Post # 1
I’m going to take a year off after my baby is born in July. I’m thrilled to be able to have the opportunity to do it, but I’m a little concerned about losing my mind to a lack of adult interaction where I’m going to be talking to my dog and asking her opinion on what shirt goes best with my black yoga pants. I’m also a little worried about getting into a “rut” and that my husband and I might lose one another as he works long hours and I will be home at the mercy of a (possible) wailing infant. I stay home in the summer thanks to working in a school district and I get pretty bored and lonely unless I make the effort to visit friends and family an hour drive away. I did look into a mother’s group and there’s one I might go ahead a join in August, so hopefully that will help me get out and meet people and not feel lonely at home.
So for those of you who stay home with your munchkins… any tips for me?
Post # 2
In the first few months, baby is going to be pretty inactive, so I can see how you might get bored. I also did a year mat-leave, but loved every moment of being housekeeper/mommy.
I did look around and found a great little group that met once a week at our local library. We’d bring our kiddos and the librarian would read to them.
..I probably shopped a little too much as well.
I scrapbooked my baby’s first year, and did lots of crafty things.
Sometimes I’d just drive into town, put baby in the stroller and browse the stores, just to be out and about. I had a fall baby, so the weather wasn’t conducive to spending time outside…but going to parks or even gardening might be fun as well.
Congrats on your expectant bundle. Enjoy every moment 🙂
Post # 3
urchin: Thanks for replying! My husband would have a coronary if I shopped more than I already do as we go to one income soooo I might have to curve that, tempting as it definitely will be. I’ll have to see what the local libraries offer. I like the story time idea. Thanks again!
Post # 4
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the_newlymintedmrs-s17: Definitely joins a moms group and establish a routine that gets you out of the house at least a couple of days per week. When I stayed home with my stepdaughter we would visit the park and library almost every day. Laundry was two days per week and cleaning the house was ongoing everyday so it was only a little bit of cleaning here and there. But after a while I started to get bored and grumpy so I was happy to return to work after 5 months!
Post # 5
I’m in the same boat. My plan is to visit the gym a couple of times a week (they provide childcare starting at 6 weeks) and to spend time out in the garden – luckily having a spring baby. Maybe I’ll also look into a mom’s group…
Post # 6
Don’t feel like if you are feeling home-bound at the beginning, that it won’t change. I mostly stay home with my 16 month-old (I work 2 half-days a week out of the house and also some hours from home). In the beginning, we were a bit home-bound, partly because of bf’ing, and also partly because my baby was born in the dead of winter. I’m timing the next one for spring 😉
We joined a kindermusik class, found a solid group of friends to have playdates with a couple times a week and also to switch off short stints of childcare (a couple hours here and there to help with getting to the gym or grocery shopping alone). Occasionally I get bored, but then if I plan out my week with plans to get out of the house most days (the number of days has increased), I feel pretty good. We go to a story time at the library, the Children’s Museum, etc.
Post # 7
the_newlymintedmrs-s17: I stayed home with my munchkin for four years before going back to work!
You definitely need a support system once your baby is old enough to get out and about with you during the days. I had a few friends and neighbors who, luckily for me, also were new stay-at-home-moms and we regularly got together for outings and walks around the neighborhood every day, with the babies in their strollers. We called our group the “Baby Brigade,” lol. We also took outings to a city venue called Artscape which has lots of free, fun stuff to do and was child friendly. Maybe your city or town has something similar?
I also visited the local library for weekly storytimes. It’s fun spending time with your baby, I loved those years so much.
Post # 8
beachbride1216: That’s my fear of getting bored and grumpy… cleaning and laundry (especially in the beginning when baby is a little poo machine…) will certainly keep me busy and so will the outdoors for the summer and fall. Maybe some orchard visits are in order…
envirobride: yeah there’s the gym too. I actually borrowed a friends copy of T25 for after baby in case plans go haywire with gym visits for a bit. I think exercise might be my sanity saver in the beginning. Good call!
Jess1483: That’s good to know it changes over time and you don’t feel so locked into your house! I would like to BF myself and I know it can be a very time-consuming process. We don’t have a children’s museum here in my area but maybe just the local public museum wouldn’t be a bad idea to get a membership to…
Post # 9
Sunfire: Good advice. That artscape sounds like it was great! I dont know if my area has anything offering free child-friendly activities but its worth the search…
I think that you’re right…trying to get a support system of other moms in the area is key. Unfortunately the moms I am friends with all work full-time and live a good 45-50 minute drive away (we met through work and I work about 30 minutes from home…) The friends I do have in the area are childless and are busy traveling on their time off. I’ll hopefully be able to find a mom’s group and some more local moms to relate to once the summer/fall kicks in. Thanks!
Post # 10
Definitely get yourself out there and start going to activities once you and your LO get settled into life together! I personally found that going out 2-3 days a week was a nice balance for my LO, too many outings and she was over-stimulated and got out of routine prior to 4-5 months old. We took lots of walks with our dog and once she get older we would go to the park on nice days. We also went to a music group and had regular play dates.
It will be what you make it and the more you get yourself out there, the more you’ll enjoy it 🙂
Post # 11
I get bored sometimes. I try to get out of the house every day even if its raining, i wrap up warm and put the rain cover over the stroller and just walk. Fresh air does you both the world of good, helps children sleep better which is a bonus.
The first few months I felt disconnected with the world but i did have Post natal depression. Once i started going to groups I felt so much better.
We did baby massage in the early days and now do a baby sign language group on a monday, music group on a tuesday and swimming on a wednesday.
We go to the library where they do story time and our local garden centre has a soft play area that we go to alot.
I dont have many friends or family where I live to going to groups was important to me to not lose my mind.
As baby gets more active its sometimes easier to stay at home as they are quite capable of entertaining themselves.
I got myself an evening job 3 evenings a weeks after 7 months on maternity leave (i handed in my notice with my employer as didnt want to go back to work full time) and this has been fantastic to me. Im working in a bar and restaurant so i get plenty of adult conversation.
Make time for just you and you SO over the weekend too and when he gets home in the evening if its a reasonable time, get him to do the last feed of the night (if FF or perhaps pump for the last feed so SO can bottle feed??) and bath and story time. It really helps them connect with the baby when they have been at work all day. I know my DH felt left out at the very beginning.