starting to hate weekend newsfeed on facebook……vent!!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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14 posts
Newbee

I totally get where you’re coming from! I’ve been with SO for 5 years and hate the wait! ive started avoiding Facebook after the weekend because I know that it will just put me in a foul mood and make me dig up a load of resentful feelings towards my SO that I know he doesn’t really deserve. Plus, I know that when it happens to me, I’m going to be putting it on fb and likely making someone else jealous 😉 the bee is the best place to vent these feelings, you will always find someone who can relate to your frustrations! 

Post # 4
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

I understand why you feel this way. 

 

 These things may be happening for them now, but it sounds like you’ll be doing these same things — wedding planning, getting married, possibly having children — not too far in the future. I suggest using all of these Facebook posts as a chance to get ideas for what you want. You know, to see what is available and how others are going about their events and special moments. You have all of these special moments ahead of you. I’m so happy that you have all of that to look forward to. 

 

 Also, this may sound odd, but you’re looking at what they are doing now and how happy they are. The reality is that these moments aren’t the end all be all. Who knows what’s going to happen at their weddings (if they even make it to that point) and in their marriages, what challanges they will face, and what’s going on in their life in general. 

 

 One of the things that I enjoy doing the most is seeing people live their lives. Seeing how they do it — how they interact. Just about a half hour ago I was on DavidlovesPriscilla.com (the website of Anna Duggar’s sister and BIL) and I was enjoying seeing all of the pictures from their wedding and anniversary, how they celebrated Valentine’s day, and all of the things they did while she was pregnant.

I’m saying this just to get across the point that these people on Facebook are living their lives, and instead of using that as a measuring stick for how you’re doing, enjoy what these people are sharing. Get ideas from them, see what you like and don’t like, realize that you have all of that to look forward, but it will be your life. 

 

 Take a break from Facebook if you need to. Just realize that your timeline is not their timeline, and that you have no idea how things really are for these couples or how things will work out for them.  

 

 

 

Post # 5
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Whenever I have felt this way, I have thought more carefully about my friends’ partners.  For the most part, they are nice guys and make my friends very happy.  But would I want to be married to any of them?  Hell no.  So, I don’t actually want what they have.

Post # 6
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137 posts
Blushing bee

Oh Hun I totally understand! I find I am completely sane and rational human being about the whole thing until I see a damn fb announcement. And in that moment all the things you know to be true about your journey go out the window only to be replaced by feelings of frustration resentment and impatience. 

what I’ve learned is these feelings are totally natural but the important thing is to come here and vent them so they don’t impact on you and your SO. Because we all know they do pass and we become normal again haha

 

 

Post # 7
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4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@Bettyboo1982:  Seriously. I all see are goddarn babies on Facebook. ALL. THE. TIME.

 

You think it’s bad now, wait til Christmas engagement season. It’s the worst (if you’re waiting)!!!

Post # 10
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Bettyboo1982:  This is what I’ve learnt:

– Hide who you can hide from popping up in your newsfeed. If I see an engagement announcement… I hide it to avoid all of the updates!

– You can plan your wedding to be better than theirs… well you can see what you would do from what you wouldn’t as well as ways to tailor it to you.

– When you have your kids, they would probably be dreaming they had a little one again. I have 2 kids and sometimes I wish I had a little baby again.

This is the best place you could come to vent. Summer is the worse I’ve seen so far. Engagements and weddings are all over!!

Post # 11
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I feel your pain! several Facebook notifications this month so far, and my best friend at work has just announced her engagement (she got back from holidays today!)

 

I just keep trying to remember their lives and their lives, and mine will happen when it is meant to. I love seeing my friends happy, but the little green eyed monster does try to make an appearance!

Post # 15
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Bettyboo1982:  I know the feeling! At least 3 of my friends are gettin married next year. I will be attending 2. I was hoping to get married next year 🙁 Both couples have been together for less time than my SO and me. It gets irritating but I try to enjoy the moment..

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