Post # 1
Our wedding is less than 3 months away and while it may seem that’s a lot of time, it actually isn’t. We have all of the major tasks done but what I’m starting to freak out on are all of the smaller, detailed tasks. I’m looking at my calendar and realizing there aren’t many more weekends between now and then, so time is of the essence. Then I’m also realizing there aren’t that many more paychecks either between now and then…<sigh>.
It’s just beginning to become a bit overwhelming. Then I have a bridesmaid who isn’t returning my calls or emails because I have to stay on her to see if she bought her dress and what her travel arrangements are. My FI offered to buy her airline ticket and the sale ended yesterday for that. Did I hear from her? No. I’m also beginning to question if she’ll actually make it.
All of these things are stressing me out. I don’t want to spend anymore money but it’s a necessary evil at this point. This wedding is sucking me dry and I can’t wait to not spend money on it.
CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!
Post # 3
Can you delegate some of the things that need doing? Have you much support from FI/family/friends?
Don’t fret about the bridesmaid. If the worst happens and she doesn’t show, you’ll still be getting married. You’ve got to try not to freak about the things beyond your control.
Have you a lot of DIY stuff to do? Can you prioritise/delegate/scrap any of it?
My FSIL offered to buy our Unity Candle set, and a few other bits like that, thinking herself that the help before the wedding might be more use to us than nice gifts day of.
Post # 4
As long as you have the big stuff done, everything will be fine! all that really matters is that you get married. plus, most people don’t notice all of these details we work so hard on anyway.
Post # 5
You will be fine!!! Just make a to do list and keep several copies of it in different places so that wherever you are you know what you have to do and are able to cross things off. Prioritize things based on what is necessary, what is most important to you and what can be left out. I only have 2 weekends before my wedding and I wont even be here this Saturday! There are only a few things left to be done, but its still stressful! You will notice that especially as it gets closer you will be more okay with letting go of things that you had originally thought you were going to do. And that’s okay!! Everything will be fine – just dont stress yourself out or give yourself too much to handle!
Post # 6
Breathe! Three to four months out was when I felt like I was going to fall apart and cried over everthing. Make a list of every single little detail that needs to be done with the due dates for each. Take a step back from the list because it may be overwhelming at first. Go back to it in a couple of days and see what you can delogate. Sometimes having everything all written out helps you to relax a little more. I feel like I panicked so much the last couple of months and now I am 2 weeks away and am in such good shape I am just really excited for the wedding.
And clarebee made some good points. Don’t try to do everything. If you find yu have a lot on your plate ask yourself that if you were a guest would you even notice and if the answer in no then scratch that task or at least put it on the backburner.