Post # 1
about the little things!! These are the things I am considering crossing off the list, completely. Tell me if I’m crazy.
Favors – we were going to do caramel apples, until I realized how much the shipping would be. We would probably be ordering at least, if not more, 200 caramel apples, which would cost $350+… when I was expecting to only pay around $200. At this point, I don’t want to think of anything new to make/give. Their favors can be the food/alcohol we will be providing, ha
Boutineers (sp?) – we have decided it might be easier, and look just as nice to just get the cloth to put in the tux pockets that match the vests. Then we would only need to get flowers for the host/hostess, grandpas, reader
Rehearsal dinner invites – both Fiance and his parents (who are hosting the dinner) think I’m crazy for wanting to send rehearsal dinner invites. So I think I will just tell everyone where it is, and include it in the agenda I will be sending them a week or two before the wedding. I don’t want to have to pay for them on my own and have in the in-laws think it’s a waste of money, since they pretty much laughed in my face when I said I was going to order the invites..
Sorry – I know there are more things I’ve thought about but now I’m drawing a blank…
Post # 3
nope, not crazy! 🙂
No one except you will miss those things!
Post # 4
I couldn’t agree more! I’ve really stopped caring about the little things. We’re not doing favors. I think they’re silly and a waste of money and time. However, I think our venue provides truffles for everyone now. I kind of want to tell them not to.
Also, I really thought about doing pocket squares instead of the bouts but my Fiance was actually against that. Surprised he cared.
Instead of paying for pricey centerpieces, my venue allows us to just use whatever seasonal one they use which is some sort of pretty potted flower and some votive calendars. Free? Sign me up!
We’re not doing a bouquet/garter toss but I stupidly asked Fiance if he still wanted me to wear a garter. Why did I ask him? He apparently does. Add that thing to the list.
I can’t wait until 10/23
Post # 5
@MUI831: I would just use what the venue has for centerpieces if I were you – they sound good! My venue actually provides centerpieces too – a square mirror, votive candles, and a bud vase … we are using all EXCEPT the bud vase, and using a vase with curly willow tree branches instead. I am still working on ideas for this, which is also going to be the death of me…
I am excited for the garters, but not for the toss, but b/c I got some cool Iowa Hawkeye ones! Is it sad they are my fav thing I have so far?! haha
I can’t wait until 10/2!! I keep thinking about how once this is over, what am I even going to think about? I don’t want to think again until after the new year, lol…then we will start looking for a house,…but that’s a whole new kind of stress…and not worrying about pleasing others, only ourselves 🙂
Post # 6
@MUI831: crap on the garter thing! now i feel like i should ask my fi…
Post # 7
@bee_elle: be prepared! he will probably want you to wear one. Guys like them for some reason 😉
Post # 8
Agreed on the no garter/bouquet toss. Also no favors (why? Everyone gets free cupcakes and food!). Only my Fiance is wearing a bouteneer (sp?) and it’s made of crystal that matches my crown thingie and both are from my sis from her wedding (something borrowed!). Our rehearsal dinner invites are being sent via email, facebook, and phone calls!
Post # 9
Oh my, it sounds like I am talking. I HATE thinking of all the little things, cuz honestly no one is going to care. I know this for a fact. I got maried only a week ago, had a reception at a beautiful restaraunt and did not notice anything in particular. It was stunning, but really I wish that could have just been the reception. Why did I want to have one at home???????????? Fuck, the caterer alone is a ball buster on my bank account. I feel the same way, their favors can be the food and desserts they are going to eat! At first all I cared about was the details, and now well I am just over it.
I want to eat, drink and have fun with my guests! It can’t come fast enough, I have silk flowers I have to tie together, put sand in thre freakin vases, HOT glue some pearls onto my cardbox, make some wish cards that I just HAD to HAVE!!! I was going to do candy bars as favors cuz my mother made the wrapper thingie and I figured it couldn’t be that expensive. I have Christmas lights I want to hang up, and I need to buy some more battery operated votive candles, all things I do not feel like doing. Also some eggplant fabric to decide what to do with!! I even bought 10 chair sashes in eggplant about 2 months ago when I was all gung ho about this crap! Sometimes I wish I never found the Bee cuz it messes with your head! We really do not need all this crap! Oh that felt good, I like this post cherrycoke!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
There is nothing wrong with adjusting your priorities. I definitely still care about our details. But if you don’t, why bother?
Post # 11
I hear ya! I find I’m caring less and less about certain things and so I’m letting my mom take them over, since she’s wanted a more active role all along and to be able to make decisions (we’ve had a bit of trouble with control). So now that I don’t care about, for example, any of the decorations and she does, she gets to have control over that aspect.
Post # 12
Just make sure any out of town people know about the rehearsal dinner in plenty of time to adjust their travel plans and still attend. I agree that invites might be unneccesary as long as you are providing the info elsewhere.
Most people won’t notice if you don’t have these things. Especially pocket squares vs. flowers for the guys. You could probably skip them for the other people too and few would notice.