Post # 1
I posted about a month ago that FH lost his job. Sucks because he earned significantly more than I do. He received 4 weeks severance and was paid for the 2 weeks vacation he had . . . but we’re getting close to the official “end” of that money. Unemployment will help, but I’m starting to get really nervous.
He’s working with 2 recruiters and a temp agency . . . and so far nothing. He’s over and under qualified for the temp work (no experience in the lower-level software that he’d need to use, but could probably figure it out in an hour, but still no one wants to provide that opportunity to learn). He’s had 2 phone interviews, but nothing beyond that.
And to top it off, I was interviewing for my dream job, made it to the third round . . . and found out on Wednesday that I didn’t get it. Crushed. Absolutely crushed. The job would have meant a significant pay increase, which would have made me a little less panicked.
And then yesterday FH says for the first time that it’s hard for him not to panic about our financial future when he’s at home all day looking for jobs. Knowing he’s starting to panic doesn’t make me feel any better.
We have savings, but both of us hope that we can avoid dipping into that. Luckily my parents are paying for the wedding.
But, we’re now looking at moving to a place that has more potential because we realized that we can’t live on my salary, and there’s nothing for either of us right now where we currently live.
I honestly never thought this is what I would be stressed out about in the weeks leading up to the wedding.
Thanks for reading – it got a little longer than I expected
Post # 3
Money troubles are the worst 🙁 Even though its super hard, try to stay positive. Its not an ideal situation but it doesn’t sound terrible. You have a backup plan (your savings) you still have a job, and your FH is active about looking for another job. I think its important for you to stay positive especially to keep your FH motivated. I know way easier said than done but don’t make yourself sick over it. Good luck to you both!
Post # 4
oh man! that’s a terrible situation to be in. i’m losing my job 1 week before my wedding, and I made more than my FI. Luckily his job is stable and he can support us (with some major cutbacks, but at least we’re not drowning) while I look for a new job. I wish you both luck while he is trying to get his job situation figured out!
Post # 5
Thanks ladies – I guess I was doing okay with keeping a positive outlook until I found out he was getting concerned. He’s just not accustomed to having to wait to get a new job – when he switched jobs, he had 2 different offers to choose from (obviously, we should have gone with the other one!).
But, he’s an accountant, so hopefully something will come along soon – it’s not like he specialized in translating Shakespeare to Latin
So, deep breaths and focusing on the positive . . . when I come home from work, dinner is on the table and the house isn’t a disaster! I think just getting it out there helped a lot!
@denverbirdlet: Sorry to hear that you’re on the downswing at your job. Hopefully something will come along soon for you! Bright side is you’ll have that week to get everything ready for the big day.
Post # 6
Aww I’m really sorry about this. If you guys are open to moving that may really help your search!
Also look at your budget as closely as you can. Dave Ramsey has tips for how to live off of as little as $1,000 a month. Having a better grasp of the money you do have may help things.
Post # 7
Just thought I’d give you ladies an update – FH got a job offer last week! And he’ll be making slightly MORE than he was . . . and have less crazy hours! The only downer is they’d like him to start the week of the wedding – I have a feeling when he tells them that he’s getting married that week, they’ll be okay with him starting the middle of the following week though
Huge feeling of relief when he called me (right after the shower my coworkers threw for me at work). It was definitely a good week last week!