Post # 1
I recently graduated and now have a short-term contract position that’ll end soon. I am now 21 weeks pregnant and in the thick of the interview process with several companies. A couple of these jobs are my dream jobs and I would LOVE to work in these companies. However, I don’t strictly need to work for a while (we are ok financially).
This morning, my husband told me that he doesn’t think I should start a job while 6.5 months pregnant and then take off a couple months into the job. He still thinks it’s my decision, but he said it may be a better idea to wait until after the baby is ~6 months to start a job. This way I would also get to rest, spend time with the baby, breastfeed comfortably, and not have to leave for maternity leave a couple months into a new job. We also discussed that he may also want to leave his job after the baby comes, so that we can co-parent and we can move closer to my family for a bit. This way it would be a chance for us to both take some time off and enjoy life and our new baby.
I feel a bit confused and I don’t really know how I should feel about this. I don’t have any offers yet, but it seems likely that I’ll get offers from at least one of my dream jobs. I don’t know if these jobs would come up again when I’m on the job market after the baby. On the other hand, everyone I talked to basically tells me I would be crazy to start a job now. And the idea of taking some time off together with my husband sounds pretty good. I know it’d be easy for my husband to get back to the market and get a job even though he’d be unemployed for a while, but I am not sure how easy it would be for me to get a job when I am unemployed, since I haven’t really had a full-time job before. What do you think?
(BTW, I also haven’t disclosed that I’m pregnant yet, but I am thinking of disclosing after I get an offer. )
Post # 2
I would hold on the jobs for now.
Post # 3
asphodel: Honestly? If I were a company I probably wouldnt hire someone who’s 6.5 months pregnant who will only be working for maaaybe 2 months before she has a baby. As you’ve said you havent worked full time before… just an FYI most places have a 3 month probationary period in which they can fire you for any reason they wish with no consequences, so I dont want to be a downer but they may just rescind the offer once they find out. It you were super newly pregnant it may be diff…but the time and hours it goes into training someone ….you’ll be gone before you even get into a groove!
Also with maternity leave you realize that you need to have clocked a specific amount of time in the workforce before you can qualify for any benefits OR time off! These these companies may not allow you to take any time off at all (no legal obligation after only 2 months roughly of working). Im not sure what the exact stats are in the US to qualify but here in canada its quite a bit… so I would make sure I know the ins and outs of that process before I took a job and check your employment contract if you get an offer. You may luck out if they really like you and are willing to bend the rules but just be aware they might not be ok with it
As for the rest I mean if you guys are planning on moving closer to family will that affect your location so much you wouldnt be able to take one of these jobs? (not sure how far they are away)…..if your able to take time now without worrying about money I would just do that!!!! Have some time off before baby and not be in a rush going back, that sounds amazing!
Post # 4
I was hired at 7.5 MONTHS pregnant. Worked until I gave birth, and came back, and what do you know? Still have my job and no I didn’t disclose that I was pregnant, didn’t have to and not legally required to do so. I’ve now worked at this job for 8 months, and was out for 6 weeks. I don’t think you’re crazy for wanting to start a job. You’re pregnant, not incapable of working. I worked straight up until I gave birth. I went in on a Monday to a doctor’s appointment, the next day, I back to the hospital because my water broke. Unless you’re a high risk pregnancy, there’s no reason you can’t work, unless you don’t want to work. I wanted to work, so I did.
Post # 5
I would personally wait, because you won’t be eligible for maternity leave if you were only there for two months. Technically they can’t discriminate against you for being pregnant.
Post # 6
I would probably wait personally, but there is no harm if you want to start working and someone is willing to hire you and work with you about the maternity leave. If you’re already in the middle of interviews I don’t htink there’s any harm in seeing if you get any offers. But you would have to discuss maternity leave with them if you’re offered a job. I woudn’t want to be given 0 or 3 weeks maternity leave…
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do it. But I also didn’t work through my pregnancy. As a mom to a baby who will be 6 months old next week, I wouldn’t trade any of the days I’ve had at home with my baby girl. And last night was the FIRST night in her WHOLE life that she’s slept through the night. I could not even imagine having to work right now. Also, my DH took 5 weeks off after baby was born and we had SO much fun being together those first few weeks. I also don’t think it’ll hurt your resume to have a gap in employment to have a baby =)
Post # 8
I would wait.
Not sure what kind of job you’re applying for, but typically you accrue a certain amount of vacation and sick days you can use towards your leave. If you start at 7 mo pregnant, they might expect you to come back within 6wks PP. Also you might have to take some more sick time after the baby is born for dr appts and whatnot, which is your legal right, but just doesn’t really look good on you (coworker’s perception), being brand new, then leaving, then coming back, then taking more time off.
Post # 9
I would continue the search and accept an offer f you really want it. You can always change your mind if you want.
Post # 10
It very much depends on what field you’re in. If it’s something you can pick up and be comfortable in after only a few days, why not. If it’s something that requires even just a few weeks of training to be comfortable in, I would be pretty angry as your trainer to dedict time, energy and resources to training someone who leaves after only two months.
Post # 11
If you interviewed, how did the companies not already notice that you are pregnant (I assume you are showing at 6.5 months)?
I would hold off on accepting a job since you are already about to go through a major life change, and adding in the stress of a new job may not be worth it, especially since you said you don’t need to work.
Post # 12
asphodel: as someone who is currently 18 weeks and am actively interviewing while still at my other job, i think you should go for it. in this economy, if you have the chance to do something you love or is a fantastic opportunity, you don’t have the time to wait 6 months after the baby is born. And trust me, finding your dream job in your dream location takes A LOT of searching and time.
I’ve put a LOT of thought into this (and done the research) While FMLA (12 weeks unpaid, job security) in the US isn’t guaranteed unless you’ve been working somewhere for a year and the company has 50 employees or more, Short term disability DOES usually go into effect 30 days after hire. (Some places health coverage starts day one, sometimes it’s 30 days.. definitely something I would ask about because typically that is flexible and available at day 1 / start day if you ask for it). Short term disability would be medical leave– doctors usually give 6 weeks for vaginal, 8 for C section. Short Term Disabiity compensation varies from company to company… mine reimburses 100% of my salary for the first month, 70% after that.
I still haven’t decided if I should tell them I am pregnant without an offer. People say they can’t hold it against you (and could get sued if they don’t hire you because you were pregnant), but I am skeptical of it. I still am not really showing so hopefully they think this ‘food baby’ look is what I normally look like. 🙂
Post # 13
ps. hope this helps and i hope you make whatever decision is right for you, your baby, your family, and your career!!
Post # 14
If you get offered your dream job I would take it. You could end up regretting turning it down. But I would not continue looking and going for interviews now. If you don’t get hired by the jobs you’ve applied for already then take the time off and start looking when your baby is older.
Post # 15
I would also take a dream job. I would also not disclose pregnancy until you are officially hired. It’s for their protection and yours.