Post # 1
I’ve been under the assumption that I had plenty of time to figure things out before I had to make any big decisions regarding our wedding. I had taken care of the major things (dress, photography, venue and dj) and last time I counted I had 8 months to finish off everything else.
Well I just realized today that somehow 3 months has passed without me noticing and I now only have 5 months to finish everything else! Cue freakout. I emailed a baker I really loved and who was crazy affordable and found out that she was booked. OMG. Not a huge deal because there are obviously other bakers out there, but I’m starting to panic because my FI and I literally have maybe 1 day a month off together. And there are soo many things we need to do together to finalize everything! And I guess it also doesn’t help that I’m hopelessly indecisive and can’t make up my mind on anything (especially colours and flowers!)
We still need to register for everything, order a cake, figure out flowers (we’re DIYing them), invitations, guys tuxes and a million other things.
Am I totally screwed Bees? I thought I was fine for time but now I’m totally scared that I’ve messed up my timing and won’t be able to get everything else done in time.
So besides venting, the point of this post was to ask how much everyone else had done by the 5 month out mark? I need some reassurance that I can still do this! Also, has anyone else had to do most of the planning themselves? Because of work my FI probably won’t be able to go with me to many things from now on and I think I’m on my own for the rest.
Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
heyy girl 🙂
first – take a deeeeeppppp breath! I have six months left until my wedding and freakeddd out when my dad pointed that out to me over the holiday! haha but I realized thats still plenty of time to get everything together. My SIL planned her entire wedding in only 4 months so we can definitely do this. Make lists of what needs to be done, booked, and bought and start crossing things off. You can do it. Just get organized and clear the clutter in your mind of eveyrthing that needs to be done. Most importantly, start booking all your vendors. They book quickly but once you get your vendors set you will be FINE
Post # 4
I don’t think you’re screwed at all! I’m sure you’ll be able to find vendors; 5 months isn’t that short of a time span. By 5 months, we did have the majority of our vendors booked, but very few projects were finished.
We ordered our invites and booked our honeymoon at the 5 month mark. At the 4 month mark we reserved tuxes, booked hotel rooms and ordered table linens. Everything will fall into place, trust me! I’d just focus on booking the important vendors (flowers, cake) and work from there.
Post # 5
You’re totally not screwed! Most of that stuff doesn’t need to be done together. You can register for most stuff online, and maybe the stuff you can’t, you can split up and trust the other person to pick it out with color/feature guidelines from the other person? DIY flowers can be decided upon from online inspiration, then you could go get quotes from the florists and talk to him, then confirm the contract over the phone. Invites can be done online together. He can be in charge of the tuxes (with you giving guidelines if there are specifics you want). And good cake is good cake – you could always go to the tasting without him and make sure you get a flavor you know he’ll like.
Post # 6
You’re not screwed. Because if you’re screwed, I’M SCREWED!!!! AGGGGGGHHHHH!!!!
Our wedding is about a month and half before your’s!!!!
Lists are good. Try not to stress (easier said than done). Also, try to not compare yourself to other brides, especially those (no offense!) who have an 18 month engagement yet have the whole wedding planned out five months into the engagement. Everyone works on a different timeline.
My biggest stress right now is picking out and ordering invitations. Since we didn’t do a STD, we want to get the invites out in February.
You can do it!!!
Post # 7
I was married this past October. 5 months prior would have been around May. Okay, this might make you feel better. I booked my venue, ceremony and reception together, in October 2009, one year in advance. It was in May that I decided that the venue I had booked was not what I wanted and went on an insane search for affordable venues in the downtown area. I wanted the downtown scene with buildings and lights, etc. So I booked my new ceremony venue at a hotel and my new reception venue at a restaurant both in June. It was Memorial Day weekend that I went out meeting with venues.
