(Closed) Starting to regret my choice

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Don’t feel bad, you did what you had to do.  There are many people who will throw these kind of ‘I’m not coming then’ pitty parties up to your big day.  It is her choice not to attend, just as it was her choice to make up an excuse not to attend the dress shopping.  I didn’t ask some to be in my wedding for exactly that reason, because they talk bad about me and for no reason.  You can’t count on her to be there for you on YOUR big day so don’t feel bad for telling her that. 

Post # 4
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - The Cove Lakeside Resort

Man sisters are a pain in the butt. If it makes you feel any better I had an issue with mine too… My fiance and I have had a really bad history with my sisters boyfriend (as in he is really shitty to women and was resently charged and plead guilty to “unlawful contact with a minor” and it wasn’t the first time he has gone after young girls), and we would be happier on our day if he wasn’t there.

 

Well my sister apparently can’t deal with going without him, so she isn’t coming at all either. Now my family is ganging up on us threatening to not come at all either, and saying we need to suck it up and the wedding isn’t about us its about the “family”… well if thats what they think I don’t know if I want them there either. 

 

I hope your sister will come around and support you on your big day!

Post # 5
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719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@eliza_p:  That really sucks that your family seems to be taking her side. You weren’t the one that told her not to come – she made that decision for herself, and she also made the decision to prioritize other things over this role. So really, the onus is on her. 

@shopaholic85:  ewww, what a creep! I couldn’t even imagine. Were they not together when this all happened? And she still sticks by him? I hope your family snaps out of it. Though they seem to have made it perfectly clear that your wedding is not about you, but instead about her er, “the family”…

 

Post # 6
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - The Cove Lakeside Resort

@_Adelaide_:  They were together when the incident he was charged with occured, and they are still together now. She thinks hes inocent, they have made A LOT of excuses for what he did (i.e. he was depressed because he had to move away from my sister, lost his job, he was living with his parents blah, blah, blah. but those are not good reasons for going after a 16 year old girl when you are 26) heck at one point they were accusing the government of doctoring the evidence to make him look guilty. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@shopaholic85:  ewww. that’s terrible. I don’t know, I’m not one of those “but they’re family” type people. the less chaos, the better, imo.

Post # 8
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@shopaholic85:  Haha, I think either they should stick with “he’s innocent and the charges are completely unfounded” or “he has excuses for what he did”, but coming up with both makes him sound very guilty 😛

Post # 9
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@eliza_p:  So you kicked her out of your bridal party because she was busy? Wow…

Post # 12
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@eliza_p:  So what did she actually say when she told you that seeing and spending time with other people was a priority, and when she lied to you about her reason for not showing up? 

Post # 14
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4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Seems like she is not prioritizing you. Such a bad feeling, I’m sorry 🙁 I am in a similar position. Sometimes just because they’re your sisters doesn’t mean you have to be close with them.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@eliza_p:  Up until the lying bit her behaviour sounded pretty normal.

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