(Closed) Stay w/ parents now to save for the wedding? Or move out & get marry later?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Move out…It’s not fair on your parents….They have a right to enjoy their own home with no clashing. i think they have been more than generous with letting you stay there whilst you finish school.

Also I think your baby would like his own space, as a family.

There is no problem with holding off your wedding for a while…Your relationship isn’t going away, so there is no hurry.

I don’t mean for this to sound rude….It’s just my opinion

Post # 4
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1433 posts
Bumble bee

I think you should suck it up and stay a few more months and get married sooner.  Set a timeline,  live like your broke and save every penny. But stick with the timeline. Knowing when move out day is will be good motivation to saving as much as possible.  I planned a wedding in 4 months. Stressful but totally doable.  Why not spring 2013? Why this winter or next summer? Maybe that would be a more realistic wedding date.

Post # 5
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2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I planned our wedding in six months and my mom thought that was crazy cause she planned hers in three. Totally possible! Also, making marriage contingent on weight loss isn’t always the greatest idea, if you want to get married in the next year! 

I say, suck it up, live with the parents another few months, and move out after the wedding.

Post # 6
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How about saving money and moving out when you’re close to your ideal weight? It’s nice to have a little extra money saved up. 

Post # 7
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4525 posts
Honey bee

I’d move out now. If you weren’t “clashing”, then I’d say stay for just a little while longer, since December isn’t too far away. 

Post # 8
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9147 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I vote for a third option: stay a few more months to save up more money and then get married in summer of 2013.  Unless you’re having knock down drag out fights that are permanently damaging your relationship with your family, then I say move out ASAP and get married later.

Post # 9
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This is the battle I have with myself in my head on a daily basis. We currently live with FI’s parents. We don’t clash and I’ve enjoyed my time staying here with them. We are currently saving to put a downpayment on a house and hope to be moving by next summer. His mom doesn’t want us to move out lol.

With that said, we aren’t getting married until 2014 to give us enough time to save up more money for a wedding. I’m terrified though that with buying a house it will be incredibly hard to save up for the wedding we want and I’m not sure what to do. I mean we’re not being kicked out and we are plenty welcome to stay but I feel like getting married and still living with the folks afterward is a bit weird.

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