- 6 years ago
What would you do in this situation? My boyfriend have been on and off for about six years… maybe broke up for real about twice in that time for one month and the other time was about six months early on in the relationship. All the other times, my boyfriend says that I talk about breaking up with him every two weeks or so and says that I can’t stay in the relationship with him for longer than that, which apparently is playing a big factor in us not getting engaged, go figure.
While I understand that, I also don’t want to wait very much longer for a proposal and he says that I should just “try not breaking up for me for a year…” and maaayyyybbbee you’d be surprised…
But I’m having trouble with the not breaking up part. In part I am doing it because we are NOT engaged, and part of me thinks it’s because he’s 4 years younger than me, and I subconsciously have a problem with that, though I’m not sure. And *I* feel like I’ve been with him for the 51/2 years or whatever it amounts to, because no matter what, I’ve been with him all that time and it should “count” for something, lol.
I don’t know — I guess my question is whether I should somehow try to not break up with him and HOW DO I DO THAT? Or, at this point, should I just be like, I don’t care anymore, let’s just end it, because I can’t take this anymore… Honestly, I am getting really tired of the whole thing, sorry to say. Some people have told me that he may never propose, and that’s true, too — he may never actually do it, but my question is whether I should even bother to try at this point, when I don’t even know if I’ll be able to not break up with him or mention the idea of breaking up with him for six months or more.
Sorry this is so long, or if any of it is so bad. The rest of the time the relationship is really okay — great, even, just for this one part where we don’t agree about whether we should get married or not — he says I’m not ready, whereas I think I’m really ready now… Oh, and he’s a perfectionist, can you tell? Lol
Thanks for any advice you all may have!! And please be gentle, lol