- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
about all the money.
My parents are paying for virtually this whole wedding. We’re taking care of may 10% of the total cost. And don’t get me wrong, my parents can certainly afford it, they could afford to pay for just about anything I wanted really, but thats not the point.
The wedding is less than a month away and all of a sudden my stomach is in knots everytime something about the wedding comes up. Every little thing adds up and somehow the simple wedding I was planning is snow balling into something much more costly.
For example: Our reception is being held in the rooftop lounge of a historic hotel, half indoors, half outdoors. The outdoor portion has NO LIGHTING aside from a flood light at the far end. When we originally talked to the venue about the lighting they said we could do whatever we wanted out there as long as it wasn’t perminent. I’m thinking, “Great! FI is an electrician, he could easily set something up”. Then they tell us, “The owners have been talking about putting lights out there since we opened, we’ll work it out with them and the hotel will cover the cost.” EVEN BETTER! Then they tell us that the historical society won’t let them install anything out there because it building is a historical landmark and you’re not supposed to see any changes to the building from the street. When the building was originally built in the 1920’s, it was a hospital so there was no swanky rooftop lounge and adding lights for my 5 hour wedding highlights that they’ve made changes and that made the historical society mad. Then they come back and tell me that if we want to have lights we have to use a licencsed and insured rental company. They got us a quote $750. It went from buying the lights and installing them ourselves, which would have been super cheap, to nevermind the hotel will cover all the cost, to $750!
My mom said, go for it, we need the lights out there, its not that big of a deal. But its a big deal to me and little things like this keep driving up the cost of the wedding and I just feel terrible about it.
My parents have expressed that they’re more than happy to do this for us, my step dad even said once that he knows we’re only going to do this once and he wanted us to double our budget. But I feel terrible.
My bridal shower is next weekend, my bridesmaids are hosting the event and taking care of all the details, but my mom requested the venue and is therefore footing the bill. Before all of this is done and overwith, we will have spend at least double the number I originally had in my head. Its so overwhelming. I know I’m not putting my parents in any kind of financial bind, (They have art collections that cost four times what this wedding is costing) but I’m just anxious about spending all this money on one day.
Is anyone else feeling guilty about money? Am I just stressing out because we’re in the home stretch?