Post # 1
I think it’s partially hoping/worrying that it will/won’t happen right away for us and just the lack of control I feel about it all. It probably doesn’t help that I’ve been reading everything regarding TTC that I can get my hands on 🙂 I’m excited and nervous at the same time! I wish we could start TTC now but we have a trip that is making us hold off. Any suggestions from those that have been here before? How do I calm these pre-TTC nerves! Help!
Post # 3
TTC is stressful for so many reasons. You want a baby so much, yet you’re terrified to have a baby b/c you don’t know if you’ll be able to handle all of the ways that it will change your life. You’re terrified about all of the changes that will happen to your body. You’re scared that you’ll get pregnant right away yet you’re also scared that you’ll have lots of trouble conceiving.
I don’t know if I have any good advice for getting over the nerves other than telling you that many many women have been there before, and they’ve all survived the worrying. …and it does get easier with time. Remember, even if you do get pregnant right away, you have 9 months to prepare for the arrival of your baby. The first few days after we officially “pulled the goalie” Dh and I were both totally freaked out. But now after 2.5 months we’ve moved beyond that phase to just wanting me pregnant as soon as possible.
This is an exciting time for you and your husband, so try to enjoy it! Good luck!
Post # 4
I’m right there in that boat with you! I’m terrified but so so excited at the same time. We just started TTC/NTNT last month. I’m totally freaked out because we are still in my parent’s in-law apartment and saving up for a home of our own, but I also have PCOS and was given a “fertility deadline” at age 25/26 (I’m turning 24 this year) so we decided to start trying now.
I think everyone feels this way, but you need to remember that this milestone only happens (for the first time!) once! I’m starting to calm down a bit and just be really excited about it all. Everything else will work out if and when it is supposed to 🙂
Enjoy the journey!
Post # 5
I’m right there with you! We are talking early next year and I’m excited and totally freaked out at the same time.
Post # 6
* Waves hand in air!*
DH and I have now in the TWW of month four of TTC and quite frankly the thought of not being able to get pregnant scares the crap out of me! It just feels like such a huge leap of faith and it’s such an unknown and uncontrollable experience.
My best advice to you would be step away from the internet! There’s just way too much freaky sh*t on the net and you don’t need to overwhelm yourself with all the horror stories out there.
One thing that is helping me through is knowing that for each month I don’t get knocked up I have another month to get a better understanding of my body and how it works. I’ve actually found it really interesting to observe the changes throughout my cycles and I’ve just started temping which is a real eye-opener.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 7
The first time DH and I did the BD for the first time unprotected, it really sank in like.. “whoa, I could be pregnant right now”.
Good luck, I hope it all works out for you 🙂
Post # 8
I’m more nervous that our TTC plans will be derailed again. This is the 3rd time that we’ve convinced ourselves that we are ready to TTC but something big always happens before we start. I really hope that the phrase “The third times the charm’ works for us.
I think because of our plans being derailed so many times, I’m kinda in the mind frame that ‘if it happens, it happens.’ I have an ideal time for us to get pregnant but with all the past anticipation, then discouragement, those ‘plans’ really don’t matter anymore. I am excited about starting soon. I spent some time with my 8 month old nephew which really convinced me that I was ready.
At this point, just hoping we get to the first step of actually TTC.
Post # 9
I’m in the pre-TTC phase – we’re getting married in less than 3 months (eeep!) and we want to start trying pretty quickly. FI is in his 30s and I was told I might have fertility problems, so we would rather not take any chances.
As much as I know that I want to be a mother in the WORST way, I am still terrified every time I think about it. My life is going to change forever – am I going to be a good mom? What will happen during pregnancy? Etc, etc, etc. I’m a nurse, too, so I know a lot about the anomalies of pregnancy and birth – and that scares the crap out of me too.
Some of the best advice I got from a TTC friend was “decide that you want to be scared together”. That way, you have the support of your SO and you’re being realistic about how things are going to change in your life. Now my FI looks at me and says “I want to be scared with you.” And while yes, it scares the bejeezus out of me, I get excited about this new chapter we’re venturing to open up in a few short months.
I totally understand were you’re coming from!
Post # 10
We just started TTC this week. I have a 3 year old son and am nervous to do it all over again, but I am also excited.
I’m charting (I did to avoid too), so I can’t wait to see my fertility signs start up again next week.
Post # 11
It is scary, but once it happens you have about 9 months to get used to it 😉 The lack of control definitely drove me crazy!! Charting and the ovulation monitors helped me feel like I could plan ahead over each coming week.
One of my favorite resources is http://www.pregtastic.com/
You can download the shows on itunes. Most of it is aimed at pregnancy, but they do have several TTC shows too. Listening about what to expect was really helpful in calming me down and adjusting to each next step.
Post # 12
I’m with ya! We are getting married on Saturday and then will probably start TTC in August after our honeymoon. It just seems like there are so many variables and I’m a total control freak. BUT I’m super excited at the same time.
Post # 13
I am right there with you too! We have talked and it looks like we are going to be TTC very soon. Totally scares the crap out of me in more ways than one and I am totally excited for starting a family. I am terrified that we will have fertility issues becuase my grandmother did. But I think we deciced that after 7 years of our time together it is time to add to our family 🙂 Not to mention I am 30 and DH is 32, so what are we waiting for?
Post # 14
@skibobrown: “You want a baby so much, yet you’re terrified to have a baby b/c you don’t know if you’ll be able to handle all of the ways that it will change your life. You’re terrified about all of the changes that will happen to your body. You’re scared that you’ll get pregnant right away yet you’re also scared that you’ll have lots of trouble conceiving.”
Get out of my head! LOL!
Also, I realized that my PMS symptoms feel a lot like what people say the first pregnancy symptoms feel like. I’m sure that I will misread the signs every TWW of TTC and drive myself crazy over my phantom pregnancy. Yup, that’s just the kind of thing I would do.
Post # 15
We eased into it by using the ‘pull and pray’ for 3 months after I stopped BC since my doctor said that’s how long I should wait before TTC. Since I knew that the withdrawl method is not exactly a perfect way to prevent pregnancy, those 3 months I did have a tiny wonder about whether I was pregnant, and started to really really want to be. Now that it’s our first month actually trying, I am less freaked out because I had those 3 months to process mentally. You’ll be there too!
Post # 16
I was nervous when we started TTC. We began in June, and I thought it would at least take us until December, so I tried not to worry.
Well, we were extremely lucky because we got pregnant the first month! Now I worry all the time. I’m reading books that scare the crap out of me when I hear about labor or I worry that something will go wrong.
@skibobrown: That’s exactly how I was feeling for a while! = ) Way to nail it!