- 7 years ago
Hi Ladies! I’ve been peeking at WB from time to time and am now officially part of the “waiting” club.
Mr. CC (27) and I (26) have been together since May 2004, with a break of about 9 mos in 2006. Ever since we were reunited, it’s been pretty fabulous.
Within the past year or two, I’ve been trying to make a plan, for myself. I would like to go back to school at some point, and I think next year (June 2012-May 2013) will be the time. FYI, it’s a grad program run by Middlebury College where, in the time above, I’ll study in VT and Madrid and come out with an MA in Spanish.
I only recently decided to push school back to 2012 so I’ll have a chance to strengthen my credentials. What this means, however, is Mr. CC and I need to decide how this affects “our” plan.
We’ve had just a few (2-3) serious conversations about “the future” (which involve me bringing up marriage) 🙂 Yesterday, I was determined to get some frame of reference for this process. After convincing him that I really needed some sort of timeline, he promised me it would be “sometime in 2011,” with “it” being our engagement.
I really want to go back to school, and I plan to do so, but that means we won’t be getting married until at least 2013, when I would graduate. At that point, we will be well into our 9th year together; the sound of that (and not being married until then) kind of makes me cringe, but I’m sure the time will pass quickly enough. On a logistical note, he thinks getting married before school would drastically decrease the amount of financial aid I’d get. He’s the practical one, and I’m the one who thinks with her heart, so I’m not surprised at that, and he’s probably right. But UGH!
Anyway, I also wanted to push him to give me a timeframe for engagement because I think (in his practical way) he would think, “why do we need to be engaged all that time?” thus making it a terribly long time for both exciting events. At least knowing it will be in 2011 gives me peace of mind that it will be happening in the near future, and that he knows I am ready, not just some abstract time in the future, but now(ish). I honestly feel satisfied with just knowing that. Also, this is conditional on my not bugging him about an engagement (so I don’t get into the habit! haha). He also said to me, “isn’t it supposed to be a surprise?” and I told him that yes, it is, but I need SOMETHING to go on…I don’t think knowing that is too much to ask.
So – that being said…anyone else planning on a long engagement because of logistical things only? Does anyone’s FH think it’s silly to have a long engagement, in this case, 2-3 years? And lastly, one of my girlfriends at work said that I shouldn’t be asking him at all, since we’ve agreed upon our intentions already, and that I should basically let him do whatever it is his way. Thoughts on this as well?
Okay. I’m glad to be here, and thanks for any input, ladies!
*sorry if any of this doesn’t make sense…I have a very short lunch break. 🙂