Post # 1
We are considering whether I should return to work or not..our daughter is 6.5 months now. For those in the UK who are stay at home mum’s, if you are happy to share, what sort of earnings do you think your husband needs to make in order for you to survive as a family, and is it hard in terms of sacrifices?
I am so confused.
In my heart of hearts I do not want to leave my daughter as I want to be the one to look after her. But everyone keeps telling me not to give up my job and that she ‘needs to socialise’..I’m not sure I agree – she is so young, I feel like she mostly still needs her mummy.
Thank you x
Post # 3
@Mrsluckywife: I’m not a Mummy but my Mum went to work part time. It was better for my development as I was a shy child so it taught me to have to deal with social situations and after my shy stage – which didn’t last long I thrived in social situations even as a child. I think it’ll be good for both of you.
in terms of the amount of income that depends on so many variables, like mortgage, loans etc, every person’s situation is different.
Hope you figure something out.
Post # 4
The most important variable for me would be the cost of childcare. Who would be looking after her if you went back to work, and how much would it cost? Also, if you are still breastfeeding then you have to consider the logistics of pumping etc.
Post # 5
I am not in the UK but I am a sahm to 4 and we don’t make a ton of money but we make it work. I say look at all your expenses, see where you can cut corners to save more money like eat out less, cut out cable or get basic, downsize your cell phone plan, etc. Then look at the cost of childcare and compare that to what you make to take home… if you’ll only be working to pay for daycare, then it might be better to stay home.
Post # 6
@bridalprincess: Thank you, that’s helpful. Wow – mum of 4, that is amazing!