats.

    I wish we would have done this– it would have saved $500!!  But my mom wouldn’t let us!

    Post # 9
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    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I voted “Yes,” because I think that if people get there 15 min early, you start exactly on time, and they are warned ahead of time so they don’t wear inappropriate shoes for the grass, this will be fine. If you will run even 10 min late, I’d recommend making sure there are enough chairs for everyone. People will want to get there early to make sure they don’t miss it! Some might even come an hr to half an hour ahead of time. BUT if all the guests have been to your house before, and therefore are not likely to mess up the directions, you might be fine.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I went to one of these, knew ahead of time, and thought it was fine. But I feel like the ceremony was around ten minutes or less. Basically everyone was outside ans were called to gather around when the time came. I thought it was nice and simple and fit the theme and couple very well. Note though– it was Portland OR so it was NOT hot– it might have felt different had it been.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    No, never OK.  Plenty of people have hidden disabilities.  Cut the budget elsewhere, as in something that does not directly affect your guests’ comfort.

    Post # 12
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    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    No, not ok.  Even if it is short, your reason is not wanting to pay for chair rentals so you are putting your budget over guest comfort.  As others have said, your ceremony may only be 15 minutes but people will be showing up 15-20 minutes early.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    MrsRevolutionize:   I voted no, since people will arrive early and will be left standing for perhaps as much as half an hour, which is a long time even in comfortable shoes.  I’d suggest providing seating for everyone.  

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Almost all weddings I’ve been to have had either none or very limited seating (for grandparents /parents only). I wouldn’t think twice about standing for a short ceremony as long as there are seats at the reception. 

    The only one with seating for everyone was in a church, and the ceremony was pretty long. I wouldn’t have stood for that one! 

    Post # 15
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    795 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I voted no. I think its rude to make guests stand – 15 mins can feel long and if its warm out guests will even be worse off. Plus, I don’t want to stand around in heels and like PP you never know what hidden disabilities your guests might have. We are having 45 guests and we are having 45 chairs. 

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