Post # 1
I know traditionally (& technically per Emily Post) the time on the invitation is the time the bride walks down the aisle but i wanted to know how you were doing your times? Are you putting the time you’re walking down the aisle or the time you want everyone there? I’ve been to several weddings recently though where they didn’t start sending anyone down the aisle until about 15-20 minutes after the invitation said. I’m not opposed to putting the time I want everyone there on the invitation vs the time I’m walking down the aisle (bc some of our guest list is notoriously late haha) but I just wondered how everyone else was handling this. Is it becoming the norm to set the time as the time you want everyone to be there?
Post # 3
If I get an invite and it says the ceremony is at 5, I assume that’s the time it will start. I plan accordingly and get there about 30 minutes before.
I put 6 on my invite and we started a couple minutes after 6.
Post # 4
I put 5:00 on the invitations and that’s when I plan to walk down the aisle! Personally, and just totally my opinion, I think it’s rude to put a different time from when you plan to start, because I don’t like to make people wait…but that’s just me…
Post # 5
@SuperKate: That’s what I’ve always done too (and have been taught) but the last 4 … yes 4 weddings I’ve been to started AT LEAST 20-30 minutes after when the time on the invitation was. I couldn’t believe it!
@FutureMrsBPB: I totally agree! I think it’s so rude not to start at the time on the invitation! As a matter of fact, at each of those 4 weddings my FI had to listen to me complain about how rude it was that it was 10 minutes late, now 20 minutes late, OMG are they ever going to start it’s 30 minutes late!
I just wondered if somehow etiquette had changed and I hadn’t been notified haha because of those last weddings I attended that started late! Thanks for helping me make sure that I was indeed correct in thinking that the time on the invitation should be the time I walk down the aisle. 🙂
Post # 6
I put the time I was walking down, and everyone did pretty good about showing up on time.