I think I booked my cake lady in May/June also, and I was so glad I waited because if I hadn’t I would not have found this amazing baker with the most affordable prices in the area, I would have gone with one that was slightly less experienced and slightly higher priced and I would have had to have a plain cake instead of the creative one that I got. I bought my flowers, $1 Calla Lilies from Hobby Lobby, ahead of time, but did not assemble them into bouquets until a month before the wedding. I bought cardstock at Michaels’ and assembled my own invitations right before I sent them out at the end of August, it took me about a week to assemble them all myself. The tuxes were super easy, I actually called them myself and then when my FI was home, I took him with me to get fitted. Then you just have to select your tuxes and each of your groomsmen just have to go in at their own convenience and get measured. $20 was due as a deposit when you got measured. We did this through Sam Meyers.
And I did all of this myself, my FI was not really interested in the planning aspect, his thought was, “Just tell me what to wear and where to be.” So I chose everything, and I am a very indecisive person, it helped to talk through it with a friend or my Mom to come to a good decision. My bridesmaids offered to help, but usually I just did everything on my own because it was easier for me, I didn’t have to explain to someone else how to do something. We both work full time, I was working 2 jobs for the first part of the planning, until July, and we have 2 kids.
So don’t worry, you can definitely do it and it is not worth it to stress. Just think, you have about 180 days until your wedding, If you completed one thing on your list per weekend, you should come out just fine. Just prioritize and conquer! Good Luck.
Post # 8
Seriously, you guys are amazing! You have all made me feel so much better. I’m starting to assemble a list and now I feel more organized. Plus I talked to my FI and we agreed to go on Thursday to cross a few things off the list. I think I just had a huge panic moment and even though there is still lots to do, at least I know there are other people who got it done!
Thanks everyone, you guys rock! 🙂
Post # 9
Make the list- priorize the list- check what time is free on your calendar- start knocking off the items on the list one at a time!
Of course you can do this.
Post # 10
I am at 4 months (and 3 days!) right now. I was having similar panic attacks. 4 MONTHS!?!? **gulp**
I sat down one night and made a calendar for each month left (January, February, March, April) and wrote down my work schedule so I could plan around it (12 hour night shifts don’t leave a lot of time during that day to do any planning). I could’ve scheduled in FI’s schedule, but we have more time off together than you and your FI do. I had a huge long to-do list (EEEK!) from theknot.com (I suggest you make an account and just go over the to-do list. So helpful). So I took that list and started putting each task into a day/days/weekend. Ie., first weekend of January is invitation weekend (I’m DIY them). Another day is for punching out 400 circles of paper that I need for another DIY. Etc. I also wrote in deadlines for things (ie. invitations have to go out this month!) So everything is scheduled in, leaving a couple extra days along the way for things that will inadvertantly (sp?) take longer, and I’m sooo much less stressed.
Are you doing anything DIY? I also found it great to use one piece of paper for each project, write down the supplies I’ll need, and the directions (if it was on the internet…I just need things to be ON PAPER for some reason…a bit of a freak like that). Then I marked down what I already had, and made a list of what I needed to buy, so I’ll have it all on hand when I start the projects, and won’t have to put things off because I don’t have something.
I hope that helped? If not, just ask and I’ll clarify! You can easily make this happen, stop stressing!!
Post # 11
You are not totally screwed at all! You have plenty of time! Just make a list of important things that need to get done. The big things should go first. On that list set a timeline of when you need to get things done by and stick with it. Only having one day off per month isnt a big deal. We planned our wedding from Virginia and it was in Georgia and only went down to do planning type things (food tasting, cake tasting, venue walk through, florist meeting, etc) 2 times before our wedding. Youll get it done! In fact, throughout my planning I realized that I couldve planned our whole wedding in 9 months or less. Just take a deep breath and jump in!
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for all the great words of encouragement! I was super motivated to get stuff done so my FI and I have managed to cross a few things off our list in just a day. We went and booked the guys tuxes and we ordered our invitations! And we’re going to register on Thursday. Such a relief!
Thanks to everyone who offered suggestions and kind words, you really helped!